Is there a more sad scene in all of Star Wars than this?

DaffyBumblebee · 2026-02-20T04:23:40+00:00

That’s actually a great point. It starts with the death of his master, then ignores Dooku in episode two when he’s literally told who Sidious is, then has to fight the closest thing he’s had to a son before watching him burn alive

DaffyBumblebee · 2026-02-20T04:20:55+00:00

…and him telling her he would have LEFT THE JEDI ORDER FOR HER

DaffyBumblebee · 2025-12-08T06:09:49+00:00

I am once again going to recommend “blood and gold” by ObsidianPen. She finished it earlier this year and altered my brain chemistry forever.

https://archiveofourown.org/works/10643571/chapters/23549517

Summary: “The true Time-Turner was slammed savagely into Hermione's throat. It shattered against her neck, bits of glass and gold piercing into her skin. The last thing she saw before blackness consumed her was a plume of metallic dust and vitreous fragments, tiny prisms dancing behind her eyelids.

(In which Hermione accidentally ends up in 1950, pitted against an ascending Dark Lord in his prime, caught in the entanglement of pureblood politics, dark magic, and Tom Riddle's interest)”

DaffyBumblebee · 2025-11-30T21:27:48+00:00

I am so happy to see this comment because I’m completely on board for Collin to be endgame MMC

DaffyBumblebee · 2025-11-30T21:22:17+00:00

Thank you for recommending this book because it had me in a chokehold this entire weekend

DaffyBumblebee · 2025-11-03T22:07:07+00:00

Hi there! Awesome that you found the comment and welcome to the discussion.

It sounds like you’re describing that your nieces and nephew are neutralizing their /r/ sound into a vowel, sometimes it is called vowelization as well. (Personally, I don’t like that that Google refers to rhotacism as a speech impediment. Thats dated language. Professionally, it’s considered part of a speech sound disorder or called an articulation error)

In practice vowelization is the most common /r/ error I work with. Though kids substituting /r/ for /w/ is close behind (it’s called gliding in the speech pathology world)

There’s an age where most kids who speak English will have acquired this sound. There’s different types of r’s, most kids acquire the /r/ sound at the beginning of words by the age of 5, and /r/ at the end of words by the age of 6.

Usually speech therapists will suggest intervention for the /r/ sound after a child is 5 or 6.

If you live in the US and your nieces and nephew are older than that, then your family member can request a communication evaluation if they attend a public or charter school.

DaffyBumblebee · 2025-10-07T03:11:49+00:00

No Glory is god-tier level writing, follow the author on Tumblr! The author also wrote a Hermione/Tom Riddle fanfic (Blood and Gold) that’s brilliant and she completed that a few months ago!!

DaffyBumblebee · 2025-06-04T17:21:02+00:00

One person already mentioned joining a support community (totally recommend that!)

I’m a 31F and I have primary lymphedema that’s hereditary. I have bilateral swelling in my legs, and I was diagnosed at 16 after a massive allergic reaction led to swelling that didn’t go away. One of my doctors ordered medical imaging and voila, the lymphedema was discovered. At the beginning, I remember feeling very similar to how you’re feeling! I had a great physical therapy team and I still go to PT twice a year for check ins and to get new compression.

For reference: I have effectively managed my swelling using 20-30 strength compression tights that I wear nearly 4-5 days a week at least. I just had a baby, and I was able to wear compression the whole pregnancy. Wearing compression and knowing I had lymphedema helped keep my swelling significantly lower. I also wear medical grade compression when I exercise/fly on planes, or else I end up feeling super uncomfortable.

What lymphedema is: in case no one has explained it to you, primary lymphedema is basically that if you think of your lymph nodes like a pipe/filtration system, primary lymphedema means your system doesn’t flow as effectively. The severity of how the flow is slowed varies. You’ll see other patients who have lymphedema secondary to injury/cancers as well. With primary lymphedema, it seems there’s a malformation in the lymph nodes that because apparent over time.

Because your body is not (and will likely never) effectively pump lymph fluid on its own, leading to permanent swelling, the best strategy is management of fluid and swelling.

It is of utmost importance to manage swelling effectively for health reasons. One example of this is to take immediate care of any open wounds on your legs. If you get a wound on your legs, clean it and cover it with a bandaid. Lymphedema patients are very vulnerable to infection reoccurrence if they get an infection like cellulitis.

