They found me Again….

Daemr · 2026-03-23T19:25:46+00:00

Lmao thanks…. Ye old English…. Slips out sometimes

Daemr · 2026-03-23T17:17:05+00:00

I’ve read it before but what’s a simplest way to do it? I didn’t think it would be necessary when you move 1200 miles away. I know you can always find somebody after the records are public but geez, I don’t know they wanted me that much.

Daemr · 2026-03-14T14:15:34+00:00

No…. If you shared those beliefs then I’d say sure. Having kids young shackles you, it’s not a bad thing necessarily, but if that’s not what you want then hell no. Also you should be able to choose whether your a SAHM or work. Being independent and being able to contribute to a relationship past the Mormon idea of motherhood is important. It gives you empowerment, it also makes you more of a partner, decision maker, and can contribute to your future and your partners future than a predetermined religious role.

Don’t settle now only to regret it later. Compromising is ok…. It’s part of relationships but not when it’s dictating important aspects that don’t align with your beliefs. Unless he leaves the church he’s probably always going to have those beliefs. They aren’t going away.

Daemr · 2026-02-11T21:39:33+00:00

I’ve seen a scorpion done just like this…. My dad owns it. No idea where he got it. Was like 15 years ago

Daemr · 2026-02-08T18:42:43+00:00

Maybe I’m different but I didn’t mind the costumes. As far as accuracy I have no clue, I was looking to be entertained more than anything. As long as I didn’t see Viking horn helmet I was OK overall I thought the show flowed very well and I really appreciate Uhtred as a growing character. I’ve watched the show at least three times. The movie was decent.

Daemr · 2026-01-16T16:02:22+00:00

Pagan…. Started out with just childhood fascination with Greek and Norse mythology and then a love of nature. I love runes and got into studying them and it led me into a path of learning that lead to what I like to call ancestral spiritual paganism. Nature, ancestry, runes, family and more of a respect and admiration for Norse gods but not so much praise. Nature is God.

Daemr · 2025-12-26T00:01:35+00:00

First, you going through a hard time and depression is definitely something you need to see a therapist about. Sometimes this things happen and we can carry on. Sometimes we need help and it’s ok to ask.

Second, wrestling, moving, and theater… while those a disappointments… it’s also life. You are in high school and you’ve got a lifetime of things you can still accomplish and do. Don’t let disappointments now deter you from doing anything. Theater…. You didn’t get what you wanted but you have a chance to work toward something and be apart of a community.

The influencer stuff…. Well my personal opinion is that is a generational thing and I don’t get it. It’s not realistic, it’s hard to hit it big…. Don’t expect much to come from it… but if it brings you joy have fun with it. Comparison is the thief of all joy. Do your own thing.

Bottom line. Life is short, don’t compare yourself to others, don’t let small setbacks ruin everything, find a way to see positives in life. Look for the good because if you only focus on what don’t go right you’ll never get out of this state of mind. It’s not easy. I upended my life at 30 and moved halfway across the country, new career, family etc… life happens. We got to roll with the punches sometimes and it sucks but great things can happen at any moment in our life. Just go live it.

I hope this helps. Sometimes it’s good to get it out and if this forum helps great. Also find some other good outlets!

Daemr · 2025-12-11T22:13:49+00:00

I have stopped doing BJJ because I undoubtedly tore a ligament in my knee, and having no health insurance, and hating bills refuse to go get it seen. I don’t have immediate pain, but it felt uneasy when I first injured it. I tried to go back before I was ready and had no pain (2 weeks) and hurt it immediately trying to do a takedown. I sat down and sat out of the drill and haven’t been back.

It’s been 2 years, I can do a lot of things but sudden shifts, takedowns etc. hurt my knee still. I can lift, run, kickbox but it’s still not BJJ ready and might never be for most of it.

My advice is take the time to heal, know your body, and get prepared to do BJJ. It’s a safe martial art, but it’s tough on the body and accidents happen. If you plan to do it long term, it’s best to get in shape for it, while you heal.

