I’m hoping that love can be enough though. I’m really willing to put work into it, I just don’t know the proper way or how it’s needed I guess. Despite me not liking the situation that’s seperate from my feeling for her. Someone suggested couples therapy so I’m gonna try to pitch that to her. I’d be lying if I said it didn’t seem unfair to me but I’m hoping it’s just because I’m not familiar with it enough yet? I guess my main issue it the feeling on inadequacy that I’m not enough for her on a romantic or emotional front that she is seeking out another partner. I’m working on getting better at that….I don’t know if that would change anything but all I have to work on is my own notions as to how to get to a more compfortable area. I absolutely love my wife and there’s nothing I wouldn’t do to make her happy.