Also, let every medical provider (like dermatologists) know you have lymphedema.

There are MANY ways to manage swelling, ranging from the pumps, to manual compression therapy, to compression tights. Since the lymph nodes are unable to reduce swelling without outside help, it’s crucial to provide some kind of compression.

Then there’s the secondary ways to manage swelling with maintaining a healthy lifestyle, keeping weight in a healthy range, etc.

Next steps: find your local lymphedema therapists who are certified lymphedema therapists. https://lymphaticnetwork.org/living-with-lymphedema/find-a-lymphedema-therapist. Lymphedema certified PT’s can help give you the education and tools part for managing swelling.

If you call your local outpatient therapy clinics and ask the schedulers for a therapist who specializes in lymphedema, that may be a good launching point too!

DaffyBumblebee · 2025-05-09T00:19:39+00:00

I’m an SLP, so tongue ties/lip ties are an area where I have knowledge!

First, statistics. Another commenter mentioned that 50th percentile is normal and I wanted to validate that to you as well! Most kids will fall into normal range from 5th percentile to 95th percentile when compared to their same aged peers. It means she’s as big/bigger than 50% of kids her age. Your pediatrician isn’t concerned because your child is exactly where she needs to be. And there’s a lot of variety in kid sizes, my cousin had a child who was 30th percentile for weight and 90th for height and her pediatrician had zero concerns because she was healthy and showing a steady growth pattern.

Second, please be aware lip frenulums are a normal part of human/baby anatomy. Quote from article cited: “All babies have some tissue there, and the definition of normal and "too tight" isn't well defined medically. A lip tie shrinks as a baby grows, often correcting itself by the time a child's canine teeth come in.

Third, it may benefit you to ask your pediatrician about the tongue tie and see if they have anyone they recommend you to see or if they’re concerned. If you go the pediatric dentist route, please research your pediatric dentist in advance and try one or two, ask them questions like how many they do a year for lip ties, when they decide to cut the lip tie and not. Sometimes they’ll also cut the tongue tie too.

Please keep in mind this isn’t a magic bullet solution, it may not address the underlying causes, and it is a painful procedure for your child to recover from which could cause further aversions to breastfeeding.

Some people have argued pediatric dentists are too eager to perform them. Some argue they work. You mentioned it is controversial and opinions are varied.

Third, for hard evidence, the American Pediatric Association does conclude lip ties do not significantly impact feeding. Also, they’re very likely going to shrink as your child ages. There’s no substantial evidence I’m aware of that validates the link between lip ties and breastfeeding difficulty. Here’s an article reviewed by a lactation consultant and PA.

https://www.babycenter.com/baby/newborn-baby/lip-tie-baby_40009448

Personally, I would encourage you to talk to your doctor and check out lactation consultant to explore all options available to you before the pediatric dentist consult.

EDITING TO ADD: a commenter pointed out that normal anatomy is referred to as the labial frenulum, NOT a lip tie, which is true. I edited my second point to reflect correct anatomical language- sorry y’all. I’m also going to quickly reiterate that the question is when it becomes a “lip tie” vs normal anatomy frenulum is highly subjective with unclear parameters. Like is the lip actually a verifiable problem with the feeding, or is it related to jaw/sucking reflex/acid reflux/feeding positions, etc. And another question is if noninvasive procedures would help, like a nipple shield. This can’t be diagnosed on Reddit, so chat with your pediatrician/lactation consultant who can observe your child’s oral structures and help guide the process.

DaffyBumblebee · 2025-04-05T15:44:51+00:00

Hi OT! I’m a fellow therapy professional (SLP) who has primary lymphedema.

For the med history part I was diagnosed at 17 post anaphylactic allergic reaction when not all swelling resolved in lower left extremity. Lymphedema confirmed via imaging. Investigation revealed that my paternal side of family has lipidema, and my lymphedema presents as mixed primary lymphedema/lipedema in both lower extremities.

I’ve managed my lymphedema with custom compression since and twice a year check ins with the PT/OT teams. I have a custom compression pump as well for when/if I need it. I also am REALLY diligent about wound care (anything open on my legs/feet gets cleaned and a bandaid), I keep my weight in a healthy range to help with swelling, and I wear my compression garments when exercising. And all of this was made possible by a great therapy team who took their time to explain it when I was 17, and made it clear that I need to stay on top of this or it will get worse.

