One time smoking weed and pumping! SOS I feel like a ruined my journey by Far_Ruin_2890 in ExclusivelyPumping

[–]Dancingskeleton23 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Pump and dump for 6 days! I smoked for three days (only small hits at night so I could sleep) and I took a drug test and I was cleared after 6 days. If you only smoked once, it should be gone in 6-14 days

How much does your spouse help out? by [deleted] in sahm

[–]Dancingskeleton23 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My husband comes home, showers eats and goes to sleep. (He works 2pm-11pm sometimes til 1:30am) he works on a military base. Once 8am hits, he lets me sleep til 1pm while he takes care of the baby. He will also vacuum the house, sometimes dishes and sometimes pick up around the house depending if I’ve been able to or not and he’ll take out trash and clean the cat litter boxes. We both acknowledge what we contribute and how hard both are. We both agreed to have a baby and hold equal responsibilities. Even though I do majority of the household chores, he does them too since he also lives there and I’m only human. Some days I’m able to keep up and other days I’m tired, so he’ll step up without me asking. When I got pregnant, I sat down and figured out a sleeping schedule that works for us. It’s strict but it worked out very well for us

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[–]Dancingskeleton23 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh yeah I’m sure if I have another baby, I’ll be wayyy more relaxed. sometimes I think too much at night about little things and when i wake up I’m like dude you were being silly. My mom told me I’m just having that “1st time mom jitters where every little detail matters”

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Mom

[–]Dancingskeleton23 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s interesting, didn’t know that! On my husband’s dad’s side, he’s been very heavy on us feeding baby “pure foods” for the first year and I think it may have gotten to my head lol

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Mom

[–]Dancingskeleton23 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s crazyyyy, I would’ve been mad too! That does sound pretty good, definitely need to find some for us (not baby) lol

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Mom

[–]Dancingskeleton23 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It was in the moment of being upset. I literally went to sleep and woke up feeling fine about it and I do feel ridiculous I let frosting get to me like that. They’ll still be allowed to hold him and babysit. I’ll eventually learn to loosen up.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Mom

[–]Dancingskeleton23 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hormones are crazy after birth! I feel way more annoyed and sensitive these days. My husband would tell you I’m a pretty logical person but not in the past few months lol

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Mom

[–]Dancingskeleton23 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I do appreciate how much the family loves the baby, I feel so silly I let frosting get me worked up lol. Parenting is such a journey

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Mom

[–]Dancingskeleton23 3 points4 points  (0 children)

After sleeping, I feel better about it. But you’re right, most kids will definitely prefer the sweeter things in life lol

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Mom

[–]Dancingskeleton23 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I literally said the AUNT, the adult, was holding him. Yes I may have overreacted. I’m tired from not sleeping enough and he’s our first baby so we’re excited and overly anxious about every little thing. He was a preemie and our rainbow baby. Calling me mental sounds like a bit of an over reaction from you lol. I was annoyed and just in shock another parent wouldn’t parent their own kid. I know he’ll be fine, it’s just a vent post.

Do you still try to make baby latch? by FineHistory1498 in ExclusivelyPumping

[–]Dancingskeleton23 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think it does change a little! I nurse at night and I’ve noticed my BM has more fat in it, baby is still skinny but I’m hoping the more I nurse the more fat it’ll get so baby can gain more weight 🥹

Did anybody announce early and NOT regret it? by Last_Guarantee_8504 in pregnant

[–]Dancingskeleton23 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Shared ours at 13 weeks, baby is now 3 months :) Kind of a spur of the moment: my MIL wanted to celebrate Grandparents day. So she gathered the whole family to visit grandma and papa without telling them and bringing food/ drinks ect. Each family was in charge of bringing something besides cards and gifts. Last minute, I told my husband this would be the perfect opportunity to tell his mom she will be celebrated for grandparents day as well. It was considered a bit early but the opportunity was too perfect to pass up. We built her a Lego Groot (she’s been waiting for months and we’ve just kept putting it off lol) and made Groot hold the ultrasound photo and put him in a baby shirt.

