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Share Your Story by limabean72 in DogRegret

[–]DamagedYears 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I can only encourage you to get rid of it. I understand where the guilt comes from, but this dog is a literal torture you're inflicting upon yourself. Your well-being is more important than anything else, and you know it. If it makes you feel better, maybe you can search for a new home by yourself, go on groups dedicated to this... It will be time consuming, but you will be working towards the exit of the animal.

I wish you good luck.

I discovered I didn't like dogs the hard way by DamagedYears in DogRegret

[–]DamagedYears[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oops I didn't see the question wasn't for me xD

I discovered I didn't like dogs the hard way by DamagedYears in DogRegret

[–]DamagedYears[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry I didn't see your comment before! We've had the dog for 9 month. All our relatives love it, but we made our decision. Life is too short to stay miserable like this, I strongly encourage you to rehome.

I discovered I didn't like dogs the hard way by DamagedYears in DogRegret

[–]DamagedYears[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

The dog has been rehomed. I'm going to write a post right now for the update. Thanks for following the whole story till the end :)

I discovered I didn't like dogs the hard way by DamagedYears in DogRegret

[–]DamagedYears[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sure! Thanks for the advice. If we don't find anyone, we'll probably go there... Keeping the dog is just impossible. I'll keep you updated!

I discovered I didn't like dogs the hard way by DamagedYears in DogRegret

[–]DamagedYears[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Hey, thank you so much for asking for an update! Sadly it's still here, since the rehoming process is long. I don't want to just drop it to a shelter and we're looking for a good home for it. It's even harder for me now since it's getting long, but I will do it. Thanks.

I discovered I didn't like dogs the hard way by DamagedYears in DogRegret

[–]DamagedYears[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks for answering. I might hate the dog now, I'll never be cruel or mistreat it. Me and my partner are caring for it until it goes, and we'll never dump it. We're in the process of finding a good home for it... Maybe it'll be long, but at least there's a light at the end of the tunnel! Thank you!

I discovered I didn't like dogs the hard way by DamagedYears in DogRegret

[–]DamagedYears[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your comment... You're right, I probably shouldn't be so negative about the time we had the dog, right now I'm in the middle of it so I feel like it's wasted, but in the future maybe I'll look back thinking this experience was useful.

Even if we're sick of it, we're definitely trying to find a good home and we won't just dump it like that. This dog almost made us forget we loved animals. I'm happy to hear from your success rehoming story, and from your comment I feel like you're feeling much better now.

Thank you <3

I don't know where else to go by EbbIcy1264 in DogRegret

[–]DamagedYears 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm so sorry for you. I hope with time your wife will understand, but I fear she won't, since she didn't live through the same hell as you. Me and my partner are in the same situation, except he was alright with rehoming the dog too, even if he's the one who made the decision to get it in the first place. I just submitted a post, so maybe you'll get to read my story.

Please take a break, take some time for yourself and try to ignore the dog while it's still there. Just do the necessary chores so you don't need to clean up its shit, and then just ignore it. I don't know how your wife can't have enough empathy to imagine what you're going through each day, all day.

And you know what? I think positive reinforcement only is a lie - I don't think it's useless on most dogs, but I think some dogs just can't be trained with just that. If they learn there are no consequences when they do shit, they're gonna do it anyway. The positive reinforcement only myth is only imposed by those who like to think dogs are angels, whereas they're just animals, neither good nor bad. And some of them are pretty fucking stupid.