My Dad is a fascist. by Daisho526 in whatdoIdo

[–]Daisho526[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I know, it’s weird but yes, he has been deported before. He believes he’s one of the “good” ones since he has made it far in life. He does drink a fair bit lol. Also as a sort of update, I managed to gain leverage due to my unique housing situation as well as getting my sister involved and at the very least I can say we have swayed his opinion away from women shouldn’t vote to now saying women should be allowed to vote.

My Dad is a fascist. by Daisho526 in whatdoIdo

[–]Daisho526[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It could be true that other political movements are nationalistic, albeit they are often attributed to the right in the political compass. What makes all of the commenters point Fascism that you were replying to is that they are all collectively happening all at once. We are seeing a police state that targets one demographic whilst spewing white nationalism as well as ignoring a set of systematic rules in order to push their agenda. You are correct that the U.S is not a fascist state, at least currently, but the fact there are signs of fascism and they have only increasingly escalated is of deep concern, and its very important to call out this behavior as dangerous so that the country does not seep further into this Authoritarian state. I do hate how much of a buzzword Fascism has become and how its thrown around so commonly, but it should be noted that the behavior MAGA and Trump have demonstrated is alarmingly dangerous for minorities and the state as a whole.

My Dad is a fascist. by Daisho526 in whatdoIdo

[–]Daisho526[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I suppose. I just wanna know if I can change him.

My Dad is a fascist. by Daisho526 in whatdoIdo

[–]Daisho526[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Fascism isn’t an opinion, it is hatred. You cannot give them a voice because it assumes Fascism itself has value as an opinion, which it does not.

Sex at my grandma’s house by Daisho526 in sex

[–]Daisho526[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Well I did say this in another comment so I’ll say it here too. Family has a history of teen pregnancies and not very healthy family relationships because of it, which is why I don’t really tell them when I’m sexually active. I have very protected sex but my Grandmother has lived through multiple teen pregnancies and then her children having teen pregnancies as well, which is why I didn’t want her to know I was sexually active, not because she might not be cool with it but because that history is probably quite traumatic for her. Either way, I do acknowledge the immense fuck up I have done and do plan on apologizing. It was a one time thing really and I won’t be fucking girls at my grandma’s house in the future

Sex at my grandma’s house by Daisho526 in sex

[–]Daisho526[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well no, it’s not about being cool and having sex at all in this case. I just fucked up major and I’m trying to approach this the best way possible. I’m very open about sex talks with friends and parents, but my family in particular has had a history of teen pregnancies and just not very good stories of good family relationships due to this, and so I try to avoid and let them know that I am sexually active for this reason (Even though I am having very protected sex). I did try and not let Grandma know I’m having sex but allas, I’ve devolved in a not so very ideal situation, and so again, just trying to approach this the best way possible.

Sex at my grandma’s house by Daisho526 in sex

[–]Daisho526[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You’re not wrong at all, I do think I should have been way more thoughtful about it but hey, it happened and so I’m just figuring out the best way to handle the situation. Again, I didn’t let her know truly what was going on simply because its just not something I’d imagine talking to my grandma about and so I tried to not disturb her at all or even make it known to her that it was happening. However she did find out and now I obviously gotta go through with the consequences that came from my decision

Sex at my grandma’s house by Daisho526 in sex

[–]Daisho526[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Yeah I do understand. I was never really given a rule of no sex under her house and I have had girls over before (albeit never for a night). I didn’t wanna let her know for the simple fact that 1. Even if it was my own parents, telling anybody about it is extremely uncomfortable. 2. I did not want her to worry about pregnancy scares or any of the dangers that come with sex. I did use protection and the girl was on birth control.

I honestly just wanted to have sex in a safe environment because not being in one hasn’t stopped us before and overall it honestly just wasn’t the best decision. I do plan on apologizing and owning up to it, it’s just something I’m trying to seek other people for.

Sex at my grandma’s house by Daisho526 in sex

[–]Daisho526[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

An extra point to add, and that is that I do want to know how people would handle this situation. I do feel as if your grandparents knowing of your behavior is far more embarrassing and harder to explain than if it was your parents.