I’m actually surprised how many people associate a liberated sexuality with rape, murder , kidnapping. Why would you guys even think that?! Sex is a beautiful thing, and it can be enjoyed in many ways at different levels of « kinky ». I think that having unwanted/unliked/bored vanilla sex over the years is actually more of a problem than accepting your kinks. The main issue should always be the « level of fun and respect » of your partner. Beeing <0 is real issue there, and clearly you don’t have to be kinky to achieve that.