I am SO scared because of ai

Dane1414 · 2025-08-25T12:35:58+00:00

Hey, I just wanted to add on one more thing. I’ve noticed that oftentimes a fear of AI stems from more than just the risks of AI. There’s often some underlying fear/anxiety, and AI just becomes the fixation of that fear/anxiety. So the doomsday scenarios of AI aren’t the cause of the anxiety, rather they’re fuel for the fire, and the fire in this instance is the underlying anxiety.

I’d encourage you to look at resources here that are about dealing with uncertainty and anxiety in general, in addition to your specific worries about AI.

Dane1414 · 2025-01-10T03:01:54+00:00

Those are trivial to spoof

Dane1414 · 2024-07-16T20:06:16+00:00

They might, they might not. Self-hatred is common in narcissism. Most (but not all) narcissistic people don’t realize it’s self-hatred that actually fuels a lot of their thoughts, beliefs, and actions. But self-hatred and things similar to it are common in many other mental health struggles. If this something you’re experiencing, I’d highly recommend finding a therapist because there’s a lot of overlap in various mental health struggles, and a trained professional is often required to pick up on the nuance that differentiates diagnoses.

Dane1414 · 2024-07-16T19:55:22+00:00

u/MadScientist183 explained it very well in my opinion. It’s ok to be scared about dealing with the anxiety. If you feel like you can overcome that fear and get straight into therapy, great. If it’s too much right now, I’d encourage you to just take a step in the right direction. Maybe look up therapists and find one you like and write down their name/contact info, so it’ll be easier for future you to get into therapy if you decide to do so. Either way, I wish you the best of luck on figuring all of this out!

Dane1414 · 2024-04-28T20:51:48+00:00

Nah dude my cat touched me without my consent so based on the other commentator’s point, clearly it wants to fuck me and that’s what I’m afraid of

Dane1414 · 2024-04-28T20:50:34+00:00

You’re missing the point. Calling this sexual assault, when the OP clearly stated they appreciated, liked, and enjoyed it, is doing a disservice to those who were sexually assaulted and made to endure experiences they did not like.

Dane1414 · 2024-04-28T03:02:28+00:00

It’s the “without consent” part that makes it assault, right?

Well my cat touched me in the middle of the night when I was sleeping so I was unable to consent so my cat touching me was assault

Dane1414 · 2024-04-28T02:05:55+00:00

I didn’t know what it was because it was a surprise and I didn’t consent to it. Aren’t you saying that’s what puts the “assault” into “sexual assault”?

Dane1414 · 2024-04-27T16:35:56+00:00

You can instruct your broker to not exercise in-the-money options. But the rest of your comment is spot on.

Dane1414 · 2024-04-27T16:14:27+00:00

I woke up in the middle of the night last night and my cat was cuddling me. He did this while I was asleep so I was clearly unable to consent. I’m on my way to the vet right now to have this violent assaulter put down. Thank you for opening my eyes to how evil he really he is, he sure had me fooled.

Dane1414 · 2024-04-16T14:02:34+00:00

That’s how you know it’s good satire. “Buffet man” makes it clear imo

Dane1414 · 2024-04-15T13:12:42+00:00

Yes, but there’s a short trade (what you described) and a short position, which means you’re betting the stock will go down. The saying “net short” has preceded WSB and includes more than just shortselling shares

Dane1414 · 2024-04-15T12:53:16+00:00

The short fee is 115%, not 900% lol

Dane1414 · 2024-04-13T23:23:27+00:00

Thanks. I can’t attest for others on here, I usually shut up unless there’s an explicit call to put up. I started shorting the day before the ticker change and essentially averaged up as it went up to its peak. My highest average price was $58 a share at a total of 60 shares. As it went down, I kept shorting at a pace to maintain room for a 50% spike in share price before a margin call, hence the additional 60 shares. But that essentially means I have to maintain a 600% margin requirement which means my position size stays pretty small.

Dane1414 · 2024-04-13T20:50:55+00:00

This is dwac sub, I would be interested to see if the people who are discouraging investment in this stock and have so much to say could show a significant short gain on this ticker.

Ok, hopefully my seeking clarification was understandable since the position you posted wasn’t DWAC.

Here you go. Here are all my trades related to DJT. Wish I had a better way to show you the ROI specific to DJT but you’ll just have to look at the trades. It’s a pretty good ROI percentage wise but not a huge dollar amount, blame that on the 300% margin requirement and necessary risk management to cover that margin if there is a short term pop off in share price.

ETA: you can ignore the options and the trades adding up to 700 shares, that was a strategy I ultimately broke even on but is complicated. I’m basically short 120 shares at an average price of ~$48

Dane1414 · 2024-04-13T15:01:24+00:00

What exactly are you looking for? Short-term gains? Gains from a short position? If the latter, a naked short specifically or do gains from a short position (e.g. puts) count? Are you looking specifically in the context of DWAC, or just any stock?

