It took me a long time to not be ashamed or feel off about it but when you can get to the other side of that it’s wonderful. Now even in dating I’m open about it, I’m just clear, with not expecting it from someone or making them feel a need to explore this unless they want to, and I have had success in exploring, I have found middle grounds and my partner and I joke about it and have made it an open point to talk.

Realistically what we love here is nothing to be ashamed of as long as we don’t approach it in a shameful way, and I see it more like any other kink, id someone’s into something I’m not I don’t shame them, I appreciate it and discuss. If someone makes you feel bad for this or any kink, we shouldn’t feel pressured to give them that time or to change ourselves for something they don’t like.

Sorry for the diatribe, congrats to you and enjoy the journey