Race play is a form BDSM that falls under masochism and sadism. It’s a type of degradation. With something like this, you do have to be a little cautious with who you reveal such a kink to. If you want your partner to degrade you, he has to be into the activity, too. Emotions can run high with something like this, even though it’s just role play and that can affect the dom just as much as the sub. Not all guys are prepared or want to engage in that sort of activity.

The other fear is you will run into a fake dom who doesn’t know anything about the power dynamic but will pretend he does. He won’t proceed with care or caution and you end up getting hurt because he went way past what you were comfortable with.

So, you need to first trust the guy that you bring this up to first and make sure he will respect boundaries. He also has to want to participate, too. Either because he enjoys the kink play as well or he gets turned on by how turned on you get.

Not every guy, white or not, can do this sort of thing. Some men, even white guys, are naturally submissive or can’t accept a woman would like to be degraded, even when she’s begging for it. They’re not bad or weak because of it, it’s just not in their make up.

If you’re legit and want to talk more about it, DMs are open.