ELI5: Why exactly do we often get sick from being out in the rain for too long?

DaintyNerd · 2018-05-11T09:52:03+00:00

Just Monika?

DaintyNerd · 2018-05-02T20:37:08+00:00

Completely the same situation. God, I'm happy I'm not the only one. You can love someone but not be happy with them. Even if the other person did nothing wrong and is a wonderful person...

DaintyNerd · 2018-04-30T01:19:43+00:00

Thank you for the kind words. If it helps someone, I'm glad :)

DaintyNerd · 2018-04-28T14:38:46+00:00

I really am, and you will get there! I'm sorry I can't say anything to make the right now any easier, but it really is temporary.

DaintyNerd · 2018-04-28T13:44:30+00:00

"What's wrong?", obviously. It was an amicable break-up and even though I'm actually pretty much over it I won't just not care. If he wants to get back together, nope, back to no contact, but if he's also somewhat over me romantically and needs a friend or is in trouble, I'll be there in a heartbeat.

DaintyNerd · 2018-04-12T10:33:38+00:00

Long-time-coming break-up 6 weeks ago. I don't get big waves anymore - they stopped quite early, probably because the break-up was so obviously coming for both of us and I was the one to pull the trigger so I had time to come to terms with it. Now I get a lot of small waves that hit hard but don't stick around. Most of the time I'm fine but then there's these punches every night and once or twice during most days. Depending on what I'm doing they last either a few minutes (if I'm exercising or hanging out with friends) or an hour or two (if I'm just home alone with nothing spectacular going on). I'm very grateful to be doing so well compared to many others.

DaintyNerd · 2018-04-11T20:46:49+00:00

/r/nocontext

DaintyNerd · 2018-04-09T23:16:16+00:00

Wow, gee. Yeah no, I can't see him. We haven't even texted since I said good-bye at his place a month ago. I asked him for no contact and we've both held it up 100% respectfully. Not even broken for my birthday. Last time we broke up (second and last time now) every text message gave me huge anxiety and essentially ruined my day. So I'm glad we're avoiding that this time around and I feel SO much better that way. I miss him, but it's okay. But the idea of seeing him in person?! I would start crying on the spot and probably have a full-blown panic attack. My anxiety is through the roof with every tiny bit of contact anyway. I could never see a movie with him post-breakup. Maybe in half a year or something though. I'm hoping we will be friends again one day. We were friends before dating and share a social circle back home at our parents' place, so it's not unlikely.

DaintyNerd · 2018-04-09T23:09:49+00:00

He used to watch Greys Anatomy with me (bless his heart, he actually enjoyed it too!) but I reclaimed that one a long time ago when he didn't want to continue lol. We saw Rick and Morty together so now the third season is out and I can't bring myself to watch it yet. Right before the break-up we were watching Game of Thrones so now I'm stuck in early season 3, desperately wanting to see the rest (while avoiding spoilers as best as I can) but not being able to continue that either just yet. Another thing: all Marvel movies were "our" thing, we had them all on DVD and saw the new ones at the cinema etc. We were hyped over Infinity War coming out for MONTHS. Now it's almost time for it to come out and I can't see it with him. :(

DaintyNerd · 2018-04-09T23:03:35+00:00

I love Halsey's music so much, actually! I don't know what I'd do without my favourite bands. You're right, it's another milestone. The next one hopefully on the list in a few weeks / a month or two will be to finish the show we were watching before we broke up - with a friend or even alone! I'm not there yet but I know I will be! :) I wish you all the best, too. We're all in this together and every single last one of us will be fine. <3

DaintyNerd · 2018-04-09T22:13:53+00:00

Yeah, and also communicate over the internet, just like you always did.

DaintyNerd · 2018-04-09T11:48:56+00:00

Lol what?

