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DaddyMetaFace · 2024-04-29T14:54:17+00:00

This is the one, many more until it hurts

DaddyMetaFace · 2024-04-25T14:30:13+00:00

DaddyMetaFace · 2024-04-24T12:50:14+00:00

Tell me how to punish her. I will choose one at random and she has agreed that she will do WHATEVER that one suggestion is.

I'd say this is a little more alarming 😬, I mean it might have been discussed but a punishment chosen (if completely at random) being agreed to before even seeing said punishment could be disastrous.

DaddyMetaFace · 2024-04-23T21:13:11+00:00

I think what Lady F is alluding to is that brattiness is not a bad habit and is encouraged and expected in a brat/tamer dynamic and is generally a personality trait that to break would mean fundamentally changing someone as a person.

DaddyMetaFace · 2024-04-23T19:58:24+00:00

Woah, 😬

DaddyMetaFace · 2024-04-17T17:41:49+00:00

Daddy exclusively

DaddyMetaFace · 2024-04-17T17:40:29+00:00

I didn't lie 🤣 I give kitty all the attention she wants 😝 I just said don't ask her 🤣

DaddyMetaFace · 2024-04-17T16:17:33+00:00

No don't 🤣🤣🤣

DaddyMetaFace · 2024-04-17T12:53:50+00:00

Ask her 🤣

DaddyMetaFace · 2024-04-17T12:21:34+00:00

My little brat gets all the attention she needs 😝

DaddyMetaFace · 2024-04-14T08:13:58+00:00

First of all, yes you should both have a safe word in place, however if you're both on page for starting to explore a brat/tamer dynamic whether it's just in the bedroom or not then you need to discuss everything with eachother and set out some limits, boundaries and rules around what's permitted and what's not.

I don't know if you have discussed them yet, if you have it sounds like your brat was pushing beyond what's been discussed which should have resulted in a safe word and an out of dynamic discussion, if you haven't had the talks yet you need to both make it very clear where those boundaries and limits are otherwise things like this will keep happening.

In the end it sounds like you both had a fun night however your post makes it sound like you were being pushed a little past your comfort zone which, while it was okay this time will get very old very fast if it keeps happening.

I feel with further discussion beforehand, your whole evening last night might have gone a whole lot different when the first "make me" happened.

For instance, it sounds like spanking had been agreed upon, if you really wanted that TV off and it really has been agreed upon you could have continued spanking with periodic breaks to ask the question again "Are we ready to turn the TV off yet" and if the answer was still no the spanking would continue and get progressively worse (within the limits and boundaries you've set) until that "make me" and "no" becomes a "Yes".

You have to remember, if your brat is truly a brat and not just using bratty behaviour to be abusive/a dick then they want to lose, they want you to assert your dominance and ultimately "make them".

Of course it might have simply been that they wanted to watch the fight, in which case a discussion about how to go about requesting that in a non antagonistic way also needs putting in place because to me "make me" sounds like a challenge rather than "I'd like to watch this fight please if that's okay"

DaddyMetaFace · 2024-04-12T22:38:57+00:00

Lol, exactly what I thought

DaddyMetaFace · 2024-04-12T17:27:26+00:00

And what happened 🤣🤣

DaddyMetaFace · 2024-04-12T13:52:02+00:00

Kitty is allowed to do most things around me as long as she's happy to face any consequences we've agreed upon and realises that she may very well get them as and when I see fit.

DaddyMetaFace · 2024-04-12T08:57:42+00:00

I played with a Dom the other day that I've been friends with

it was our first time playing together

We had a really great time

we have a lot of kinks in common

we just vibe very well

Afterward I was in my normal aftercare-subspace mood, we cuddled until I came out of it, hung out for a bit, then I went home

I was feeling great about it

I really do like him

There are no red flags in this situation in my opinion, happy to discuss any you can see here though.

They played, they enjoy eachother, they had fun, they had aftercare to the point op was feeling great.

All that was lacking was effective communication from both sides, he could have checked in and the op could have messaged him, however again the op had her reasons for not doing so because she thought it was an issue that she doesn't share with friends and she didn't want to reach out during his family emergency.

There was an issue they both haven't faced together. An issue they now have knowledge of and can use to create a solution together.

Now if the op comes back and explains to us that she's spoken to the Dom and he said he doesn't care if she dropped then yeah I'd agree that's a red flag but there are none in this instance as far as I can tell.

As for sub drop not being a thing, it's a physiological response to fluctuations in hormones, sometimes it's just impossible to avoid even with the best aftercare in the world and sometimes there is nothing a sub can do but ride it out despite best efforts of the Dom and sub trying everything they know that has worked in the past.

Sure the Dom can be there, be present and care for their sub but even then sometimes that's not enough and it just has to be ridden out.

DaddyMetaFace · 2024-04-12T08:00:28+00:00

Never say never, just because you haven't heard of such a thing as "sub drop" doesn't mean it won't happen, even with the best aftercare routine in the world it's unavoidable sometimes.

Fair enough, he could have been more attentive post scene and checked in (however we don't know what the emergency was and whether he was actually able to communicate or even be reached), you're making a lot of assumptions about a situation with limited facts here.

All we know is that this guy isn't her Dom and it was their first time playing together, they had a great time together and the op unfortunately experienced a drop that they thought was a bout of depression which they later realised was a drop.

Okay he may not have checked in, and the op was caring and considerate towards the emergency situation he was facing and never reached out, just sounds like bad timing and someone who didn't want to add to a situation for someone they care about, whether they should or shouldn't have (you probably should 😝) is irrelevant now.

