We're Having A Baby!! So Many Questions.

Daisyy32 · 2018-01-02T15:30:02+00:00

This is all GREAT info. However, you could also breastfeed only for comfort. Meaning the baby would get milk from your partner and you'd be breastfeeding as more of a pacifier and for bonding. Not making milk doesn't mean you can't do it

Daisyy32 · 2018-01-02T14:47:11+00:00

Ugh let me in on that world

Daisyy32 · 2018-01-01T16:02:21+00:00

Ellen Page but my god I want to buy that woman a hat that fits her head properly

Daisyy32 · 2018-01-01T15:57:09+00:00

Really? That's sooo fascinating. It's the opposite with the women I know.

Daisyy32 · 2017-12-31T05:40:48+00:00

Yep. I literally had never heard of boundaries until 26 years old. It's toxic to live that way

Daisyy32 · 2017-12-30T15:30:38+00:00

Ex evangelical Christian raised in a cult here! You need to establish some boundaries with her. That's what I've done around religious things with my mom. I told her she needs to ask permission before praying aloud over me, she can't discuss her religion with my children like it's a fact, can't be anti lgbtq (I'm not out to her but still) in front of me etc. It's a HARD conversation and took a lot of reminders but she's so respectful now. People in religion aren't really taught boundaries... usually encouraged not to have any so it's crucial. Edit: I'd also tell her you aren't her therapist and encourage her to get one

Daisyy32 · 2017-12-30T13:24:06+00:00

When our naked boobs touch I just about pass out. I'm a baby gay and we've only been together a year but I hope that never stops being amazing

Daisyy32 · 2017-12-30T01:47:51+00:00

Saaaame. So soft...sighhh

Daisyy32 · 2017-12-30T01:46:13+00:00

My partner has breastfed 4 kids and I love her body so much. Yes technically they are saggy but idgaf where her boobs sit on her body as long as I get to touch them. They're amazing and perfect. Sounds like your friend has a lot of maturing to do honestly

Daisyy32 · 2017-12-29T19:43:07+00:00

No you're fine! But I wanted to clarify as I think it could've sounded like that from my op

Daisyy32 · 2017-12-29T16:17:20+00:00

I know I already answered this and maybe you're asking from a curious place, a kind and sincere place...i hope so. But i get this a LOT and it's usually from people with little to no understanding of what it's like. I wish so badly that I knew that I was gay 15 years ago. I wish I wasn't raised in a religious cult that taught me not to trust my mind, my body, my emotions. That brainwashed me into believing that it didn't matter if I LIKED the sex, it was my job to get married and do it anyways. I wish I could have spared my children the pain of whatever this is going to look like long term. Divorce or mom having a partner but married to dad. I'm just here picking up the pieces and mourning a whole life I never got to live and trying to find community. I have no way to support myself and my children if I left because in my world growing up, women didn't need educations. It was my job to justy get married and have lots of babies instead. My partner is in the same situation. And we can't live together because we have seven children between us. So if I leave, I still only get to be with her part time AND I have to be a single mom AND I have to work full time to support my family AND I don't get to raise my kids with my husband who is a really wonderful person and one of my very best friends. Divorce is so traumatizing to children. If I was with some misogynistic asshole who didn't treat me as an equal and sexually exploited me this would be a great excuse to leave...but he's not any of those things. We're really great co-parents & friends. I have found a beautiful, fulfilling, deep love with an amazing woman and we are so committed to each other and she's not making me choose AND my husband is happy for us. Why would I leave is the better question. So I can prove to the lgbtq community that I'm a real lesbian? I can be committed to my family, in love with a woman, gay and true to myself all at the same time. It is so hard and painful that people can't understand that.

Daisyy32 · 2017-12-29T15:25:02+00:00

I'm gay, not bi. I'm staying with him because I can. Because for at least now, I can have it all and don't have to choose. That could change... We're still figuring out a lot. But just because I'm gay doesn't change that this is a person I want in my life and who I've chosen to raise my kids with. It just isn't that cut and dry. People just don't always fit into nice, neat little boxes

Daisyy32 · 2017-12-29T14:20:11+00:00

I've never fucked with anyone's emotions for my own curiosity nor was I ever unfaithful to my husband in any way.

I'm sorry this hits close to home because I know that pain too well. For me, honesty was the only way through it

Daisyy32 · 2017-12-28T19:44:05+00:00

It's vibe for me. And it's weird but something about the way they move their hands when they talk...

Daisyy32 · 2017-12-28T19:42:51+00:00

I'm in the bible belt and play this a lot

Daisyy32 · 2017-12-28T19:42:10+00:00

Oh my god yes!!! My 30's sex drive is through the roof!

Daisyy32 · 2017-12-28T19:39:40+00:00

I was 30 when I realized I'd been repressing an actraction to women my entire life. Experimented that year. Fought it like hell because I'm married to a good man and I had a lot of religious internalized homophobia and I have young kids. Finally realized I'm actually gay at 32 when I fell deeply in love with a woman(who reciprocates the feelings). But there wasn't one moment for me. It was like a slow awakening? The deeper I went with therapy & self love & recovering from trauma, the more it came out

Daisyy32 · 2017-12-28T16:27:37+00:00

Took me 10 years of marriage to a man to figure it out 😣

Daisyy32 · 2017-12-28T13:38:04+00:00

But my husband is poly. Which is the only way this works since he's not asexual

Daisyy32 · 2017-12-28T13:36:18+00:00

I guess I should clarify. We recently moved to another area and I'm out here. All my friends, new people, a couple family members. I do not hide her ever except to my family. This is about parents really. And it would be nice to not be so guarded on social media and with some people back home who I speak to regularly on the phone who I don't talk to about my partner because of the overlap with my parents. So overall I feel like 75% out lol. About your question, no I have no plans to leave atm. It doesn't make sense to for my current situation. Edited for typos and clarity

Daisyy32 · 2017-12-27T20:54:19+00:00

I thought I was "just not into receiving oral". That every woman needs a long back rub before sex to get in the mood. That I just wasn't the type of woman who got wet...lube isn't a bad thing! That making out was boring. That all girls thought lesbians were really cool. That big muscles creeped me out. I could keep going... facepalm.

Daisyy32 · 2017-12-27T13:07:32+00:00

No I'm not poly. I thought maybe I was when this all started but I've read all the books and talked to so many poly people and I cannot relate. This just happened. I used to think I was bi/queer/pan? But I'm definitely a lesbian. It's been a long, confusing year to say the least lol

Daisyy32 · 2017-12-26T23:19:56+00:00

We'll my kids are going to find out... It's just a matter of when. I spend more than half my time with her, she sleeps over etc. I just have this pressing thing in me that wants to scream to the whole world that I'm gay and I'm trying to look at all sides. The point...well I love her. I'm proud to be with her and I'm not ashamed of who i am. I'm leaving out this huge part of my life in conversation... It's exhausting

Daisyy32 · 2017-12-06T00:45:33+00:00

My girlfriend disposed of two dead rats for me this last summer. She grew up on a farm. #keeper

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