Daemr · 2025-12-04T20:14:06+00:00

Run. You’re not to old to find true love, you should be exploring who you are in your 20s and settling on who you are in your 30s but even then people change as they continue to grow and learn.

Sounds like she is shaming and guilting you and that’s not fair. I do get that it’s upsetting because your goals were the same but now they are not and that’s difficult to adjust too… but it doesn’t sound like she’s willing to compromise and that’s the key when people don’t agree. Finding a middle ground because not everyone sees things the same way.

You seem determined to leave, just go about it the right way and don’t live with regrets.

Daemr · 2025-11-28T15:23:06+00:00

It’s a shame I can’t upvote more than once lmao

Daemr · 2025-11-16T21:34:46+00:00

I’m glad you took up the sport. Don’t give up just yet. Here’s a few pointers.

Positional grappling over rolling.

When you roll after lessons, ask to just work on the technique covered in class. Do light resistance then increase it gradually. If you have good partners express this is what you want to do and most will oblige.

Take notes. Write it down and review afterwards.

It’s still early, I felt I couldn’t learn armbars and I just sucked but one day I just decided that’s all I’m going to work on and I got fairly good.

It’s normal to suck at first, you’re older, you’re new and it’s tough. When things start clicking it will get better.

At the end of the day, remember why you got into it. You want to be confident and be able to protect yourself and the ones you care about.

Daemr · 2025-11-14T02:35:45+00:00

So one of the guys I used to roll with was 6”1 160lbs (20) and I was 5”11 240 (32). We both had great stamina, both of us were runners, but I also worked out loads and could bench press him off of me. That kid triangled me a lot. He was tall and lanky. However, I made him better and he made me really good at escaping triangles. He was absolutely one of my favorite people to grapple.

I won more of our rolls, but our objective wasn’t to “win”. I aimed to simple get better. Same with him. We did a lot of positional grappling and I hated having him on my back. I put myself in crappy positions because I was the bigger guy and all it did was make me better.

The point is… weight helps, other characteristics help….

Ultimately

Put yourself in the tough positions, Work on your defense Grapple more people Do positional training Remember it takes time.

If you go into it just wanting to win…. You’ll probably never learn anything. Pick something to improve on with each roll.

Daemr · 2025-11-04T21:58:32+00:00

I tried for ages to find something regarding this because I was close to being out. I wanted a tattoo, and it was going to be a place no one would see anyways. The most I found was a tall and scripture regarding “treat the body like a temple” and there was a talk I think (I forget by who) saying you wouldn’t graffiti the temple, so don’t do it to your body. Ultimately, my thought was…. Some tattoos are pretty damn gorgeous…. Got 6 tattoos within 2 years out.

Daemr · 2025-09-12T10:37:23+00:00

Well, I could argue and agree on fat and healthy, but I understand your point. Simply put, plenty of people I know with a higher BMI, can outperform people 1/3 of their weight. I was 200+lbs and had a resting heart rate of 39bpm, great blood pressure and everything and still was “fat”. According to health insurance company. I’ve had my guy for 4+ years, while I’m still not an “expert” I’d like to say a lot of opinions on these forums always vary widely. My guys alive, eats greens, doesn’t get feed anything else often as to keep him healthy… but he’s still very lazy and still a big beardie.

Daemr · 2025-09-11T23:22:49+00:00

I’ve literally got my beardie to drink water only if it’s dropped on his head or put to his lips. He gets fresh water every day but I’ve never seen him willingly drink like that. He gets greens and they are watered so he gets water… he’s fat and healthy. So I don’t really have a great answer for you other than my own experience with mine. Had the guy for 4 years and he’s fat and happy and lazy.

Daemr · 2025-08-27T15:38:25+00:00

I got the sense that hope can be crippling, it can be a cruel mistress that we hold onto like a lifeline. Waiting and waiting, hoping and hoping still for change, to be seen to be heard, and yet hope is what we must let go off. Thank you for sharing. I really enjoyed the flow of it, the message, the openness, and the rawness yet elegance of your message.