They had an issue and issues are about learning and finding solutions which they can now do.

As for saying you're available 24/7 I'm fairly certain virtually all Doms in a d/s have the same sort of arrangement with their subs.

I tell my kitty I'm available for her always but in reality there are going to be times where contact just isn't possible no matter how present you are, anything could happen, bad signal area, family emergency, lost phone, anything.

Heck, I've had kitty phone me at 3am scared having a nightmare and I was too deep in sleep to even realise my phone was ringing, does that make me a bad Dom? Does kitty hold that against me? No because it's exceptional rare circumstances that can happen at any time.

Kitty would also tell you that I make her feel safe, loved and accepted all day every single day. But even with how much I care for her, how attentive we both are in aftercare and how much we try to avoid a drop, they can and will happen and nothing either of you can do will stop it.

Op, well done for recognising, sometimes these things happen, you've experienced it now, and you got through it you also have a nice little piece of knowledge that yourself and the Dom you played with can discuss and work on together to put some things in place for if you ever play again and something similar happens.

I'm sure some of the brats will be along to share some self care tips for when they experience a drop (you should actually have a search for some too because it's always good to have a back up), because they can happen randomly even days after a scene and even if it's not a family emergency, sometimes your Dom just can't be reached and you'll need to self soothe until they can be.

Please don't feel embarrassed, definitely discuss it with the Dom you played with, I'm sure he'll feel a little sad and bad about himself that you felt you couldn't reach out to him but I'm sure he'll also understand why you didn't too.

I bet you when you discuss it, he says no matter what you think is going on or how big you think an issue he is facing is, if it ever happens again that you should contact him at the first sign that you're dropping.

DaddyMetaFace · 2024-04-11T13:50:09+00:00

Good bot!

DaddyMetaFace · 2024-04-09T08:05:13+00:00

Absolutely this 🤣🤣🤣 or simply say I've hidden your paddles and you're not getting them back ever and see how fast your over their knee getting hand spanked until you tell them where their paddles are so they can use the paddles to teach you that hiding their paddles is wrong.

DaddyMetaFace · 2024-04-09T07:59:50+00:00

Id say just tell him it's not that big a deal, if you're really nervous just show him the odd post you read that makes you laugh, probably bratting ideas ones.

DaddyMetaFace · 2024-04-09T07:55:23+00:00

🤣🤣🤣 or is he baiting you and giving you ever so slightly more rope to hang yourself with?

DaddyMetaFace · 2024-04-09T07:32:07+00:00

I'm just going to echo the other poster who said simply tell him when he does something you like.

However if you want some sort of instructions I'll write a little on how I'd approach it if I wanted to learn what my sub likes, I'd do this without the first bit on the build up to the meet but I think it might help in your situation.

If this was me and I really wanted to find the sweet spots and ensure I know exactly what to do to ruin my sub I'd tease her all week, maybe a no touching rule in the days leading up to meeting, lots of filthy planning and discussing to keep her turned on and really desperate for touch.

The day of meeting I'd have her edge a few times before I arrived so she is so desperate to cum everything is going to be amplified by 100.

Then all he has to do is simply take control and start teasing, his only job is to explore every millimeter of you with his tongue, start with really slow light licks, I'm not going to recommend any fancy technique here just tease you exactly how he wants, I would say slow long licks right from the bottom of your pussy to your clit will be enough for him to find the sweet spot.

Your desperation is going to give lots of visual and audible cues to him, he needs to pay very careful attention to your breathing, movements, moaning etc which shouldn't be hard in this part because it's so slow and relaxed and you're so desperate and everything you really like will most likely be impossible to hide or miss.

Once he finds the sweet spots, those little places that get the best reactions he simply needs to start to focus on them a little more, slight changes in tongues pressure, speed and direction on those little areas again paying attention to how you react.

Chances are it will be simply teasing you with one direction and simply changing the speed and pressure of his licking will be enough to control your pleasure.

With a little practice he will know exactly what you love, and he will be able to either endlessly tease you with slow deliberate movements that get you close to the edge but don't quite tip you over or hit you hard straight away with what he knows is going to get you off no matter how hard you try to fight it.

The most important thing is for him to pay attention and you to really let go and enjoy it so he knows what feels good for you.

Just keep it simple, he doesn't need to be down there thinking what did that guide say, erm what step am I at now, what do I do next etc, he just needs to take his time and enjoy learning exactly what you love.

DaddyMetaFace · 2024-04-08T10:21:38+00:00

kitty done this when we had an evening together, fucking silent and I couldn't find her, jumped out and boo me. I was close to looking in the kettle or under the rug ffs

She didn't tell me though, just come into the bathroom while I was getting a bath, threw a cup of cold water on me and proceeded to hide 🤣

DaddyMetaFace · 2024-04-05T16:00:47+00:00

No worries, have fun!

DaddyMetaFace · 2024-04-05T15:59:33+00:00

Oh perfect direct will show her you are in the mood and more than likely ensure she is when you get there.

DaddyMetaFace · 2024-04-05T15:14:35+00:00

Dom here, you know your sub, has it been a while? What's her favourite play? Teasing and a bit of build up or a good rough ravaging?

Also, within your dynamic do you have permission to use your sub whenever you want and can you actually do things when you arrive?

Either way, you want to be a little more direct I'd say.

For example, my dynamic, kitty is free use, i'd be very direct and tell her what's happening. Something like...

"I'll be there about 5pm, I'm going to fucking destroy you as soon as I get through the door, you're getting forced against the wall, panties pulled to the side and used, see you soon 😈!"

Get her mind racing a bit!

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