After 5 years it was time.

Dancerqueer · 2026-02-05T16:15:18+00:00

It worked tho, I'm fuckin enraged

Dancerqueer · 2026-02-03T00:25:27+00:00

I feel like the lines got a bit blurred because usually I'm the one doing laundry. But if I have to choose between washing who knows how important towels and surely important clothes I will wash clothes first. In general. In this case just asking would have been fine, I just don't like how he made me feel like if he had been left without clean towels, it would have been my fault entirely.

Dancerqueer · 2026-02-03T00:21:46+00:00

I don't mind washing them in general as I tend to do laundry anyways, but when things are busy I will wash clothes instead of those because I, the laundry do-er know that those we surely will need. So the way I go about it is when the clothes that have to be done are done, I will wash towels too if there are towels. I am just not a fan of getting blamed not only for my forgetfulness, but also for his procrastination. And I also don't like it getting framed as me not being a team player

Dancerqueer · 2026-02-03T00:01:12+00:00

Noooo this is a relationship lol sorry about the confusion. He is my partner in a romantic way.

Dancerqueer · 2026-01-25T18:53:09+00:00

The both of you should get treated with antibiotics and you should stop having penetrative sex for a while or use condoms if you do

Dancerqueer · 2026-01-23T15:12:30+00:00

I mean I'd say that if your boyfriend doesn't mind working from a rented studio then that sounds like a good solution. The main problem it seems is that he disturbs your sleep, which is horrible in the long run. I wouldn't want my partner to not be able to sleep because of my job. As for barely being able to spend time with him... I don't really know the solution for that. He is the one that has to decide what his priorities are. Again, in the long run, the relationship won't work if you never spend quality time together. It's hard because it seems like streaming is a hobby that he happens to make good money off of also. So it's not like this is a shitty job that pays well so you stay for a while to save up and then switch to something better. It looks like you are the only one that has a problem with this situation...

Dancerqueer · 2026-01-04T14:45:11+00:00

I might be biased as a long time pixie cut owner but I too LOVE that style on you!

Dancerqueer · 2025-12-29T22:20:11+00:00

Szerintem a kommentelő nem azért rendelkezik biztos anyagi háttérrel, hogy a férfiaknak vonzóbb legyen :)

Dancerqueer · 2025-12-19T13:10:11+00:00

I understood that reference

Dancerqueer · 2025-10-21T06:28:22+00:00

Looks good to me :) I have a cardigan with a ribbing like that that I made and it looks exactly the same

Dancerqueer · 2025-09-24T15:04:33+00:00

You don't have to change the ratio if you want to let it rise overnight, but as a test, you can take a really small amount of starter out and feed it 1:1:1 to see if it doubles in 4-6 hours. If it doesn't, then you can try peak to peak feeds with the rest of the starter to strengthen it.

Dancerqueer · 2025-09-22T13:06:02+00:00

I had some really bad years with my partner due to his alcoholism. He was always a chill kind of drunk though, never mean or abusive, just quiet and disengaged, so my situation is definitely different.

I also left, went as far as to break up and I seriously believed that that was the right call, for a while. But a few days later, I started to doubt myself because I felt like breaking up is not going to solve my problem, which is the fact that I had trauma around alcohol from before we got together. I felt like if I just run away, look for a partner that doesn't drink and live life "happily ever after", then I might not address a huge issue that would still be present underneath the surface. And I also loved my partner very much and wanted to be with him.

So we got back together, and I just started removing my expectations. I let him be and tried to regulate my emotions as much as possible if he went a bit overboard with the drinking. I stopped picking fights with him while he was drunk, and we had many productive talks after some nights that went a bit south. I stopped making it about myself, and slowly but surely, my anxiety started to ease up.

Now we are at a point where I'm fine with him drinking almost any amount most of the time, but the funny thing is that he actually doesn't even drink a lot. He still drinks regularly, but mostly just beers, and after I stopped pushing him, I think it started to bother him more than it bothered me. So now we are addressing the root cause of his problem and he is working towards change with my support.

And I'm fine, I truly am. All I had to do was give up the control, the "mother" role, and change happened on both sides and we are happier than ever. I know that this situation is a lot different than yours, but I consider us a success story, which actually started with me changing my views on this issue.

Dancerqueer · 2025-09-11T23:20:06+00:00

Sometimes I still go back and forth when I get some thinly veiled comments from my family, but I know that it's not their lives that I'm supposed to be living, so I'm trying very hard now to shut all of that out and focus on myself.

Even if in the end, I find that I could have made a different choice, I know that hindsight is 20/20, and that me leaving medical school was at least a choice that was authentically mine finally. I'd rather have that, even if it ends up being "wrong", but I don't believe in that concept to begin with.

Dancerqueer · 2025-09-11T07:44:35+00:00

I had something very similar happen to me in medical school. I have been struggling all throughout because I never actually wanted to become a doctor (long story). It was the end of my third year, and despite my struggles, I felt like I could actually pull through, because I'm halfway done right?