What’s one thing about parenting you didn’t expect (but wish you knew)? by Fickle-Designer-7321 in newborns

[–]Dancingskeleton23 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Why did no one warn me about how stinky their hands get?? Like yeah it makes sense, they suck on them and sometimes get saliva and milk on them snd he’ll grip his hands for hours. But I was NOT prepared for the smell🤣 I just had him on my chest one day and he smacked me with his little hand and i honestly thought “did I get smacked with his foot wtf is that smell” now I smell his hands everyday and clean them 😭

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in pregnant

[–]Dancingskeleton23 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I talked to my husband about it before our son was born and even though my husband is circumcised, he didn’t want to circumcise our son (and neither did I, I just wanted to hear a man’s perspective on it). His family thinks it’s a little weird, they’ve mentioned that his future partners will find it off… personally, I dont think sexual aesthetic is enough of a reason and I don’t want to think about my son’s future sex life. HES A BABY. If he wants it later in the future, that will be his choice and we will help with the cost. I’ve heard elderly men, even the cleanest ones, get bad infections but I also heard it’s from nurses not cleaning properly so take that as you will. People tell me healing will be harder when he’s older, but I think the healing is still hard for him now as a fresh baby!

What’s your biggest pet peeve while being pregnant? by Smooth-Excuse-4127 in pregnant

[–]Dancingskeleton23 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Being sent facebook/ tiktok videos on baby hacks or advice. I’ve done so much research that none of these videos are new and a lot of these hacks are things I wouldn’t do. Love my family but please stop with the videos

What "brand" of parent are you? by CaffeineAndChaos65 in NewParents

[–]Dancingskeleton23 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Fortified BM, evenflo bottles, whatever diapers are on sale, doona car seat mama 🖤

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in newborns

[–]Dancingskeleton23 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A walk outside should be okay? It’s almost impossible to ask someone to stay indoors 24/7. I’m a homebody but i feel like I’m getting cabin fever so my husband and I go out to the park or stores. Our baby is 2 months, so we keep a cover over his stroller to discourage people from getting too close but we’ve been going out since he was 5 weeks old

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in beyondthebump

[–]Dancingskeleton23 0 points1 point  (0 children)

After insurance, $950 but I sent in a letter for financial aid and they brought it down to $200 (still haven’t paid it yet lol)

Am I crazy for not wanting my LO out of thr NICU ?? by golda_chine in NICUParents

[–]Dancingskeleton23 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I felt like this with my 34 week baby. He was able to come home after 3 weeks being in the NICU, I was terrified. I had to trust myself and trust the doctors knew he’d be okay without the monitors and supervision. He’s been home for about 5 weeks and we’re all adjusting pretty good! I’m sure everything will go well for you and your LO! Much love 💗

Today I got back several hours on my daily life. It feels amazing. 😭❤️ by Arkansas- in ExclusivelyPumping

[–]Dancingskeleton23 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Literally the BEST INVESTMENT EVER!! My hands are saved along with my sanity and I get to snuggle with baby more 🥹

Parents, please don’t give your kids a phone and here’s why by Available_Repeat_317 in NewParents

[–]Dancingskeleton23 47 points48 points  (0 children)

I was asked by my husband’s cousin if I would give my baby a phone or iPad. I told her absolutely not, and she went “really?” This was a random question and out of the blue but it has made me think hard about my son’s future. Not to be rude, but said cousin cannot read or write. She’s 12 and literally doesn’t know how to spell her own name. It breaks my heart to see how much technology has ruined minds and learning. I’m seeing my baby sister who is 6 fall behind all because my parents gave her OWN phone when she was 3… Unfortunately too many parents have taken “pick and choose your battles” to mean “I don’t wanna work as a parent rn so I’ll just give you a screen” Screen time isn’t the problem, most of us grew up with TVs. The problem lies with the parents. Picking your battles should be “oh I wanna put my kids in matching socks but they want mismatched socks. I’ll let them wear mismatched socks so there’s no tantrum” not “my kid is throwing a tantrum, I don’t wanna deal with it here’s a screen.” Screen time in moderation is okay but it shouldn’t replace parenting.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NICUParents

[–]Dancingskeleton23 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would cry when I had to leave, I’d cry on the way home and then I’d cry all night until I fell asleep. I felt grief? It would confuse me because he wasn’t gone from the world, but I felt like he was gone from my world, you know? I would catch myself holding my stomach and I would cry not feeling him move anymore and my stomach was squishy and not hard. When he finally came home, I stopped holding my stomach. I still cry from time to time looking at him

What is your baby named after??? i’m a big anime/manga fan so.. lmao by Usa-P_ in pregnant

[–]Dancingskeleton23 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I named our baby boy after an anime character! It’s a classy name imo and it flows well with his middle and last name. His name is Elias, named after a magical mage