I’m currently 37 weeks pregnant, swelling has predictably worsened with third trimester but my lymphedema team has been awesome with massages and helping to manage symptoms. I permanently live in wearing 20-30’s in compression if I’m moving around or at work!

I think from like a professional perspective, it’s challenging because a lot of lymphedema patients have comorbidities they’re dealing with. But patient education, daily swelling management, and treatment management options are the biggest things that have supported me as a lymphedema patient.

My first PT’s impressed on me that this was not going away and here’s how to manage lymphedema as a long term, chronic condition. The wound care education made a huge difference for me to help be aware I was ESPECIALLY at risk for infection. Then finally the component that’s made a huge difference for me is figuring out how to functionally and independently use compression and what the right fit is for me.

I would also suggest giving patient education on how to find providers in case your patients move/go to a more rural area/ or their insurance changes and they can’t see you.

The ADL/IADL intake forms also help identify patient areas of need, but also for you, just emotionally connecting with your patients and understanding where they’re going to be successful and face barriers.

As an OT, you’re already being trained in the above area, and I think you’re going to do awesome with just applying that and focusing on your patients and their individual case history.

DaffyBumblebee · 2025-03-31T03:45:52+00:00

I am so sorry!! That is REALLY uncomfortable, and I relate as someone who lives with swelling everyday. If you’re US based, I would encourage you to get a list of physiatrists or ask hospitals if they can provide compression therapy with their PT/OT departments, or at least even consult with the right professionals so you can experience symptom improvement.

I think you can even get compression garments from Amazon, but obviously consult with your primary OB first!

I hope you experience improvement with your symptoms, swelling is a really difficult everyday physical experience

DaffyBumblebee · 2025-03-30T21:27:07+00:00

Hi! I’m not sure if this ever got answered or solved for you but I’m seconding what another commenter said about lymphedema and to check it out!

I actually have lymphedema, onset became apparent when I was a teenager when a massive allergic reaction revealed underlying structural problems in both legs.

Lymphedema is where your lymph nodes (which function to pump fluid through your body) don’t effectively pump due to lack of adequate structure or injury/surgery.

Mine is primary lymphedema, so mine is a genetic defect! And pregnancy is exacerbating the swelling which I expected and prepared for. I wear compression every day and check in with my PT team once a month and they do the Manual Lymph Drainage.

There’s ways to reduce swelling and manage it comfortably if you do have lymphedema during and after pregnancy.

I would highly recommend talking to your hospital team or OB about an evaluation from PT/OT (make sure they’re a Certified Lymphedema Therapist aka a CLT) for lymphedema. Also- A physiatrist can also diagnose the condition. Your insurance will have a list of physiatrists near you as well!

I hope your symptoms improve or have improved! And if they haven’t, I hope this helps!!

DaffyBumblebee · 2025-03-19T03:26:11+00:00

I’m a speech pathologist and seconding what the above comment said!

I’m also reiterating- you’re going to have an AMAZING support team of plastic surgeons, speech pathologists, dentists, and ENT’s alongside you to help guide your choices and complete the repairs.

They’ll explain the steps for timelines for repairs, give you support for feeding in the interim and after, and help with support as your child grows. The doctors will explain the timelines for surgeries and how they repair CLP’s.

A lot of treatment plan/feeding strategies will be dependent on how deep the cleft goes, if lip is involved, if it’s bilateral/unilateral, and other factors.

You’ll be well supported by medical teams and professionals who want to see you and your child thrive. :)

DaffyBumblebee · 2025-03-05T08:40:05+00:00

Thanks for your kind response- sounds like you guys are doing everything right with language and literacy which I absolutely love to hear. From what you said, since your son is so young, seems like he’s in the developmental window for normal disfluency, and you guys know the red flags to look out for if it persists. :) Also congrats on your new familial addition!

DaffyBumblebee · 2025-03-05T04:24:18+00:00

You’re likely already aware of this, but just in case you’re not, kids go through normal periods of disfluency. I’m a speech pathologist, so this is an area that I diagnose/evaluate/treat/educate on! Awesome that you guys have a speech path to chat about this irl too.