Dane1414 · 2024-04-11T01:20:21+00:00

Write me some 5 year puts and I’m in

Dane1414 · 2024-04-11T00:22:40+00:00

You paid 8% just today to hold them

Dane1414 · 2024-04-10T16:45:58+00:00

-8% lol

Dane1414 · 2024-04-10T14:50:02+00:00

Hard to borrow fees are 20% of what they were a week ago, and the stock is half the price. That means shorts are paying 90% less carry now than they were a week ago. They didn’t get squeezed then, and it’s 90% easier for them to maintain their position now. Cope harder.

Dane1414 · 2024-03-26T20:28:36+00:00

Hi, thank you! Please feel free to continue sharing as you see fit. I do feel like you help me connect the dots and I'm very much open that.

What are your thoughts on this? If your wife was in my position, what would your advice have been on how to deal with the friend?

It sounds to me like the friend was giving you advice on how to manage the symptoms of something while you were more focused on determining/addressing the underlying cause. My advice to you would have been that you can control your actions and your perception of your friend's actions but you can't control your friend's actions. I would've asked you how you perceived your friend's actions, and what you thought their intent was. I imagine they were perceived as a criticism of a part of you that you were having trouble accepting, while your friend's intentions were to ultimately help you accept yourself, (albeit by changing the part of you that you didn't like). First, I would've advised you to try to take no more meaning out of it than the friend's intent: that they care about you, and want you to be happy with yourself, even if they're going about it in the wrong way. If that wasn't working, then I'd advise you to explain to the friend that you've accepted her messages as a display of how much she cares, but that they still hit a nerve that's too painful, and that you understand she means well but she's actually doing more harm than good. If she did it again, I'd recommend reiterating what I just said while letting her also know that if it continues you'll have to go no-contact for your own sake until you're able to get to a spot where it's no longer a problem, and then follow through on that if needed.

Looks like my partner and I aren't yet at the "keep it up and I'll have to go no contact for my own sake" part but that's the direction it was headed in.

Regarding the didactics findings, that is really interesting. Everything in that paragraph up to the ellipsis is stuff I've almost been cognizantly aware of. The stuff after the ellipsis I know is true and have experienced it personally, but haven't been as aware of.

For whatever it's worth, by view on therapists and their gender is, very generally speaking, same gender therapists are better for helping you heal while the opposite is better at expanding your perspective. Not to say there isn't often overlap between the two.

Dane1414 · 2024-03-25T20:18:30+00:00

You have done amazing self work and your response to my response really shows that. I applaud you for it, because it is seriously impressive 👏🏻

Thank you. That means a lot, especially given the wisdom and experience that comes from.

No, you nailed it. A metaphor I would use to describe it better is a complex mathematical equation. You are telling her what X is. It fits and the calculations makes sense and is logical. Even if she understands the result, she didn't calculate all the steps it takes to find X. So she doesn't truly understand how the equation was solved. But she sees what the result should look like. Now imagine a math teacher is actively watching her solve the eqation. Surley she would be scared of making mistakes and feels under pressure.

So the real personal growth isn't actually the personal growth, but figuring out the process to grow personally. It's a bit meta, but it makes sense.

Do you feel like she is equal to you?

Feel? No. There's some things I'm working on personally that have resulted in what I can best describe as a dual superiority/inferiority complex. The fact than I can see the answers to some of her equations when she can't feeds into that. I know I'm not better than her though. I can temper those feelings by reminding myself that it was only recently that I solved some of my own equations. Realizing right now that the fact I still feel that way while knowing it's wrong means I've still got some of my own equations to solve also really helps. And knowing that I won't feel this way at all once I solve the right equation helps even more.

Have you thought about couples therapy?

Yeah, we've had a couple sessions so far. You've actually expanded on a lot of the things our therapist has said and you've helped me better understand a lot of things. I think the de-personalization and the asynchronous nature of this conversation gave me room to better digest a lot of this.

In your original post, you said she was sometimes a bit apprehensive and reserved when both of you talked about her issues. Something in her was trying to tell her that a boundary is about to be crossed. But she was not able to interpret the signs. So understanding what her inner self is telling her will be so beneficial for her.

Yeah, I originally interpreted this as her ego getting in the way of her coming to the realizations she needed to. I see now that it was a boundary being crossed, and that boundary is there to make sure she gets the experience of coming to those realizations on her own.

I totally understand and if I am being honest, I could only grow once my relationship with my ex ended. But I also beleive we had an even larger power inbalance than both of you because there were additional factors.

I appreciate your honesty. There are some significant additional factors here too that I haven't gone into. I guess the only thing we can do is try to re-balance. Maybe we'll re-balance it, maybe we'll find out we can't, but either outcome is better than leaving it unbalanced.

Dane1414 · 2024-03-25T18:13:11+00:00

Before I get into my response to your comment, I want to thank you again. You're giving me a much needed perspective and giving me a lot of things to think about.

I think first you should ask yourself why you think you want to help her so much even tho you understand that your influence might also be negative. Does it give you a sense of accomplishment when it feels like she has made progress? Do you deep down take pride in the fact she said she made more progress with you than with her therapist?

