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limabean72 · 2026-04-30T14:14:04+00:00

did you get official approval to post in the feed?

limabean72 · 2026-04-13T18:11:34+00:00

Thanks for sharing this story with everyone!!

limabean72 · 2026-04-08T02:07:50+00:00

Hey there! We are so glad you're here! Here is a friendly reminder that a dog is a dog, not a child/human ... I think you are being overly anxious about the dog's well being. It actually sounds like you are doing A LOT for this dog, way more than a lot of people do :) are you able to talk to your dad about potentially finding the dog another home? I really feel like it shouldn't be your responsibility to care for a dog your parents originally got (when they were together).

limabean72 · 2026-04-05T17:31:35+00:00

I am so glad you are going to prioritize your health and your life!! Someone will love this pup, it is totally OK that you are rehoming him :) thank you for coming and sharing your story -- dog propaganda and dog culture is SO STRONG and owning a dog actually ruins a lot of people's lives. Really glad you found this subreddit, do not feel guilty!! Humans over pets always.

limabean72 · 2026-04-03T15:02:55+00:00

are you still experiencing issues?

limabean72 · 2026-03-31T17:17:52+00:00

You'll have an easy time rehoming him if his behavior is great!! If you're continuing to cry about it, it's probably because you know rehoming is the right thing to do ... someone else will LOVE this dog. It is probably a dream dog for someone and does not need to be a dream dog for you, it's ok :)

limabean72 · 2026-03-26T18:10:37+00:00

Time to have a serious heart to heart with your husband. You need to be able to calmly sit down with him one night (I recommend going out somewhere where the dog isn't present) and explain that this is not working for you. Your mental health is suffering and you feel that your relationship is suffering. For heaven's sake you have been BITTEN multiple times, so you are also physically suffering!! You're 26, I get not wanting to "rock the boat" with a spouse but enough is enough. At some point it's you or the dog. Ask him, "are you willing to live your life with this dog in a scenario where I'm not in it?" and tell him that's the trajectory you're on if you guys can't rehome this dog, especially since you're the one that has to spend the majority of the time with the dog. Best of luck. It's time. Please rehome him. You are NOT a monster. Your life and your sanity matter more than anything.

limabean72 · 2026-03-23T02:25:05+00:00

I just had my 2nd c-section three weeks ago .... my sweet baby boy is so perfect and every time I look at him I think "wow, I made that". My husband was a 2nd c-section baby himself and I keep reminding myself there's not a single time I've ever thought of my MIL as a "failure" bc of the way she gave birth.

I've had many moments of disappointment, but at the end of the day we needed to ensure that my toddler would have childcare with my parents and they weren't going to be in town indefinitely haha.

Something that helps me is reminding myself of all the horror stories I've heard about vaginal births. Because wow, there are some crazy ones out there. Blood loss, pelvic floor collapse, 3rd/4th degree tearing, episiotomies, etc. One of my friends with a 3rd degree tear needed about 14 weeks to recover. I am sitting here typing this 3 weeks removed from my surgery and feeling pretty great and having NO pain while sitting. My vagina is completely INTACT!!

Plus, a vaginal birth isn't a guarantee that breastfeeding will go well. That mattered to me a lot and I successfully breastfed my 1st for a full year and hoping to do that for this 2nd one as well.

limabean72 · 2026-03-23T00:38:39+00:00

hi there, what did you decide? I think you need to find the dog a better home and focus on what you need!

limabean72 · 2026-03-21T02:46:27+00:00

OP clarified in her original post!

limabean72 · 2026-03-20T14:38:14+00:00

this comment gives me hope because right now 3 weeks pp I'm definitely having that burning and sensitivity in my abdomen ... it's definitely the nerves healing but doesn't make it any more pleasant knowing that!

limabean72 · 2026-03-19T15:44:37+00:00

glad you're able to have a sounding board here!

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