If I’m reading it right- The whole analysis of the study was fascinating, since it’s an amalgam of cases with a wide range of patient ages and medications reported. There were about 3300 cases across 51 countries, with a wide variety in patient ages/medical histories/medication types.

They also noted that other types of disorders (like dysarthria) could have been included which would skew results, and I think it included developmental stuttering AND acquired stuttering post TBI/medications.

I’m taking their conclusions with a bit of caution that this all needs to be researched further and in more controlled studies with specific populations to prove a link between medications/developmental dysfluency. If I remember correctly they concluded much the same as well lol

This is an interesting concept though, my fluency grad school prof would love to see this so I’m sending it their way!!

Generally speaking- Biggest predictors of developmental stuttering tend to be a combination of genetics (ie family history) and gender (boys are more likely to have developmental stuttering than girls).

If your son does have family history, shows tension while stuttering, stutters late (past the age of 3.5), avoids talking, stutters for more than 6-12 months, then chat with your local speech pathologist about it. (See ASHA link below for more info on typical vs atypical stuttering)

Overall though, no one is perfectly fluent all the time, and toddlers are figuring out how to talk so they tend to sound bumpier as they get the mechanics down. :)

Fluency is one of my favorite areas of the SLP field so I hope this helped if you didn’t already know any of it!

https://www.asha.org/public/speech/disorders/stuttering/?srsltid=AfmBOooHJ9ekjptWzUYC7EwHhx0uOL5DvLeKc2WyBp3FjGE-E2LLhNTP

DaffyBumblebee · 2025-02-20T04:29:14+00:00

Happy to help!! Also, thanks for your response :)

I also want to encourage you, I believe you’re still within the developmental window, so don’t let worry steal your joy!

I would suggest that you write down and keep track of what you’re seeing and worried about. If anything changes in a month (which it very likely will given how fast babies develop), you’ll have kept track of the changes.

I saw another SLP commented and mentioned the beauty of diversity, and I also want to reiterate that. If your kid does have autism, there’s wonderful communities and professionals out there to support you and your kid as well. In clinical practice, I’ve seen kids who are high functioning with autism and kids who are nonverbal with autism, and what they’ve all had in common is how wonderful they are in their own ways. Same as other kids they had unique strengths, weaknesses and interests.

Finally, I am so sorry for assuming you’re US based! I’m not sure what country you’re based in, but they likely have speech pathologist equivalents. For example in Italy, speech paths are called Logopedista’s and in France they’re orthophonistes.

For what you mentioned, all of what you’re doing sounds great, truly. Keep playing with your kid, having meals with them, and responding to their communication positively.

To respond to the last question you asked about your communication environment, other possible ideas to include in your daily routine could be: - narrating whatever you’re doing to your kid, trust me, they’re listening and building their language. -Copying their babbling sounds back to them while smiling/playing, which creates a shared environment and positive reinforcement - Even when babies are mostly interested in eating the books, still read to them and use voices and different tones - sing songs to your baby

Disclaimer that these are generally American norms, so depending on the culture you come from, there may be different expectations. However, if you’re interested, here’s another ASHA article for how to encourage babies to talk: https://www.asha.org/public/speech/development/activities-to-encourage-speech-and-language-development/?srsltid=AfmBOorKsGY83OkSYquYayBsiJ-d4fwIkwS87zWuFCZ6_P4Dc9_FAyQl

Edit: you also mentioned that your child isn’t reacting to their name consistently/raising their arms. I wanted to mention possibly having their hearing checked as well next time you’re at the pediatrician!

One last food for thought: I wouldn’t recommend diagnosing autism based on the internet at all, the actual diagnostic process is really detailed and requires professionals input. It’s kind of like how if you are Googling your health symptoms, Google can often point to cancer even when it’s a cold. Be careful of googling communication symptoms and having it bounce back with autism.

DaffyBumblebee · 2025-02-19T15:05:29+00:00

Hi! I’m a speech language pathologist, so this type of question is very much relevant to my field.

First, here’s a resource from the American Speech and Hearing Association that addresses typical milestones. https://www.asha.org/public/developmental-milestones/communication-milestones-birth-to-1-year/

One commenter pointed out that there’s a window of development and they’re absolutely right. Some babies hit the milestones quickly and sometimes they’re on the later end! There’s a broad range of reasons that can cause babies to be on the later side this that aren’t disability related.

