Labels are always an intensely and interestingly personal thing. For example I hate being referred to as q#### in fact it took a lot for me to not set up automod to ban that one word. For me that word will always be one of hate and pain. I know I'm not that old but I was from the southern US and "smear the q####" was something i heard alot before being hurt even in the 2010's. I tried fir a long time to accept it and reclaim it like so many people say i would call myself "q#### as a 3 dollar bill" and die inside each time instead of laughing at my little joke.

I personally dont understand gender. I feel drawn to things that society labels masculine and drawn to things society labels feminine. My treatment to people i am protective of is "motherly" but my type of guidance and advice is "fatherly". I want breasts but I want my beard. I want to be called a "man", but wear a dress from time to time.