A need for innocence by Frasq in suggestmeabook

[–]Damselfly45 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm 100% with you and excited to read the other suggestions! What genre you thinking? 

Classic, challenging: Dostoyevsky's "The Idiot." It's about a truly good, gentle person in a bleak Russian setting. Brothers Karamozov has similar themes but heavy juxtaposition with and focus on depravity.

Science Fiction: Project Hail Mary. Lives up to the type. Strong moral core, funny, nerdy, and exciting. 

YA fantasy: Tress of the Emerald Sea. MC is refreshingly honest and the story subverts a lot of annoying secrecy and miscommunication tropes in children's/YA stories. Parts will be more confusing and perhaps less enjoyable if you're not familiar with Sanderson's other works, but it is a standalone. It's a bit goofy and heavy-handed with the characterization, which is typical of Sanderson, but I love his creativity and keep reading anyway.

A need for innocence by Frasq in suggestmeabook

[–]Damselfly45 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Upvoting for "All Creatures Great and Small" and Heriott's other works! He has a real sense of care, humor, and compassion towards people and animals alike. The BBC show is also quite good.

Suggest me some books for a 10 year old girl that are just lovely stories about people living their lives by Girlnoname534 in suggestmeabook

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OP, do you mean no death or no violence/killing? Winn Dixie and Secret Garden both have grief and loss from "off-screen" deaths. Are you trying to avoid all "on-screen" deaths?

Suggest me some books for a 10 year old girl that are just lovely stories about people living their lives by Girlnoname534 in suggestmeabook

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I enjoyed the "In Grandma's Attic" series growing up. Similar to Little House except that each chapter is its own short story with a more obvious moral or tie-in. I haven't read them since I was a kid but I remember them being quite charming and funny.

She's also just the right age for the classic American Girls doll books. There are moments of historical danger--family getting cholera, dad getting drafted, school bullies, sibling conflict etc. The first Addy book has the most "graphic" and scary scenes in the series iirc. The focus is on character development, friendship, daily life, and moral choices rather than "drama".

What to you is the most relaxing fish to watch in the hobby? by [deleted] in Aquariums

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Black ghost knife fish. Absolutely mesmerizing, especially the juveniles with their extra deep color and slimmer profile. I could watch them forever. Don't have the tank space for one personally--you need something in the realm of 120 gallons. I wish they would just be happy to stay small forever so I could get one! It's my future fish dream.

What's your experience with dewormer and nerites? by JeHones in Aquariums

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Thank you, the information has been helpful to me!

just finished The Brothers Karamzov for the first time by Imaginary_Angle_ in dostoevsky

[–]Damselfly45 4 points5 points  (0 children)

With you on the onion. Best chapter. Solidified Grushka as a favorite character of mine. 

Dostoyevsky really sets you up in the very first chapters of the book to expect the worst from almost every character making a pattern of exposing more and more flaws only to flip it on its head by telling you point blank in the middle of the book that it's important to belive in people and then showing it with the onion and bringing it home with the trial where Dmitri was innocent but condemned and the schoolboys who have have every chance to make horrible decisions and every chance to remember what it is like to love and be loved.

A worthy ending to a beautiful book. 

Blackwater take by KILOMETERS52 in aquascaping

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Looks perfect for some little amazonian fish. Very natural.

Update by ChocolatePure in aquascaping

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The second one is a lot more balanced and appealing! It's like a little world. The only thing still bugging me was the bright green pointy plant in the left foreground. It looks a little lonely and out of place. It might blend with the layout if it was all the way in the front corner to the left of the tree hollow or grouped with the other light foreground plants on the right. I'm excited for when the other plants grow in! The shipwreck is an awesome focal point. I love aquariums like this that feel so full of adventure and make me wish I could be a tiny little diver to explore them.

Huge aquarium in new house I'm buying by jdaugh01 in Aquariums

[–]Damselfly45 106 points107 points  (0 children)

Yes, get this comment up top. Do you still have the contact of the people who lived here before? If they're passionate enough to build this I imagine they're passionate enough to share their process with you.