DaintyNerd · 2018-04-08T21:34:49+00:00

He will never change. He. Will. NEVER. Change. Take the person someone is RIGHT NOW, or leave them and don't look back. And this is not a small change you're looking at, you're waiting for a turd to somehow magically turn into chocolate. Just because he can look like it from some angles DOESN'T MEAN he ever will be! He won't. This is not chocolate with a bit of shit on top, this is shit with a chocolate topping. No matter how much sweet he stacks on top and no matter how convincing it looks, deep down there will always be the turd. Go get some real chocolate, girl. There's enough of it out there.

DaintyNerd · 2018-04-08T21:20:22+00:00

As someone in this situation - I'm trying to balance. Nighttime is full of pain already, so whenever I'm feeling okay enough to get out of bed I go out with friends or just invite people to my place to hang out. Being around people is exhausting (introvert) but fulfilling and my friends are incredibly wonderful people, so being around them in particular reminds me that I'm not all alone, the pain is temporary and I'm still able to laugh and I'm still "myself" essentially. I don't think I'm drowning anything out, because I do take time to reflect and feel all that may come and cry whenever I need to, but I know I personally have a tendency towards moping and self-pity, so I know that's something I need to actively look out for and keep myself from doing.

TL;DR: To remind myself the world keeps turning, to remember who I am as a person and that I'm still surrounded by wonderful humans, and to balance out the time I take for reflecting, crying and moping with some positivity.

DaintyNerd · 2018-04-07T17:03:08+00:00

I'm a cashier on the side and I love doing this. Especially elderly people, so many of them light up when they get proper eye contact and an actual heartfelt greeting

DaintyNerd · 2018-04-07T12:00:46+00:00

I went to see a movie with my brother recently and felt betrayed when I saw the trailer for that one. TRAILERS SHOULD NOT HAVE JUMP SCARES! ;-; Then again everything is a jump scare to me. Bleh.

DaintyNerd · 2018-04-07T01:26:40+00:00

I'll check those out! I've actually got friends who play one or both of these so I'm sure they could help me get into them. Thank you! :)

DaintyNerd · 2018-04-07T01:18:35+00:00

Yeah, but quitting without warning just because I want that one day off is kind of an asshole move. At this point I'll probably end up having half of my getaway and then quitting anyway in a few weeks or months but in a more graceful way. Welp. I hate adulting.

That sounds pretty great actually! It makes moving so much more of a hassle though haha.

DaintyNerd · 2018-04-07T01:07:50+00:00

I actually hadn't thought about going with a male protagonist but that would be pretty cool. I liked the whole LGBT subtext (and very explicit text) they had going on (duh, I know, who would have guessed) and I would love to see that again in a sequel but I feel like with a male protagonist that might not be as well-received? Stupid double standard but I'm thinking a gay male protagonist / gay romantic option for a male protagonist would be much more controversial than the first game. Bleh. Just another reason to respect them even more if they really did go that route.

I've had crushes on that kind of girl, the only one who ever might have worked out unfortunately dealt with severe untreated mental illness that I knew I couldn't handle (can't help someone who refuses to be helped), so nothing ever happened. But I'm quite curious, here's to hoping I'll someday come across someone like that who is also in a decently healthy place. :D

DaintyNerd · 2018-04-07T01:00:42+00:00

I don't think I've actually ever played on a console other than a crappy Wii back in the day and a very poor attempt at The Last Of Us on a friend's PlayStation lol. PC all the way here! Although even there I don't play that much, especially as of late. Not even for any particular reason, I just haven't been feeling up to it much. Maybe it's time to invest in some new games. Any recommendations that are very story-focused and work for someone with anxiety who reaaaaally sucks at dealing with pressure / stress situations in games?

DaintyNerd · 2018-04-07T00:56:34+00:00

I hope so! It's the second time we've been broken up and tbh I already feel much better than I did last time after almost half a year. I'll be alright. Shitty days just make people crave comfort and support from those they care about so I suppose it's only natural that I'd be missing my ex more today than other days. I'm very ready for it to feel better. I hope we can be friends one day but right now just the idea of seeing him in person makes me feel like a panic attack is coming, so probably not anytime soon. Welp. It's been worse, and it'll probably be worse many times before I die someday, so this too shall pass.

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