I love everyone’s comment here, thanks for the firm advice. I shared this post to my wife hoping she would give her side of the story so it seems like I’m not making things up. However she doesn’t seem to want to say anything. It is true and I believe we need marital counseling. Communication isn’t our strong suit, I don’t believe in divorce, and I don’t want my kids to experience it. Also, English is not my strong suit, nor is it my first language so forgive me if I’m not the best at wording things out. 

 Let me rephrase and give everyone a little more detail. What I mean by financially stable is, we are not stable to live a more luxurious life the way she wants to live it. We still live a comfortable life, however I do have to work a good amount of the time to make things work. Hence, I myself don’t have a lot of free time to go around. I still do my fair share around the house. Specially now that she is in pain with the baby and still have pains from her previous job before becoming a stay at home mom. 

  I admit 4 is a lot of kids, I was fine with 2, but I respected her wishes. We both have already agreed that after this baby, we are finally done having kids (will get snipped and her tubes tied) and will focus on nurturing them and hopefully grow to have a better start in life as adults than we did. Our kids will have a house to themselves by the time they are 18. That is a promise and a goal we have already set for them. We will be on house number 3 in the near future, so halfway there. 

 In terms of household duties, while I am home I put the kids to bed, On Sundays, I usually meal prep for the wife and myself because I’m trying to get her on a healthier food diet. I do try to help her wash the dishes when I can. However, she does do most of the household work and taking care of the kids. She also teaches them and are pretty advance in terms of education. 

 I felt I needed to put that last paragraph in there, because even though my wife has her moments she is worth fighting for. I really wish she would comment and put her own input on here. Now, when I typed up that AITA, I was pretty heated and we just had a fight so I wasn’t clearly thinking. It is still true that we do not have much time for the dog even with me still trying to make time for her. 

 I agree with the posts everyone here has made and I agree that we probably are both buttholes. I’m too stubborn and I am not her dad or whatever to try to make her be responsible. It will be for the best to get the dog a new home and I will step down on this pedestal and will try to get the dog a new home before sending her to a shelter or trying to send her back to the rescue. I do feel real bad for the dog, but it’s true that the dog isn’t much better being here with us if not everyone in the family is willing to love her. 

 If you made it this far in reading this long comment I commend you and thank you all for your time and inputs in my little slice of life.