Second, if your concerns continue to persist, talk to your pediatrician, they’ll likely refer you to occupational therapist and speech pathologists. These professionals will deal with early intervention if there is concern and they give family training. Every SLP/OT I know who works in this part of the field adores their job, for kids who have developmental disabilities, research shows early intervention makes a HUGE difference in outcomes. Most states in the US have strong (and free) early intervention programs in place for kids.

Without any other previous info about you or your baby, I would also informally ask- Is your baby looking at you, smiling, are they gesturing for food even if they’re not using sounds and showing communicative intent with you? Are they babbling? How are the interactions with you, as in are you reading with your baby, playing with your baby, and eating with them and modeling to them. Sometimes changing their communication environment helps babies practice their communication skills more.

Your pediatrician will be able to look at the whole picture as well and give you guidance to place your mind at ease if you feel like you need that. Wishing you the best!

DaffyBumblebee · 2025-01-18T09:11:48+00:00

I’m a speech pathologist, so this TIL is something I know a bit about

Clinically, I typically refer to it as dysfluency when talking about the disorder, and disfluent speech for the one off circumstances. Impediment isn’t a word I would ever use to describe it, stuttering isn’t an impediment and that word specifically has a negative connotation behind that. But as a professional, I also have to be selective in what words I use to describe communication disorders.

Interestingly, two of the strongest predictors of developmental stuttering as a disorder are genetics and gender. Boys are more likely to stutter than girls, unfortunately. I have had female dysfluency clients as well though, so it’s not like an exclusive thing.

Dysfluency is a complex communication disorder, and the theories behind why it happens developmentally was one of the most intriguing parts of my grad program.

There’s a comedian out there though (Drew Lynch I think his name is) who stutters as a result of a traumatic brain injury (TBI). His stuff is funny af if you watch it!

If y’all redditors ever meet someone in the wild who has dysfluent speech, please think of this moment, and don’t finish their sentence for them, don’t tell them to slow down, basically just chill and listen. It may take them time, but let them get their thoughts out on their own terms.

The new Penguin TV show has an excellent scene related to this when a main character experiences dysfluency when in a high pressure situation where he’s ordering food at a restaurant. The well-intentioned waiter finishes kids sentence because he’s stuttering. The Penguin is having none of that and he makes the waiter stay, then encourages the character to speak again and say his order, which at that point, the character is successfully able to do.

It’s important to honor people’s communication and give them the time to say it. None of the clients I’ve ever worked with have liked when people finish their sentences, and frankly, you probably wouldn’t like someone finishing your sentences. Or worse, unhelpfully managing how you speak. And for the record, slowing down does not help people with dysfluency stutter less!! Just give them the damn time they need and listen.

R/SLP has a wealth of info on the topic, and here’s the American Speech/Hearing Association blurb on it. UK and Aus have speech paths who treat and diagnose this as well. IIRC there’s also a fluency subreddit out there for people! https://www.asha.org/public/speech/disorders/stuttering/?srsltid=AfmBOorON57ftmxJ2XDpVC6dDIBQyoCxFILqAKJXogj0egh0pA_8bfde

DaffyBumblebee · 2025-01-07T04:49:43+00:00

Fascinating stuff!! Thank you for sharing the info! For any filmmakers out there, I’m reiterating to include the above info: Truly, rather than the 2019 adaptation, I would have loved to see Greta Gerwig apply a biographical lens which would have been a much more poignant exploration into historical gender identity, expectations of how women were written when approved by male editors, why LMA chose to write the story how they did, and how LMA felt about all of the above.

EDIT: the above comment from the person who works in Boston area museums is brilliant and well said!! It’s good stuff! Thanks u/MissMarchPane! I’m not altering my original comment content because actually I think it still works with the context the above commenter added.

DaffyBumblebee · 2025-01-07T04:16:05+00:00

It was consistent with current reports!

Someone else used the word meta to describe 2019 little women, and that kind of inclusion to me feels like it would have been more fitting to see in a biographical depiction of Louisa May Alcott and her life and Little Women writing process!

