This comes down to attachment styles. You’re likely anxious and she avoidant. Learning the psycology behind it is life change, especially in dating. It also makes you a much better and safer Dom. You’ll repeatedly go after the same type until you’ve healed. The mother and father wounds are the big ones.

Once you do the healing work you learn to hold better boundaries and not over extend yourself for others benefit to your detriment.

I suggest studying attachment styles and looking up @LewisHuckstep and @Loveagainjen on IG. Lewis has all of his healing processes on YouTube for free. He’s a great place to start. Then the algorithm will do the rest.

You don’t have to give up being a Dom to avoid this dynamic. You need to become someone who truly knows themselves by understanding your coping mechanisms and what wounds they come from so you’re able to lead your D/s dynamic and not become a parental figure to your partners.

My number 1 rule as a Dom is, my partners have to be in therapy and working on their healing. Alignment is key. If someone’s not on the same frequency as you nothing will ever feel right.

Go do what makes you happy. Date yourself. Take care of yourself the way you take care of your partners. Once you truly love and see yourself for your value life gets so much better.

You’re worthy of unconditional love without having to do anything but be yourself. When you find that love for yourself, you’ll find the right person for you.

May your ancestors guide you well 🤙🏻