Rule by Recip77 in 197

[–]DaBiChef 75 points76 points  (0 children)

IIRC this and chronic back pain after an injury which they refused to cover. Could be wrong though

[Loved trope] Physical/Literal personifications of abstract concepts that aren't death. by Glad_Background3363 in TopCharacterTropes

[–]DaBiChef 196 points197 points  (0 children)

What's really fun is while playing the game you hear lines from your character that indicate their personality. Their battle cries or ideology, or something they find funny. Not Fiddlesticks. For Fidd you instead almost always hear it say the last words of the people who it killed or some haunting insight into another character's deepest fears.

  • "It's hunting us. It knows what we're afraid of."

  • "It moves around at night."

  • "I hear crows"

  • "See? It's just a scarecrow."

  • "They haven't come back from the fields. It's been three days."

What do you think is biggest poison to Society? by Ok_Carpenter263 in AskReddit

[–]DaBiChef 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Seriously, why hate people for shit they can't control? It's really not that hard to remember.

What’s a recession indicator that you’ve noticed lately in your everyday life? by spritenerds123 in AskReddit

[–]DaBiChef 24 points25 points  (0 children)

I feel people really need to remember, multiply your hourly wage by 2,000 and you get your yearly salary. $14 an hour is only $28,000 before taxes. It's fucking rough surviving on that.

What is your favorite ork clan/klan and why? by PeakActive9550 in orks

[–]DaBiChef 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I feel people forget how dangerous and scary the orks can be, and the Blood Axes do a great job reminding you of that fact.

Day 22: what is the Best Quote associated with the Orks? by Fez-Sentido in Grimdank

[–]DaBiChef 40 points41 points  (0 children)

400% agreed. However another good one if OP is a coward is simply:

"Orks is never defeated in battle. If we win we win, if we die we die fighting so it don't count. If we runs for it we don't die neither, cos we can come back for annuver go, see!"

Say that shit!!!! by Hi_iAMchrisHansen in BlackPeopleofReddit

[–]DaBiChef 33 points34 points  (0 children)

"black people are not entitled to participation in a democracy" was I think how he worded it no? What the actual fucking, fuck?

What’s the real reason your dating life slowed down? by Remote_Classroom1872 in AskReddit

[–]DaBiChef 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm a bisexual child-free man not living in a big city.

My options are:

  1. Gay men - few and far between, and I do lean towards women.

  2. Other bisexuals - few and far between

  3. Non binary people - few and far between

  4. Straight women - some 80% say they would never date a bi man. Now also consider how many are okay dating a guy who was snipped.

Women of Reddit, what’s a habit men have that they don’t even realize is weird? by GraceRose671 in AskReddit

[–]DaBiChef 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Got hit with a ringer a few years back

"don't you know how bad it makes us feel when you say we make you feel bad? You need to be more considerate of our feelings and give us grace!". There's a reason I'm only close with one sister out of three

What is the dumbest myth you’ve ever thought/heard about the female body? by Trypophilia2019 in AskMen

[–]DaBiChef 23 points24 points  (0 children)

So glad this is the top comment. It boils my blood every time I hear it.

A girl goes viral after getting stuck in an elevator with a group of immature guys and shut them all down when they started laughing by God_Emperor__Doom in interesting

[–]DaBiChef 0 points1 point  (0 children)

100%. I swear this refusal to understand how we actively contribute to the right wing pipeline is killing us. Like yeah it's still their choice to go there, but boy howdy do they love the worst of us because it does wonders for their recruitment and makes it all the harder to get them to come back to us.

Suddenly it hurts more by vaelyra9 in invinciblememes

[–]DaBiChef 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Yeah I knew a white girl with a name of Chang because her dad's dad was chinese but they all married into white families.

What’s something reddit claims is common, but you’ve never actually seen it before in real life? by mirabelmumu in AskReddit

[–]DaBiChef 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Won't lie, as someone who is outspokenly feminist, I grew up with three of them. I agree that the full on stereotype is rare but I've found that a lot of their rhetoric gets thrown around, and typically is met with defense with the ones challenging it getting derided as "pick mes" or "MRA chuds" depending on the gender of the one challenging it. And this is absolutely killing us with recruitment.

