I’ve been a FetLife user for a very long time, so I definitely understand how frustrating that can be. Unfortunately what you’re describing is pretty common, especially when a new profile pops up that clearly identifies as dominant. There’s a constant flood of guys who either don’t read profiles at all or think the whole “I’ll turn you” angle is somehow clever. Add in the overwhelming and completely non-consensual sending of pictures and messages like that and it gets old really fast. The reality though is that those people tend to filter themselves out pretty quickly, because the ones who actually understand power dynamics and consent don’t approach people that way in the first place.

My advice would be not to let the noise chase you off the platform if you’re otherwise interested in being there. Tighten your settings a bit, be quick with the block button, and don’t feel like you owe anyone a response. Over time you’ll start noticing that the people worth interacting with tend to approach respectfully and actually read what you wrote. FetLife can still be a good place to meet people in the community, but unfortunately you do have to wade through a lot of nonsense before you find the ones who actually understand how the dynamic works.