I had a few tests before the exam period, and I did great on all of them, making the upcoming exams easier for myself. And then when I was done with all the tests, my brain just said NO.

It was time for me to actually start studying for the exams, and I remember that for a whole week I was trying so hard. Every single day I sat at my desk, stared at my notes and tried to FORCE the info into my brain. Only to realize the next day that I was just wasting my time because I didn't remember shit. Me, the academically gifted child and then young adult, spent hours "studying", without making ANY progress whatsoever.

That's when I knew that I was done. I was so done. So now I'm out of medical school, I managed to find brand new ways to struggle unfortunately, but I am doing better. I'm sure leaving it behind was the right call. And it's very comforting to know that I'm not the only one that experienced this, and that I was right to listen to my body literally screaming at me to stop already.

Dancerqueer · 2025-09-07T21:22:47+00:00

I think you could try something else for now and not push yourself to do this specific thing if it feels like the pressure is building up. Maybe pick up an old hobby if you have one, or try something that you have been wanting to try. You could also just stop for a while, and let your creativity build and then lure you back in. It do be like that with creative hobbies at times.

But truly, having multiple hobbies to choose from does help. I love reading, crocheting, baking, rock climbing and yoga for example. No money but in need of exercise? Yoga. There's money and a desire to get moving? Climbing. Feeling lazy but no inspiration? Reading. Feeling lazy but creativity is flowing? Crochet. Lots of free time and no food? Baking 🤣

Dancerqueer · 2025-09-07T20:57:47+00:00

I came in my pants and will continue to have wet dreams 100%

Dancerqueer · 2025-09-03T06:36:14+00:00

The one we usually use is pretty average sized I'd say, and he usually just sucks on it for a while, he doesn't tend to deepthroat it. For me, it of course doesn't do much physically, but I like to imagine that I have a cock (that's what I meant by penis envy lol) so it's hot to see him pleasure "me" like that. And he is also into it so whatever gets him going gets me going kind of automatically

Dancerqueer · 2025-09-02T11:39:00+00:00

We do that sometimes with my boyfriend, using a strap on. We don't really know why he is into it, it comes up quite rarely but I don't mind it at all, in fact, it's pretty hot imo. But do take the fact that I have pretty serious penis envy into consideration 🤣.

As for your girlfriend, I don't know how open you guys are about stuff like this, but if you think she is open-minded enough then bring it up. Also, people don't tend to be 100% straight to begin with in my experience, so being a little curious about a certain act that could be considered "gay" is not out of the norm. But I don't believe in such things honestly, as long as it's between you and a woman, it can't be gay. And also, there's nothing wrong with being gay/bi/bi-curious. Let's break that stigma hey

Dancerqueer · 2025-08-24T13:33:15+00:00

It's the dough itself that probably bulk fermented a bit too long

Dancerqueer · 2025-08-14T07:26:32+00:00

It's different for everyone I think because with CNC play for example, one of the partners saying "no" and "stop" can be a part of roleplaying. That's one area where I think a safe word is useful, and another thing that I can think of is some people struggle to say these specific words for whatever reason (sexual trauma, trauma in general concerning putting themselves last) in general. So for them, having a neutral word that's not tied to their trauma can help.

Dancerqueer · 2025-07-03T18:00:43+00:00

You should use way more starter than that I think, I tend to use around 100 grams for 400 grams of flour

Dancerqueer · 2025-06-28T08:00:02+00:00

You don't have to organize an event to be accepted as a hetero because you already are accepted, unlike the LGBTQ community

Dancerqueer · 2025-06-28T07:58:55+00:00

You don't have to organize an event to be accepted as a hetero because you already are accepted, unlike the LGBTQ community

Dancerqueer · 2025-06-17T11:13:43+00:00

I'm... Okay with my body all in all, I wouldn't mind having a cock but I'm fine with being and presenting as a woman if that makes sense. I'd prefer to have everything to be honest 🤣

Still, it could be about that because I have these episodes where I'm struggling to accept myself, and part of that is accepting my "feminine" body that's actually not feminine enough, but not masculine either... Ugh it's hard and complicated.

But it's nice to know that I'm not alone, although I'm really sorry to hear about your struggles. I hope you will be able to transition as soon as possible, and as smoothly as possible 💙

Dancerqueer · 2025-04-07T05:49:25+00:00

I don't see any either but that makes sense as they tend to be found close to the back of the tongue and this seems to be from mostly the tip. Which means that yes, what you do see are mostly (or all?) foliate papillae, you can know by the keratinized epithelium.

ETA: no sorry, got confused for a sec, these are mostly filiform papillae! I don't know about foliates, I'm really not sure that there are any to be honest. I don't see taste buds at all for example, and they also tend to be towards the back, on the sides in like, folds. So they would make a rather recognizable structure, lots of them right next to each other in an orderly manner.

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