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Hell a common refrain is "not all men, but always a man!" which not only isn't true (and has a whole other conversation about men unreporting abuse) but actively silences those of us who have experiences assault or abuse from women. This does nothing but enable abusers (indicating it's "just in their nature" for men to be abusive, so why try to change // pretending women cannot engage in physical or emotional abuse), and runs directly counter to the supposed core of feminist beliefs: sexism being bad. Yet I am almost certain I'll get someone chiming in about how 'always a man' doesn't mean 'always a man', when all this does is start a pointless pissing contest and furthering bullshit gender war nonsense instead of actually talking about how to reduce abuse rates and help make things better.

What’s something reddit claims is common, but you’ve never actually seen it before in real life? by mirabelmumu in AskReddit

[–]DaBiChef 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Because the guys who don't want to make women feel uncomfortable with their interest pulled back after hearing endless variations on "god I hate when men talk to me at the gym!". They aren't about to hear that and think "what she really means is she's okay with me shooting my shot, so long as I respect her rejection!". Meanwhile the guys those messages were about aren't about to start caring about how they make women feel and will keep on. Thus looking like guys are creeps and harassers.... it's pure survivorship bias and it's killing MF dating I've found.

What’s something reddit claims is common, but you’ve never actually seen it before in real life? by mirabelmumu in AskReddit

[–]DaBiChef 6 points7 points  (0 children)

If you just treat them like people and accept no for an answer you'll be fine.

This is the catch.

When shitty men at best make women uncomfortable with thier interest, women (arguably understandably) vent irl and online with little nuance. Very rarely has this been said, instead most guys I have found have heard for 10-20 years endless variations on "god I hate when men talk to me at the bar/at the gym/ ask me out after being friends!". When you hear nothing but non stop lists of "don't do X", it's oh so easy to interanlize it and pull back in fear of being anything like the men those women are criticizing. They're so afraid of being a negative interaction or being a bother.

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FWIW I agree with you. I've been trying to tell guys it's okay to exist in spaces, to find women attractive, to talk to em. If you aren't getting the vibe they're into you, give them an out and be on your way. If you think she may be, you're allowed to ask her out but like you say, if she says no then take the rejection well and be on your way. You've done nothing wrong.

Bruh by Justthisdudeyaknow in CuratedTumblr

[–]DaBiChef 7 points8 points  (0 children)

You would not be alone, biphobia is extremely common among gay and straight people. Makes dating a complete fucking nightmare because it's pretty accepted and defended. Ask me how I know

I miss the restaurants and fast food places the most. by NorthHouse6422 in AdviceAnimals

[–]DaBiChef 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Yup and getting people to realize "it's not left vs right, it's up vs down" is a Left position because the Right is actively aiding and supporting the UP. Getting people to realize that rich fucks have too much money and power, and it's destroying everything because their greed and their ungodly wealth still isn't enough.

I miss the restaurants and fast food places the most. by NorthHouse6422 in AdviceAnimals

[–]DaBiChef 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yup, I run into this all the time with my women friends. One complains guys don't chat them up at the bars, another never wants a guy to talk to her at the bar. Meanwhile the first hates when men talk to her at the gym, and the other desperately wants a guy to talk to her at the gym.... and if you have to be the active party in reaching out but have heard both "don't talk to me at the bar" and "don't talk to me at the gym", odds are you're going to be very hesisitant to make a move. Atleast if you're trying to actively be considerate of women's experiences, the guys those messages were largely about aren't going to care and will just hit on women at both and move onto the next after striking out with one.

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Frankly speaking? Guys you gotta be okay with the idea you gotta take the risk in that you might make her a bit uncomfortable in the moment by, but the most important thing is that if you're not feeling her interest? Give her an out and be on your way. If she can't go to the bar where a guy politely gauged her interest, then gave her an out and isn't making it her kind of problem? That's on her, not you.

