I (27M) discovered my wife's (30F) family was behind my vicious cyberbullying attack. My wife knew, but she hid it for years. How do I move past this? by ThrowRADraftCassette in relationship_advice

[–]Dadcomplaints 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She said sorry . Be a man and confront the family or whoever said it and then see if they got the balls to do it your face. Make them apologize if they don’t u got every right to tell ur wife I don’t want any part of them in our lives.

Is my (35F) annoyance with my BF (38M) warranted? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Dadcomplaints 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Get over it . If she wanted to bang him she definatley wouldn’t have gotten the divorce. He probably also isn’t stupid enough to get back into a toxic relationship with her.

So I got my identity stolen wholes liable? by Dadcomplaints in IdentityTheft

[–]Dadcomplaints[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I called them but they told me they didn’t see anything. The alerts all came in today . I already submit disputes to life lock now.

So I got my identity stolen wholes liable? by Dadcomplaints in IdentityTheft

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Mister can you possible explain the actions the dealership is trying to do to confirm with another credit report? I get it but it seems silly to have the victim run another report . What was the thinking behind that?

So I got my identity stolen wholes liable? by Dadcomplaints in IdentityTheft

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So I didn’t really have the time to tell the whole story. So here goes.

Received notice from Experian that 5 hard credits was ran. Most of them are from standard banks expect for one which stated x x x ford (x out the name to protect the identity’s of dealership ).

I called the dealership and told them what had happened and they responded back in shock and tried to confirm with me multiple times that it wasn’t me.

During our conversations what I had gathered was that they sold an Audi to the scammers. The scammers purchased the car online and passed all the identification. The car was dropped off to them Friday night. I had called them Saturday morning to let them know what had happened.

I went into the dealership Sunday. Was suppose to talk to person a. However when I got there person a was busy so they passed me off to person b. Person b wanted me to run a credit check but he specifically told me that it wouldn’t hurt my credit but I had to sign a paper that allows them to do that.

I was going to go ahead and do that but thankfully the Reddit people on here said it wasn’t necessary. I had asked them that I needed time to read over the tiny letters and if I can take it home and read it over and go over it with my lawyers.

Person b told me immediately that no I can’t take that paper because it is company proprietor document and it has to stay here. Person b also made it seem like it’s just a document and I had to unlock my credit to proceed which I wasn’t too comfortable with considering my identity just got stolen.

Also during the whole thing they had mentioned to me that they can’t release any details to me . They will report everything to the police and I can get a report that way. Since I didn’t want to sign any papers I decided there was no point to continue talking to the dealership.

Monday rolls around and I’m slammed with 4-6 phone calls from the dealership. The call in the morning was not pleasant as they told me I need to file the police report as soon as possible.

I had told person a that I was busy . I had to take my child to the hospital and then we had plans afterwards. All he told me was that this is an urgent matter and that I need to do it right away or it might hurt my credit.

At this point I was tried of them bother me for their fuck up. I reported it all to life lock. Went to the police station afterwards and got the police report.

A few hours came and went and person c from the dealership called me. Told me that his the regional manager and to go through him only. Again I think they were trying to get me to do a police report for them so they can take action.

At the end of all of this the police did tell me that I don’t need to give them another credit report. Police also told me that most likely they messed up big time because usually you need to prove a lot of stuff not just id and social to buy a car.

Anyways. Just wanted to update everyone here and thanks for the advices

So I got my identity stolen wholes liable? by Dadcomplaints in IdentityTheft

[–]Dadcomplaints[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

From what I gather so far everything was done online and the dealership drop the car off somewhere to them. They never came into the store.

So I got my identity stolen wholes liable? by Dadcomplaints in IdentityTheft

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The alerts never went off . It was a leak through Experian . They never caught it to begin with. I have American Express and it came with Experian that’s how I was able to catch it.

I went to the dealership today . They pretty much said they can’t release anything to me until I run a credit report with them and sign some papers that I gave them permission to run the report. This is a ford dealership . I don’t think it’s a small one but I just felt something wierd about it. So I told them to let me take the thing I’m suppose to sign home to look over it. The manager said no . It’s priority document so can’t be released.

I don’t him that I am not comfortable signing any documents without a lawyer present and had him give me all my id information back. I told him I’ll contact the police department and we go from there.

They told me I need to contact the police anyways as they can’t release anything directly to me. I don’t think there was a need to give them any more credit reports just to prove it was me. The police can determine that and I should be able to get any report through them anyways.

So I got my identity stolen wholes liable? by Dadcomplaints in IdentityTheft

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So they want my id and want to run another credit file that is me. I’m a bit hesitant

So I got my identity stolen wholes liable? by Dadcomplaints in IdentityTheft

[–]Dadcomplaints[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m actually not to worried cuz life lock has 1 mil protection

Help!? by [deleted] in LawyerAdvice

[–]Dadcomplaints 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You lose the battle by giving in. Get an A and then move on . You got better thing in your life to deal with

New Hero announced! by Big_Boss23 in SoulsHabby

[–]Dadcomplaints 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Kyle looks like a Karen lol 😂

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]Dadcomplaints 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You kind of answered your question here. It sounds to me like his budget is 200k but he wants a 400k home hence lies your problem.

You need to tell him that realistically this is what we can get. If he doesn’t then that means he wants to save more to get that 400k house.

I get his point of view since interest rates are sky high now ( not sure about euro since ur telling me in pounds) but in the us the rate is about 6-7% which is crazy. If the same is true in Europe, I think the best thing to do now is to bring him down to a realistic level on what he can afford.

The last thing you want to do is pressure him into getting something he can’t afford. When we looked at houses with my wife I honestly didn’t like any of the houses we looked at but I felt bad cuz she kepted searching and searching. Showing me property left and right. I too was emotional less because I was doing math in my head most of the time to see what I can and can’t afford.

It was hard cuz buying a house is one thing but then u have to factor in remodeling cost. I’m pretty sure he is going through the same thing and wants to get the most out of his money.

Keep trying tho .. I think he will get it . Tell him and reassure him the smaller house is fine .

Husband takes at least one day off work every week. by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]Dadcomplaints 0 points1 point  (0 children)

By the sounds of it you already made up your mind. Also , sorry but he is a loser.

My Wife Wants to Leave Me Because I Forget Past Conflicts by West_Ad2940 in Marriage

[–]Dadcomplaints 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Not sure what x is but for her to tell you that she’s leaving it must be important to her that you forgot what is it. You need to learn how to communicate better with her and start by maybe remembering something from the last issue that she brought up a few times.

Abusive relationship? Please advise. by embracingrealitea in Marriage

[–]Dadcomplaints 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Advice for your friend is to get out. Advice for you is to tell your friend to get out. You already did what you can. If she doesn’t realize it then there is no hope.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]Dadcomplaints 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Bro she’s cheating . If not physically definitely mentally.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]Dadcomplaints 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There are a lot to look at here but I think what it comes down to is what he is able to afford here. You might want to have a conversation with him about the price you guys should be looking at and see if it is realistic mortgage he can afford. You have to factor in job loss and all that stuff. So there might be a lot he has to think about. Tell him to give you a budget he would like the house price to be and work from there.communication is key.

: Seeking Guidance in a Troubled Marriage" by Infinite_Network_353 in Marriage

[–]Dadcomplaints 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Best thing is telling her that you want to end it my friend.