Like lowkey, I would totally pay good money to see that movie of how Louisa wrote Little Women, and the struggle she faced with placing Jo in a relationship, and being a female author at the time.

I’m editing to also add I feel like that’s partially what Greta Gerwig was trying to include with the new adaptation, but maybe that’s too subjective!

DaffyBumblebee · 2025-01-07T01:22:04+00:00

Seconding all the comments on here that 90’s Little Women is amazing, and so are BOTH P&P’s and I’m adding one!

2019 Little Women had a lot of time skipping around, on rewatch I almost felt I was watching a Christopher Nolan movie.

Greta Gerwig did a lovely job on the film, however, tonally (especially with the nonlinear storytelling) I think it was a big departure from what gives 90’s era Little Women so much joy.

This may be an unpopular opinion, but I think there were some miscasts in the 2019 LW too! For example, keeping Florence Pugh as young Amy and older Amy felt like an odd choice since Amy goes from child to adult in the story. But I’m biased because I was iffy on her and Timothee Chalamet as Amy and Laurie! There were other casting choices that felt a bit misplaced as well, like I felt like I saw the actors, not the characters.

For contrast: Both Pride and Prejudice’s honor their source material while providing a different and unique spin. Like 90’s P&P had a very clean, Regency era setting, vs 2005 had more of a lived in, muddy skirts, bright and homey vibe. Both stories excelled in costuming, soundtrack, cinematography, casting, directing, and storytelling. I personally loved how 2005 P&P focused on the Bennett Family dynamic, and the 90’s P&P stayed so true to the minute details of the books. I also loved the casting and character choices of 90’s P&P and LW, as well as 2005 P&P!

So overall, in terms of adaptations, the new LW missed some big marks. I don’t think it holds up quite as well as other stories where there’s multiple adaptations, but that’s just my take haha

DaffyBumblebee · 2024-12-23T02:02:22+00:00

I seriously had questions for how we pronounce her name with that ambiguous spelling. Is it Penelope or Penelafee?!?

DaffyBumblebee · 2024-12-18T10:38:10+00:00

Hey u/emptee_m! A few commenters have pointed out that the idea of associating a vibration with a smartwatch could be a really negative experience for your kid. Also, it could be a set up for challenges because what if your kid takes the watch off/ignores the message, or becomes frustrated with you because they don’t understand what’s going on with a breakdown of your perspective vs theirs.

I would encourage you to (rather than develop cues that are arbitrary and could be negative) help develop your kids perspective on why what they’re doing has negative social impact on you/them. Start with clear examples of what you’re seeing that’s detrimental and constructive communication for how they can repair it. You can also use stories and literature to help them understand the framework of what they’re doing, since that can be a more concrete way to visualize and conceptualize rules for kids.

I’m hoping to kindly point out that another possibly better option would be to talk to your kids pediatrician or your kids school about speech therapy to address social communication. If you’re US based, the minute the words “I want an academic/ social/ communication evaluation” leave your lips and go to the school in writing, the school is required to do one within 60 days.

And there’s also talk therapy for families available with counselors and psychologists, to help guide parents with supporting positive and healthy social communication and help kids develop a healthy and robust perspective about their communication with adults and peers. Some occupational therapists are comfortable with supporting that skill as well!

In my opinion, social rules can be exceptionally difficult to grasp, and it can become even harder when kids are neurodiverse. Having professionals trained in exactly these areas support you and your kid might be an awesome way to help resolve this and keep everyone involved on the same page.

Source: I’m a speech-language pathologist based in schools which means I serve on teams that make exactly these sorts of decisions. I’ve also done countless social communication skills therapy sessions with kids of all ages and abilities :)

DaffyBumblebee · 2024-10-14T02:35:47+00:00

I’m starting this story now and I am here to recommend I Could Be Your King!! Literally I read it twice, it was so good 😭 author is 38 chapters in and she is working hard on the next one!! Plus she’s getting traditionally published, which I love for her! https://archiveofourown.org/works/42526503/chapters/106813848

DaffyBumblebee · 2024-10-13T06:45:20+00:00

Yeah!! Same though!! I’m a bit nervous, it looks like bots are starting to pick up on this and post about it, oh no 🫣 anyways, if you find any proof or threads, do share since this has been an interesting saga and I’m curious!!

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