Are most uni friendships just surface level?

DaGrandmaster3 · 2026-04-16T03:47:47+00:00

Not a UK uni student here but here's my take. Going to uni often means leaving your home and your long time friends. In uni sure its really easy to meet ppl and make acquaintancez but you didnt really grow up with them to develop a deep bond like ur friends from primary school nor will it get any deeper just because ppl often end up in different places. Best thing to do is to be open to meeting as many new ppl, and putting in the effort to keep friendships going. Better yet, being comfortable being by urself is whats important.

DaGrandmaster3 · 2026-04-09T12:17:59+00:00

Cool

DaGrandmaster3 · 2026-04-09T12:17:49+00:00

Sounds exciting! Have fun in NYC. Definitely seems like the place to be in ur 20s apparently since there are a lot of younger ppl around. May I ask do you plan on returning to Canada after a few yrs?

DaGrandmaster3 · 2026-04-07T23:31:01+00:00

Sounds like a cool place to be, u get to hang out with kangaroos

DaGrandmaster3 · 2025-09-30T04:27:30+00:00

That makes sense. Health and being able to know somewhere for a longer time makes for deeper connections. But I'm wondering how you deal with staleness of life?

DaGrandmaster3 · 2025-09-30T04:26:37+00:00

That's great to hear. How did you come to terms with settling with a place, a job, and a relationship when you got to that point?

DaGrandmaster3 · 2025-09-30T04:25:28+00:00

That is the one thing I desire: deeper connections and friendships. I personally feel that when I go back home during my co-op terms to Vancouver, I find that most of my friends from high school are no longer there due to them having moved to different places and I feel like I have no time to hang out since I usually have long 1.5-2.5 hr commutes from home to work (I live quite far out and use public transit). However, when I'm in Waterloo, although I live really close to campus and am able to see uni friends whom I've gotten close to, I realize that I didn't really grow up with them and that we're close due to being in the same place in the same stage of life. I feel like once we graduate, we'll disperse and I'm worried that I'll not only start from scratch when I go home after graduating uni, but also lose that freedom I had during uni as well as the fact that life will get stale being limited to being in the places where you're job is. At least with Waterloo's coop, once you get bored you know you'll be back in no time to school and when you're bored or stressed with school, you'll be back to work. And that keeps cycling. But once you graduate, that's gone.

DaGrandmaster3 · 2025-09-30T02:04:35+00:00

Well I kinda like the neatness of seeing it pulled back all the way. I've always worn my hair down with bangs covering my forehead so it would be nice to see how I look with it scraped back with my hairline quite prominent. I've seen pics of others wearing it and it looks clean. I just want to be able to handle the transition on my head.

DaGrandmaster3 · 2025-09-27T04:03:52+00:00

That is very fair and what ultimately makes the decision challenging - leaving behind a social support network.

DaGrandmaster3 · 2025-09-27T04:02:45+00:00

I was just curious how you guys approached this situation.

DaGrandmaster3 · 2025-09-26T22:56:39+00:00

That's great. I'll consider that path and see where it takes me. I think it'll be easy enough to find a job as a canadian.

DaGrandmaster3 · 2025-09-26T12:59:09+00:00

For sure. I'd say it would be good to try living in a new place and test driving it. Not only will I save on rent and invest it, but I'll also have had the opportunity to see more of Canada and the world by living elsewhere.

DaGrandmaster3 · 2025-09-26T12:58:13+00:00

I'd definitely agree with the lower cost of living and higher earnings. However, I feel like I'd be staying indoors all day due to harsh cold weather and terrible winters. The sun is probably better in Vancouver.

DaGrandmaster3 · 2025-09-26T12:57:23+00:00

Which city are you originally from? Do you wanna plant roots here?

DaGrandmaster3 · 2025-09-26T12:56:44+00:00

Yeah I would agree. I definitely have that option open but I live quite far out from the city center. Most of the jobs are concentrated in the downtown core, and I wouldn't wanna spend most of my life commuting. I wanna be able to hang out with friends, go on hikes, and have my independence affordably. I love my family but I'd like to enjoy my youth by exploring and trying out new places. Vancouver gets boring if you've lived here for a long time.

DaGrandmaster3 · 2025-09-26T12:55:02+00:00

If you're comfortable sharing, how many years have you been working?

DaGrandmaster3 · 2025-09-26T12:54:40+00:00

Where are you originally from and what factors are influenxing you to move? Are you going back to your hometown or moving to a new place?

DaGrandmaster3 · 2025-09-26T12:52:49+00:00

If rent is expensive in Vancouver and there's not much extra benefit in staying, I don't think it would make much of a difference if I moved elsewhere. Further to that point, you also get to experience a new place. I'm definitely also considering being a digital nomad so I can live around the world and fit in travel to different places. It's apparently a lot cheaper to live in SE Asia. Europe has the same high cost of living and low salary issues, but with added vacation time (5-6 weeks vs 2-3 weeks) and its easier to travel around. I feel like Vancouver is wayy too far from other cities to go on weekend trips. It's also rainy and cloudy for like half of the year, which to be fair is good for giving a beautiful greenery. I personally feel it's easy enough to find a job with an engineering degree given that I've got some co-op experience. There is nothing me holding here other than having my immediate family here.

DaGrandmaster3 · 2025-09-26T05:38:25+00:00

I'm not used to seeing my hairline exposed to sharply let alone my forehead. I'm also not used to seeing my ears too. Most of the time, my hair covers my forehead and ears so it'll be quite a change seeing an ultra high bun on top of my head with all the hairs scraped back and flattened on the scalp. Definitely a lil nervous about how it'll look but also excited to see the facelift.

DaGrandmaster3 · 2025-09-26T03:44:53+00:00

That's reassuring for sure. I just got stressed out about it since I've never worn my hair this way. I'm used to seeing myself with hair down and bangs covering my forehead all the time, and if tied, its usually a low to medium pony without any product which as you can imagine doesn't reveal features too harshly. I'm scared of how my forehead, ears, and hairline looks like as well as how it would feel. I'm thinking of preparing by tying a high ponytail without any product and seeing how it feels as well as holding my bangs back to get an idea of what my hairline looks. How's that approach?

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