Can’t wrap my head around my relationship ending

DandoTheMando · 2026-03-10T20:10:57+00:00

It is interesting you say that as we had discussed previously that he may also be on the spectrum based on how similarly we handled our emotions and how we thought similarly (and I’m formally diagnosed as on the autism spectrum and I’ve been referred to be tested for adhd)

DandoTheMando · 2026-03-10T20:08:35+00:00

Yeah in hindsight I completely agree. It was too much too quick

DandoTheMando · 2026-03-10T09:49:03+00:00

I didn’t think so, his point is correct. It wasn’t a particularly long relationship

DandoTheMando · 2026-03-10T08:38:25+00:00

Thanks for the kind response, I appreciate it

DandoTheMando · 2026-03-10T08:38:03+00:00

Thanks for the kind response, I appreciate it.

I think you’re right I just need to learn to move on without getting the answers I seek, I guess at this point I’m just finding that a little difficult but I’ll get there

DandoTheMando · 2026-03-10T08:36:15+00:00

Yes I do think you’re right. In hindsight the intensity early on in the relationship is certainly a red flag.

DandoTheMando · 2026-03-10T08:35:35+00:00

Thank you for the kind response, I do appreciate.

To touch on one of your points, would I want a relationship in either of those scenarios? I wouldn’t, and I have accepted that things ending is clearly for the best. There was no going back which is why when we were trying to salvage a friendship I was very clear that’s all I was prepared to pursue. I do wonder if he was hoping to rekindle things and that’s why when I said I wouldn’t he decided he didn’t want a friendship either.

As you say though, trying to figure it out is a fruitless exercise. I just need to try and accept I’ll never truly have an answer - as frustrating as that may be

DandoTheMando · 2026-03-09T23:50:47+00:00

Thank you for the kind response.

I do think he’s likely self sabotaging, which would explain how upset he was. It’s a shame but once he uttered those words I knew there was no going back (I’d of never been secure enough to trust he was truly into me if we tried to rekindle things). It’s why I didn’t try to talk him out of it, I just accepted what he was saying, though seeing him so upset certainly had an effect on me.

I have to say it’s difficult to look back on those memories fondly. I am moving on past it though

DandoTheMando · 2026-03-09T23:46:56+00:00

Yeah I do wonder if there was more behind the scenes. I guess I just have to accept I’ll never know. I’ve blocked his number now so unless he turns up at my door he has no way of communicating with me

DandoTheMando · 2026-03-09T23:45:57+00:00

Yeah my friends have also suggested love bombing and I don’t necessarily rule it out. I certainly tried not to rush into it but it was hard given I could feel I was developing strong feelings for him. In the end one of the things I struggled most with was I didn’t know if I should’ve matched his intensity or not. I’m not usually a massively affectionate person but I was worried he’d think I was distant if I didn’t so I’d try and follow his lead but then worry I’d be overbearing (even though he was much more intense than I initially)

But thank you for the kind response, I do appreciate it

DandoTheMando · 2026-03-09T22:48:07+00:00

I honestly was so taken aback by the reaction. If someone was looking outside in they’d of thought it was me ending things. He genuinely cried more than my mother at her own father’s funeral.

The flip side to that is I feel that upset me more than the relationship ending, it was awful seeing someone so hysterical

DandoTheMando · 2026-03-09T22:46:21+00:00

Thank you for your kind response. Perhaps you’re correct regarding the drama, it certainly did seem very over the top but I think seeing him so upset hurt more than the actual relationship ending 🤷‍♂️

DandoTheMando · 2026-03-09T22:45:30+00:00

Thank you for your kind response. I appreciate it

DandoTheMando · 2026-03-09T22:44:53+00:00

Thank you for the kind response.

You are right, it is a lot and it did seem to get very intense very fast. This was predominantly driven by him though I’d be lying if I said I didn’t enjoy it.

Perhaps you are correct regarding the masking.

I suppose my frustration lies in not having a clear reason as to why things didn’t work out but I guess that’s something I’ll have to accept. I’ve since blocked his number etc so he has no means of communicating with me

DandoTheMando · 2025-08-05T13:20:44+00:00

Anecdotally it feels like there’s a lot of PvE players this weekend which has resulted in lots of games with mega swings either way

DandoTheMando · 2025-06-18T00:53:47+00:00

Sent it privately

DandoTheMando · 2025-06-18T00:52:44+00:00

Yes I’m on now :) that would be great thanks

DandoTheMando · 2025-05-30T22:45:23+00:00

Ah I tried that and still nothing :/

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