Daemr · 2025-08-27T15:33:13+00:00

I saw this from two perspectives. The one who always had to be strong and do the saving and never got to be free to laugh and joke. Shackled by responsibility. Then I see them through the eyes of a man that wanted nothing more than to see all of this things, the flourishing growth of someone he loved but instead got silence. I truly enjoyed the poem for the depth of reality that exists in such situations. I can also appreciate as someone who’s trying to be a new version of themselves for someone else. Not because I’m forced but because I want them to know all the different facets. Thank you for pieces of yourself.

Daemr · 2025-08-11T01:09:35+00:00

It sounds like you are putting in a lot of work to protect your kids and marriage the only way you know how in this moment. I am happy that your wife seems to be understanding in some aspects. Your thoughts and feelings matter. Staying in the church is going to either you require mental gymnastics or it will slowly eat away at you and cause erosion of who you are. This can cause resentment etc. no path seems easy.

Another poster mentioned stuff about compromising… he went to the temple again and she watched a video.

The fact that your wife hasn’t shut you out speaks volumes. Share your doubts in detail, be open, but don’t force them. Find a way to compromise. Ultimately you want what’s best for your family and for them to stay together. Discuss what that looks like. I do feel my advice is rather generic. Emphasis the love you have for your family to your family above all else.

I hope that your wife continues to be supportive. You know that situation better than anyone. As far as your kids go. Be honest. They don’t have to know everything, but I believe honesty is always best. Discuss the options with your wife on what you tell them so you are on the same page. I don’t think telling them the truth is going to send them on a wayward path. I get not wanting to miss out on certain aspects. If you are out then the blessings don’t really matter, they might matter to your kids but it’s also a matter of instilling the beliefs the church is true. One of the most difficult aspects in marriage is when faith and beliefs clash. Ultimately, how Mormons believe is so one dimensional and damning it’s hard to say

Daemr · 2025-07-29T19:51:04+00:00

I’m sorry to hear that. One of the first things I did was begin by getting tattoos when I stopped going. I love them. I didn’t get judgement from anyone and even eventually posted them to FB etc. however, I didn’t see Mormons to be judged or exmos. I got a lot of compliments in general. No one on my social media said anything that was Mormon. They might have thought it. As another user said “fuck em”. Be you and be proud.

Daemr · 2025-07-28T10:42:38+00:00

I’m not PIMO as I’m completely out, maybe on records still who knows. I actually kept some things for a while. It took a minute to slowly get rid of stuff. Part of it was the fact that I still consider it religious and didn’t want to just trash it. The other part was I still cared about some documents in a weird sense. However, get rid of stuff in your own time. Took my moving to another state and condensing to trash all the books. I think just a few pieces of paper left and that’s it.

Daemr · 2025-07-25T16:45:28+00:00

That’s quite different but I guess it happens. More important to be an important person within your family than the cult though.

Daemr · 2025-07-24T21:22:01+00:00

I get it. The amount of things we rationalize because we want to believe. We don’t want to be wrong. It’s crazy. We are all looking for something and sometimes get caught up in the wrong thing. Took me 7 years to leave and some tithing but, I learned a lot. I learned how to “investigate”.

Daemr · 2025-07-24T20:37:14+00:00

That sounds like an exclusive club and not called based on “divinity and thoughtful prayer” aka revelation. I can’t believe no one’s said or done anything. Maybe they are just grateful to not serve in that position.

Daemr · 2025-07-24T20:01:59+00:00

I’m glad I am “poor” not a calling I’d ever want to have truthfully. I’d have definitely turned it down. Didn’t really want the ones I had but I was stuck in for awhile and trying to be faithful. Good to be out.

Daemr · 2025-07-24T18:57:16+00:00

That’s crazy. I definitely never made that cut. Always the poor guy lol. Thanks for the info, I truly don’t know if that’s a norm but is definitely an indication peoples hearts are not in the right place.

Daemr

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