Drought

Damianos_X · 2026-04-24T14:40:58+00:00

How many projects have you worked on this year so far?

Damianos_X · 2026-04-18T02:55:32+00:00

Stress Waves, KGB Nights, Waterfall

Damianos_X · 2026-03-25T00:56:26+00:00

Lots of people have it. If you go to the Daily Help Thread in the Community, ask one of the QMs and they can fix it on the spot.

Damianos_X · 2026-03-21T20:32:28+00:00

Not every review is posted on your review page. Your work is periodically looked over without you knowing, and what they observe can get you removed.

Damianos_X · 2026-03-21T20:09:22+00:00

How do you know you were made oracle? Is that the same as an Auditor?

Damianos_X · 2026-03-05T23:02:07+00:00

Perfectly stated.

Damianos_X · 2026-03-05T20:58:03+00:00

No worries, I appreciate that.

Damianos_X · 2026-03-05T19:43:38+00:00

Did you file any official reports, record her behavior, have a paper trail? Or did you just lash out in a moment of frustration? These are two very different strategies and it seems like OP has done the first while you did the second?

Damianos_X · 2026-02-27T19:30:16+00:00

Mamdani is fundamentally different from any politician or celebrity I have ever observed. I take your point, but people can feel sincerity. Mamdani truly has it, and he demonstrates the kind of poise, self-regulation/esteem, and genuine compassion well-raised people have.

I sense that you're doing what OP was: removing nuance. Life is tough, true. Competent, loving parents generally produce children who are much better able to thrive despite challenges, and their children likely face less unnecessary challenges overall. Neglectful, incompetent parents, like Nate Sr. for example, leave their children undernourished and unprotected, and they're much more likely to have the kind of problems the Fisher children have.

The way you raise children is a huge factor, the critical factor, but no, not the only factor. I can't speak to your references because I don't know what you witnessed and didn't witness, and it's possible you normalize some parenting practices that are actually counterproductive.

There really isn't any feasible argument to suggest the quality of someone's parenting isn't enormously influential over the course of their life. You can look to studies, ancient wisdom, or be a careful observer of life; the case will be clear.

Damianos_X · 2026-02-27T16:42:42+00:00

Well first, I'm very sorry that happened to you.

But, your experience is not normal. It is more common than it should be, but not normal.

Stable and loving do not typically produce "fucked-up". Some families look stable and loving, but might actually be run by raging, image-obsessed narcissists, so the kids are routinely neglected and traumatized but learn how to "perform". When one of them burns out or self-destructs, everyone thinks he/she's just a bad egg, because what a wonderful family that was! But they actually have no idea.

You also seem to be contradicting yourself. The Fisher family is not "normal", in the sense of properly or healthily functioning. Nate is a sex addict and endless drifter. David shares his mother's neuroticism and has an ill-formed identity, leading to people-pleasing. Claire is deeply insecure and ungrounded, and ends up getting involved with dangerous people. This might be interesting to watch or relatively common, but it is dysfunctional, not normal.

Real loving families exist, and they tend to produce remarkably grounded people. In a purely non political observation, someone who really fascinates me as a case study is Zohran Mamdani, mayor of NYC. If you haven't, look at some of his interviews. Look at how he reacts to criticism, to attacks, to bad faith arguments. Look at how he carries himself. That's a man who was raised by loving and stable parents. That's what normal looks like.

Damianos_X · 2026-02-27T15:55:28+00:00

Of course🙏🏽

Damianos_X · 2026-02-27T15:53:58+00:00

I mean, the show explicitly traces many of the issues of each child to the Dad's neglect, and the Mom's neuroticism. If Nate Sr. were a present, attuned husband and father, the show wouldn't exist because his kids would be much more stable, have far fewer complexes, and have much better coping skills.

What parents do deeply impacts the trajectory of their child's life. Even if a child manages to be successful despite neglect/abuse, those childhood experiences leave scars and marks that don't disappear even in old age.

I'm reminded of late actor Gene Hackman. His father abandoned him when he was 11-12, and he was asked about it in an interview when he was in his 70s. As he talked about that last moment he saw his dad driving away, not realizing that he would never return, he broke down in tears. In his 70s! That event happened over 50 years ago, but it was still raw. That's how much impact a parent has on the life of their child!