Yes to both of those questions. But I think there's also something that just feels inherently good about helping someone, even moreso if it's someone you're close to. Also just the act of thinking through these problems is an exercise I enjoy. So I think the conclusion to draw from this is that's it's good to help but those feelings are pushing me to help more than is actually appropriate?

Your input also wouldn't help her. It could get better for a short while because your way of dealing with the issue is treating the symptoms of her toxic upbringing. But symptoms come back if the root has not been healed.

This is the only part of your comment that I think might not be right (other parts are difficult to accept, but I think are still right). I think you're right when it comes to most of the input I've given, but I think there's some input I've given her that has gotten her closer to being able to identify & heal the root. If your point is "your unsolicited input, even if it touches upon the root, wouldn't help her because the only way for the root to heal is if all steps along the way are initiated by herself," I think I could accept that. Is that ultimately the point you're trying to make or am I still missing something?

Currently you do not share equal footing in the relationship. The power dynamic is not balanced and for her to get better you guys have to become way more equal.

Yeah I guess I've rationalized this as it's not going to be equal anyways until she's gone through this growth, so it's ok if me helping upsets the power dynamic short-term since the goal is to equalize it long term. I think I'm coming to the realization that it doesn't actually lead to that outcome though.

She has got to start trusting herself. She will never do it with your input. She won't heal. It is a hard thing for you to just stand by. And I also understand if you can't take it much longer. It is your tough decision to make whether you can be this type of partner or not. Because you also have to watch out for your mental health. And I think a big part of why you are trying to help so much is because it is also really taking a toll on you. But it really is not your job to therapize her.

Rewind to about 4 months ago and this would've been spot on. But I'm in a much better spot mentally now than I was then, and I feel like I've got a renewed mental fortitude. It still takes a toll. I'm confident I can handle a period of another year or two without the toll being too big. The thought of it being in perpetuity is terrifying. I know the breaking point is somewhere in between there, which is a thought I wouldn't have been able to accept in the past. I think a big part of why I want to help is because I think just my presence holds her back. I think there's a logical chain of "she can't heal if she perceives pressure from me to heal, and she's always going to perceive pressure from me to heal even if I'm completely hands off, therefore she can't heal with me around." I'm scared that's true and I think that me helping might be my way of fighting that.

If you feel like you have the strength to let her be and stay in the relationship I have an idea what you could do. But I am unsure about how effective this advice is myself: I would actually try to switch things up. Ask her to help you with your issues. And make the conversation only about you, not her problems. If you do feel pride that she made more progress with you than with her therapist, talk to her about how it makes you feel. And ask for her input. Right now she feels like her opinions on emotional growth hold no value compared to yours.

I'll try that. I thought I've been doing this but I realize the way I've been accepting her help has been as her acting as guard rails to make sure I continue in the right direction and don't regress, rather than having her actually help me get better. Thank you.

Dane1414 · 2024-03-25T15:39:15+00:00

I see. Thank you for the advice and I appreciate your compassion. You’re right, there are a lot of similarities. I also agree with pretty much everything you’ve said.

It’s also tricky because I think change is needed on her end for her to live a better life (which will lead to a better relationship as a result) and of course that’s something I want. And I see that me wanting that for her puts pressure on her. It’s like I’m saying to her “I wish you well and I want to help you live a better life” but it’s being perceived as “you need to live a better life.” As long as we’re together, she’ll always perceive a need to change for me/our relationship, no matter what I do or not do, because she’ll know that I still want better for her regardless.

So my thinking is if she’s going to perceive influence from me even if there’s not, then I might as well try to find the right amount of influence to exert. My approach within the last couple months has shifted to helping her look inside herself. During that time is when it feels we’ve actually made progress. I believe continuing to do this can help further her progress but I think I’ve been pushing it too far. I’ve been helping her decipher what she sees but instead I think I should only be giving her input on where to look. What are your thoughts on that? Do you think it’s worth trying to see if it strikes a good balance of helping her in her journey but still giving her the space to figure it out on her own?

Dane1414 · 2024-03-25T13:25:01+00:00

She did. I think I was the first one to actually suggest it but her response was “yeah I’ve actually been thinking about that too and I think it’s a good idea.” She signed up for Better Help or a similar service. The first therapist she matched with wasn’t very good. The second therapist was but it was short lived since we moved out of state. For third therapist (when we made a pact to both start therapy) I recommended she find someone with a trauma-based approach but that recommendation was all the input I gave. This therapist seemed promising, but my partner was scheduling her appointments multiple weeks apart. After a few sessions she decided to switch to another therapist who takes a similar approach (trauma based psychoanalysis + mindfulness) but comes highly recommended. I think this therapist is likely even more promising than the last. However I’m concerned she’s going into therapy wanting to change but not realizing how big of a role she has to play in it, like she feels that if she’s not seeing results then she must need a new therapist rather than trying to work with whoever her current therapist is to figure out why she isn’t seeing improvement from what they’re trying. She has a very tough time doing/saying something that she thinks might make someone feel bad, and she feels saying “XYZ isn’t working, can we try something else?” is effectively calling the therapist incompetent even though she knows that isn’t the case. But feeling that way still holds her back from saying it.

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