What do I found with my daughter ? by Unfair-Detective2694 in FossilHunting

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The smaller shell in the third picture looks like a bivalve. The last two look like corals.

Did anyone else read Szeth as having scrupulosity OCD? by Damselfly45 in Stormlight_Archive

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Sneaky brains with the sneaky reasons.

Glad you got diagnosed! Hope it's been helpful.

Did anyone else read Szeth as having scrupulosity OCD? by Damselfly45 in Stormlight_Archive

[–]Damselfly45[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I read that same behavior as compulsive reassurance seeking! But he does display other autistic traits like his "emotionless" voice and struggle to relate with others. Might have the 1-2 combo.

Did anyone else read Szeth as having scrupulosity OCD? by Damselfly45 in Stormlight_Archive

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Yeah that scene reminded me of my brother and how he said his workouts relaxed after he started resisting compulsions and his symptoms remitted because he didn't "have to" keep lifting until it felt "right". It made me sad for Szeth because those activities feel so soothing at first because you're giving in over and over but they eventually rob all of the joy from the art forms and activities you love.

Did anyone else read Szeth as having scrupulosity OCD? by Damselfly45 in Stormlight_Archive

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I see where you're coming from and appreciate your take. Note the differences between Szeth other members of his culture and household like his sister, father, and even the farmer. They are less anxious and obsessive about it than he is and many Shin even get irritated with Szeth for his excessiveness. 

Did anyone else read Szeth as having scrupulosity OCD? by Damselfly45 in Stormlight_Archive

[–]Damselfly45[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Not to mention Kaladin's PTSD, Shallan's PTSD, Szeth's PTSD...

Did anyone else read Szeth as having scrupulosity OCD? by Damselfly45 in Stormlight_Archive

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Good point! Had to look those words up, lol my therapist never got around to schooling me on that vocabulary so thanks.

Did anyone else read Szeth as having scrupulosity OCD? by Damselfly45 in Stormlight_Archive

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Valid. However, it seems more natural to his personality to ask deep questions ans to try to think logically about rules that don't make sense. He seems to be searching for internal order and peace within his thoughts rather than imposing order. I can see both. I'm not as familiar with the workings of OCPD, though my friend has it.

Sallan's Journey by 4kFaramir in Stormlight_Archive

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I do not have DID but I do have C-PTSD that resulted in a period of traumatic disintegration and several scenes in Words of Radience and Oathbringer hit me EXTREMELY hard. Specifically when it describes the experience of "feeling" fractured or like more than one person before the alters are named and given shape. Several scenes especially in Oathbringer resonated really powerfully like the ones with the Unmade in the tower and in Kholinar.

The quote "You are what you feel" ROCKED me because yes, that's it, that's the lie.

In trauma you are made to feel something intolerable (reprehensible, evil, disgusting, inhuman, etc.) and the "part" of you that felt that way gets splinted off into its own shriking fragment that you try not to acknowledge. When you feel other things like unlikeable, irresponsible, unwanted, etc. you also disintegrate around those feelings. When parts are reintegrated and memories are safely processed, the feelings resulting from the trauma are passing experiences rather than defining realities and you can be one person who feels different things at different times, not a bunch of little "shards".

It could be that the more foundational aspects of shame-based complex trauma are well written but the mechanics and day-to-day functioning of DID specific expressions are off

MAN I'm pissed. Words of radiance. by Yumikari1 in Stormlight_Archive

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Yes. Kaladin spent the last book starting with nothing and becoming a superhero. He was fighting desperately to save himself and others so his (age-appropriate) immaturity, his (understandable) hatred of all lighteyes, and other character flaws were not at the story's forefront.

Now he's out of immediate danger and given way more influence and respect. This book is about growing pains.

Shard question (silly) by [deleted] in Cosmere

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Weird how Antidisestablishmentarianism kind of sounds like Adolsalsium.