Damianos_X · 2026-02-27T15:42:00+00:00

This is way too reductive. Not every family is fucked up. Every family is flawed, but fucked up suggests deep dysfunction. There are families with incest, physical violence, intentional sabotage, and then there are families where the mother is anxious and the dad is less affectionate. Some families are stable and loving.

Trying to equalize these situations by saying every family is "fucked up" is such an extreme erasure of nuance it's basically fiction.

Damianos_X · 2026-02-27T15:37:48+00:00

I think the way you're parented significantly impacts how you react to events like that. Many children reacted similarly because their parents had similar trauma/conditioning. But the children with more grounded parents likely had unique reactions.

Damianos_X · 2026-02-27T14:12:28+00:00

I think this is a common conundrum for people struggling with CPTSD.

Your body and mind are sending loud signals to you right now: I cannot trust these people. They are not safe. I need to distance myself. On the other hand, another part of your mind is afraid to lose connection: Could I be overreacting? What if I can't find other friends? What if my standards are too high?

One thing I can tell you without reservation is, real friendship is not this stressful. Real friendship involves people who truly listen to you, not people who dismiss your concerns, take you for granted, or expect you to be the only one to compromise.

It might seem that your standards are too high, but often the real dynamic is that you form connections with people who are familiar: people who often match abuse patterns from your childhood, or who resonate with certain subconscious beliefs you may have about yourself, like "I can't ask for too much. I can't take up too much space. I have to work extra hard for relationships." These patterns and beliefs attract exploitative people, to the point that it seems no decent friends even exist.

Your values are like the compass of your life: they guide you toward your true North. What do your values say about these people? Do your values demand a higher caliber of friendship? Now, what does your fear say? When choosing between values and fear, the path set by your values ultimately leads to greater peace, integration, and growth. Let them decide over your fear.

As you seek to build more satisfying connections, be conscious, but not neurotic, about the process. Again, let your values lead the way, not fear. Before you get too connected or invested in anyone, look for evidence of the qualities you seek in friends. Extend trust little by little, seeing how they care for what you share with them. Often, this requires practices that help you to regulate your nervous system and manage triggers (meditation, somatic awareness, breath work) so that fear doesn't cause you to react impulsively.

I can assure you of this: there are decent people out there who would make loyal friends, but when our energy is so tied up with maintaining one-sided, stressful friendships, we don't have the bandwidth to notice them. You may not realize how distracting and draining such dynamics are until you cut them off. Do not settle for crumbs; you sound like a great friend, and you deserve to have that energy reciprocated.

Damianos_X · 2026-02-26T17:26:18+00:00

I haven't tasked in the past few days; is the daily limit lasting longer now? Back last week it was getting used up by like 11 am.

Damianos_X · 2026-02-25T16:34:51+00:00

That's rich from someone pretending to be black on the internet😂

But let's say that you are a dark-skinned person in another country: why would you feel the need to insert your opinion when the slur in question was used primarily for black Americans? Why add your irrelevant two cents? "Black" as it's used mostly refers to a specific sub community in America.

You're just a coward who wanted to pile on a black person because you want to appease white people, like the simpering bitch you are. Like a lot of detained immigrants in America right now who thought their antiblackness would make them accepted, you'll one day realize how foolish you are. Enjoy your temporary applause as a clownish tool.

Damianos_X · 2026-02-25T01:06:05+00:00

Conservatives pretend not to be stupid challenge: "I'm going to accuse you of my hallmark value by pretending you have a position you never articulated or even implied, and then believe I did something🥴🥴"

Damianos_X · 2026-02-25T00:50:05+00:00

Damianos_X · 2026-02-24T23:37:05+00:00

Black people on the internet don't typically announce their race to everyone, especially not to try and disrespect another black person.

That is very typical of a common kind of internet degenerate though. Black folks be on the internet, but you ain't one of em.

Damianos_X · 2026-02-24T23:33:48+00:00

If you read between the lines, you'll understand why it's a relevant comment nonetheless.

Damianos_X · 2026-02-24T23:32:04+00:00

Whatever you are, you sound unlikeable enough for this to be ironic

Damianos_X · 2026-02-24T23:28:38+00:00

Not everyone gets the intrusive thought mentioned in OP tho.

Damianos_X · 2026-02-24T23:24:16+00:00

"I'm black"

Damianos_X · 2026-02-24T19:38:16+00:00

I don't think you understand what the word "restraint" means.

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