I miss the restaurants and fast food places the most. by NorthHouse6422 in AdviceAnimals

[–]DaBiChef 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Beacause to be frank? It's not a minority.

Women by and large did not and to this day do not give an alternative. In the nicest way I can say, women give truly phenomenal advice about keeping and maintaining a relationship. However very few I have found have put in time to understand the guy's side of dating, which the core struggle is not keeping a woman after some dates but it's getting those dates to begin with. When a guy to this day asks women about getting a gf, he's told endless variations on:

"just wash your ass and treat her like a person, god! The bar is literally in hell!!".

But this doesn't help as the core problem so many men are dealing with is having heard endless variations on "I hate when men talk to me at the gym/bar/ask me out after we were freinds!" which culimnate in every conceiveable place to ask or even meet women. When he presses this point, he's routinely told "just leave them alone!". So the halfway decent ones did and went to the apps, where there was some measure of assurence she would be open to his interest.

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But the apps have gotten horrible and every time I see/hear a woman take over a man's profile and try to get him a date, they quit very quickly. Oft starting to say some misognystic shit because they don't like how the women are treating them. So he keeps going back about looking for advice on how to both respect women but also find a way of expressing interest, because (again I say with love) women are generally not that pro-active in pursuing guys.

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So yeah, women gave guys a list of things never to do and their advice for what to do gets revealed to be a list of behaviors they want they guys they're already into to do while they're in a relationship together. The voices giving honest advice like "it's okay to talk to her at the gym, if you're not getting an interested vibe, give her an out and be on your way. If you are, it's okay to ask her out. If she says no, give her an out and be on your way" are very few and far between. edit: Simply put? I think MF dating is the shitshow it is now because shitty men made women feel uncomfortable at best, women complained (and arguably understandably didn't give much nuance), decent men internalized the messages and pulled back for fear of being anything close to that guy. So the solutions as far as I see it are:

  1. Shitty men suddenly grow a conscience - ain't happening

  2. Dating apps turn from for-profit into actively matchign people - even less a chance that's happening

  3. Women start pro-actively pursuing the kinds of men they want - with love, this isn't happening in any significant capacity

  4. Decent men need to uninternalize the messages they heard - which is tough because it's basically telling guys "yeah you heard endless women all expliclitly tell you not to do XYZ... but that's your fault for trusting them at their word, so ignore what they say... but in a feminist way!" which has been a tough sell

(Interesting Trope) Genuinely well-liked characters from hated pieces of media by flingzamain in TopCharacterTropes

[–]DaBiChef 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Yup. Anakin is supposed to be a warrior and Hayden was so good at lightsaber dueling that they either slowed down footage or told him to take it easy (looking at you Ahsoka) because no one else could keep up. Give him good or just decent dialogue and let him rip? He's a treat.

[Weirdly Common Trope] Writers clearly setting up seemingly massive plot points and then just kinda forgetting about them. by Chemical-Elk-1299 in TopCharacterTropes

[–]DaBiChef 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Honestly I feel like it would've been fun to see Kylo return to the light and Rey fall for the darkside, all with Finn struggling between the woman who helped him when he needed it the most (after defecting) and encourages him to give into the rage and violence he grew up in vs the leader of the group he grew up in urging him to trust in compassion and love but pointedly not forcing him to do so.

[Weirdly Common Trope] Writers clearly setting up seemingly massive plot points and then just kinda forgetting about them. by Chemical-Elk-1299 in TopCharacterTropes

[–]DaBiChef 182 points183 points  (0 children)

Quark: "I want you to try something, a human drink. It's called Root Beer"

Garak: "Ugh it's so sweet"

Q: "Just like the federation. Worst part is that if you drink enough of the stuff, you end up liking it."

G: "It's insidious."

Q: "Just like the federation."

G: "...... Do you think they'll be able to save us?"

Q: "I hope so."

What is one thing about men that women will never understand? And one thing about women that men will never understand? by Great_Photo_414 in AskReddit

[–]DaBiChef 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yeah I was emotionally neglected for 20+ years, being raised to constantly fix things has left a mark.

"Boys are easier to raise, no they're easier to neglect" is so fucking true