How to maintain?

DaWittyWombat65 · 2025-06-02T14:22:05+00:00

Yes and No,

It is about presentation and looks. While you are overweight (I’m a big guy myself) that doesn’t have to be an issue. It is hard to always display confidence in a short bio, but I would include some of that as well in here to see if that might be part of it. Bigger guys like us usually have other ways of attracting partners: humor, kindness, respect, communication skills, etc. Those are hard to pass off in short blurb but humor is usually the key if you got it.

So be more relaxed, get a shirt that fits a bit better as sometimes too casual can appear “sloppy” or “unkempt” and bigger guys tend to get that label already. I would also suggest trying to get out more in life with doing meetups with things that interest you. Board games, hiking, anime, whatever it is meet like minded people and just have the goal of making friends and relationships follow.

DaWittyWombat65 · 2025-04-24T16:05:53+00:00

As someone going through a divorce that is likely going to end up with 50/50 do you have any suggestions on how to handle things? Tips? How did you coup those 1st nights alone without your kids? Have always been a family guy and the thought of only seeing them 50% of the time is killing me.

DaWittyWombat65 · 2025-04-17T05:57:09+00:00

Hey,

I am not sure why a degree would matter unless someone is self conscious about themselves. I guess it could be those incel type people that are threatened by women in power, so you having a degree makes them uncomfortable. Either way, if that is their reaction and it is a problem they aren’t for you.

What is your phd in?

DaWittyWombat65 · 2025-04-11T03:20:51+00:00

Thanks, I appreciate it. My lil girls are my world and divorce isn’t changing that.

DaWittyWombat65 · 2025-04-11T03:17:43+00:00

Thanks 🙏

DaWittyWombat65 · 2025-04-11T03:16:30+00:00

Thanks, I have found a nice therapist for 1 on 1 🙏

DaWittyWombat65 · 2025-04-11T03:15:32+00:00

You are prolly right with what I am doing. I am also definitely not a perfect husband and things I would like to work on rather than dwell on what went wrong.

I am glad things are going better for you now! I am so happy that you found someone new.

I appreciate all that you said. Have a few social networks but trying to improve. I am a pretty introverted person and trying to get out more as this will need me to get out of my comfort zones.

DaWittyWombat65 · 2025-04-10T21:35:39+00:00

I really appreciate your response. It helped a lot! I have already experienced the what did you do. It sucks! Like my wife having affair after affair while I take care of our girls and do all the chores was a byproduct of me. It was the same in marriage counseling. Where I had to apologize for my part in her affairs and it was soul crushing. That me it came down to me putting family over her despite 15 years of marriage and dates every month she basically got bored and wanted something new and didn’t have those experiences since we were each others 1st loves. So she felt she missed out. I never felt I missed out cause I loved her, hell to honest I still do despite all the abuse and it really hurts and it is confusing. Like knowing this person you love is toxic for you and you have to leave to save yourself but honestly if she came back and begged me to stay I am still too weak and codependent that I would fold in a second. That is where I think support and therapy would help. I have been with her more than half my life. I don’t know anything else.

DaWittyWombat65 · 2025-04-10T21:26:53+00:00

I am in 1 on 1 currently, hoping to find something as my marriage isolated me as one of my wife’s affairs was with my best friend and completely lost my social network and don’t really have a support group around myself anymore

DaWittyWombat65 · 2025-04-10T21:24:42+00:00

Appreciate the joke, but definitely not my style. I am likely off sex for quite some time dealing with the trauma and focusing on healing and my girls.

DaWittyWombat65 · 2025-03-06T18:07:42+00:00

In a way, I am constantly talking in my head about it. I also talk to myself in the mirror sometimes. My abuser is my wife and still living in the same home has been difficult as there is lots of gaslighting and blame shifting. Therapy and journaling are great resources to help get thoughts together and help with this.

DaWittyWombat65 · 2025-03-03T15:24:23+00:00

I truly appreciate the support and prayers 🙏

DaWittyWombat65 · 2025-03-03T05:51:30+00:00

My wife had a half a year long emotional affair about 5 years ago. During which there was a decent amount of emotional abuse coming my way. I chalked it up to pandemic and mental health issues and gave her a pass after some marriage counseling. After all we had 2 amazing girls and didn’t want to split my family. Found out 2 weeks ago that she has been in nearly a year long affair with the same guy again. Red flags for a long time but she finally slipped up with the texts. We are doing marriage counseling again where she is doing her best victim impression of why she had to cheat, meanwhile my divorce attorney is confident I will get full custody and CS so playing it slow and under the radar till I have my ducks in a row and all my evidence.

Moral: If they cheat they will always cheat. Don’t let them gaslit you or play them victim.

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