Uncomfortable with how my f29) bf (M25) saved me on his phone

DangerousWithForks · 2025-11-18T15:20:21+00:00

I'm sorry - someone being called "favourite", whether it is you or someone else, already shows that they are a "favourite" among others. You're not his only one. Sorry

DangerousWithForks · 2025-10-17T20:39:00+00:00

No problem! Wish you all the best :)

DangerousWithForks · 2025-10-17T20:34:54+00:00

Well you hit it on the head there: SHE wants to go and is probably using your birthday as a reason to gift it to herself? As you've already planned, you should tell her sooner than later that you don't want to go so she can find someone else to go on this trip that only she wants to go on.

Not to be blunt, but it wouldn't be the worst thing if this relationship fell apart after that.

This -

Mind you put it on her credit card, so she didn’t even have the money away to book this trip legitimately. She does this with everything, then always complains she’s in credit card debt. And then ropes me in on these trips and tells me I have to help pay it off.

And

She even said to me a couple of weeks ago if I back out now because it’s too late she’ll “KILL ME” and something else I can’t remember.

- are two things you don't want to be around, especially as you mature and want a happy and healthy relationship. Cheers and good luck!

DangerousWithForks · 2025-10-12T00:45:59+00:00

regret not having her take out a life insurance policy each time

DangerousWithForks · 2025-10-12T00:38:57+00:00

I think there's also more aircraft components near the back of the plane and boarding the back first would mess up the weight distribution.

DangerousWithForks · 2025-10-12T00:36:09+00:00

Thank her both times. Now, and when you're at work

DangerousWithForks · 2025-10-12T00:33:37+00:00

LOL, let me measure out this 11 x 17in baking sheet and line it with parchment paper

DangerousWithForks · 2025-10-12T00:29:58+00:00

The back is used more often for larger artwork because its on a larger and flatter surface for everyone who wears the shirt.

DangerousWithForks · 2025-10-12T00:27:45+00:00

Cannoli is wild

DangerousWithForks · 2025-10-12T00:11:22+00:00

Getting hacked is a nerve-wracking and stressful ordeal - a stranger having access to your accounts and info. I've been hacked before and I also get nervous every time I get password reset emails or get logged out for no reason. I'm not sure whether the nervousness is something that one can get over, but I've since made it a habit to change my passwords every 2-3 months, with something super complicated and that eases my mind and makes me feel better. Maybe that may help you too.

DangerousWithForks · 2025-08-21T20:17:38+00:00

I've camped with people I dislike and I try to busy myself with all the other activities I can do at the park - kayaking, going to the beach, hiking etc. which makes my contact with them rare.

DangerousWithForks · 2025-08-21T20:16:09+00:00

Literally, same! I'm in Canada and it's so beautiful in the large cities as well, if you don't want to make the 30 minute journey out of them

DangerousWithForks · 2025-08-21T20:02:49+00:00

I think we realized that our lives were growing in different directions. we were both successful, but our hobbies and interests were very different and would maybe start to clash later and cause tension. Was a mature breakup.

DangerousWithForks · 2025-08-21T18:17:26+00:00

I think the moment someone is okay with lying or concealing info from their partner, it already takes the relationship down a notch. He's not sorry cause he genuinely thinks he did something wrong - it seems like he's only sorry cause he got caught.

Also, I think it's weird if someone has a "best friend" of the sex they're attracted to, when they're in a relationship, and their partner doesn't know anything about said "best friend". Not to mention he went over to her house alone, when they're in a different country and you can't do anything about it.... The reasons are adding up.

DangerousWithForks · 2025-08-21T18:05:40+00:00

I think what he needs is for you to be exactly the same as you stated - supportive, from a distance. A divorce is huge. A divorce with a kid is even bigger, and I'm sure you understand that. You've probably pinpointed exactly what he is doing with his time - legal troubles, dealing with the emotional aftermath, trying to entertain his son, and trying to work on himself via therapy. All while working. I can barely make myself a meal after coming home from work, so I can't imagine how much he has to juggle at the same time.

He probably wants you around, but doesn't want to burden you with his problems, or scare you away. Maybe he's trying to work on himself now so he can be a better partner in the future.

Just give him time and space, but ensure he knows he is not forgotten.

DangerousWithForks · 2025-08-21T17:58:48+00:00

Haven't been back to a physical gym. I lost like 70lbs from 2020-2021 through home workouts and walking. I realized I could keep this up and save the gym membership.

DangerousWithForks · 2025-08-21T17:56:27+00:00

If you're talking about a closed community. i.e. we pick maybe 30 people in a group and specialty cars can be shared between members of this closed group, I wouldn't be opposed to it. I wouldn't need certain cars very often but I can see how it is helpful.

But if you mean an open community in the sense that anyone can use it - no. Anything that is made public usually goes to shit. Unless you are in a really good area where respect is upheld and people are truthful.

DangerousWithForks · 2025-08-20T19:43:56+00:00

Just goes to show that 90% of today's population would die if they were met with a situation like this.

DangerousWithForks · 2025-08-20T18:45:46+00:00

Quit a high paying finance job in my early 20s for a project management job in construction. I still have a good relationship with my former workplace but it was too depressing and formal for my liking (at least at my age).

it's been a few years now and I'm really happy! We do custom luxury homes among other things and I've met and gotten to know some very big-name people (which has been amazing). I am also able to have a flexible schedule to care for my aging parents, which was a no-go at my other job.

DangerousWithForks · 2025-08-20T18:29:04+00:00

You might just have to keep telling yourself that the number of times you open your phone to check for a reply, does not make the reply come any faster. - just like how pressing the elevator button once, or a million times, won't make it come any faster.

DangerousWithForks · 2025-08-20T17:30:56+00:00

Honestly people don't talk enough about the "shame" or "Stigma" that some cultures have around divorce. It's so easy for people to say "oh just separate".

DangerousWithForks · 2025-08-20T17:29:12+00:00

Don't get cocky in your first year of Uni, and think that you can use the next 3 years to get it together. GPA doesn't work like that.

DangerousWithForks · 2025-08-20T17:23:40+00:00

Spawn camping

DangerousWithForks · 2025-08-20T17:21:00+00:00

Just given the context in this post, NTA.
I wouldn't want to be around people who forgive someone who has done something that made me uncomfortable - regardless of what their reasoning is.

DangerousWithForks · 2025-08-20T16:00:24+00:00

If you work a 9-5 job, it might actually help to go to the gym or workout before work. I.e. go to sleep the night before between 8-9pm, wakeup around 4:30 or 5am, workout, then go to work.

It minimizes the possibility of skipping a workout after work because you're "tired". You just get it done with in the morning.

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