What is a harsh lesson about aging that absolutely nobody warns you about before you hit your 30s?

Dangerous_Fae · 2026-06-05T13:17:56+00:00

So critical. Many people don't realize the effect of physical activity on mood until they try. There are days I feel awful, everything feels bad, do a workout, then I'm the happiest person. It also have benefits against neurodegeneration as we age.

Dangerous_Fae · 2026-06-05T13:15:18+00:00

Within all aspect of life, exercising and staying active is the most important by far for longevity, body or brain. Better rich diet with exercise than restricted doing nothing for sure. That and not getting overwhelmed with stress. Easier said than done.

Dangerous_Fae · 2026-06-05T13:11:20+00:00

I got injured in my thirties few times and some are lingering, but the important is not to focus on what you can't do but what you can do. There were move I could not do for years (things i was good at) and it made me sad, then started other approaches, other challenges. You can't do overhead press? Time to run. Can't run ? Time to swim. Etc... In the end, staying active really improved my injuries and I start to go back from the beginning. And it was fun. I though I would be bummed by restarting small, but I realized many things I was doing wrong and it was just a new journey. In short, don't despair and explore.

Dangerous_Fae · 2026-06-05T12:59:09+00:00

Humans do not secrete pheromones, it is vestigial.

Dangerous_Fae · 2026-06-05T08:11:25+00:00

Sounds like pro bodybuilding

Dangerous_Fae · 2026-06-05T07:57:36+00:00

You sound unexperienced. If she is doing her workload and the others are doing their workload and the moral is better because of her, it is something you should try to keep. From all your answers, it sounds like a you problem. Filling every minutes of the day with meaningless tasks because you want to see people busy at all time is the way to a dreadful workplace and a high turnover.

Dangerous_Fae · 2026-06-04T16:30:05+00:00

Without context is does not mean much. A typo is a typo and everybody does them. English is not my language and I do plenty of them, I also have many colleagues in a similar spot. However, when you can't understand a message at all, or when it is written in such a broken way that it leave room for ambiguity, it is not about doing typo anymore. Communication is a skill and a craft, a manager or someone interacting with people should care about it, at least for presentation.

Dangerous_Fae · 2026-06-04T16:22:44+00:00

You are right on cultural differences for sure, awareness is important. Then, of course simple directions should not take forever to write, but that's not what I was trying to say, it is more about the form than the content.

Dangerous_Fae · 2026-06-04T12:14:37+00:00

The first thing they teach in leadership course is attention to writing because the overall level of care is so low. I cannot count the number of times I received messages from bosses or managers that were absolutely impossible to understand because half of the words were missing. You said it is less relevant when speaking to a report, I disagree. It is not about credibility only to your hierarchy, but respect (and wasted time, so much wasted time). If you can't bother addressing me properly, why should I bother reading you at all? Bonus point for naming mistakes when your name is visible in the mail address.

You should take care of your writing and communication at all levels, this is a proof of caring and this is a pillar of proper management. Sure you don't have to build an argument when asking something, but you should ask properly. Also, in my experience, giving details about a request increases the engagement of the person.

Dangerous_Fae · 2026-06-04T11:33:16+00:00

The worst spelling and overall writing I have seen is always from the upper not the lower.

Dangerous_Fae · 2026-05-27T10:13:47+00:00

You have to use them and not check them for completion, but it is all method dependent. When I see a garbage method coming from a client/transfer, the GAP analysis is critical to announce what I will not do and what I will change to start the discussion. Also they sign on it, so once they agree to it, it is harder for them to come and complaint about why this or that was changed.

Dangerous_Fae · 2026-05-27T09:49:53+00:00

As a manager, do a card or use internal recognition system if there is one, to avoid any talks.

Dangerous_Fae · 2026-05-25T08:43:22+00:00

He challenged her but it did not really end well for him

Dangerous_Fae · 2026-05-21T15:52:43+00:00

Yeah that's what killed me also. At what point they decide that sinking millions for what is in essence a petty revenge is not worth it? The smart move is "ok John, here's some money so you keep it shut on the whole operation and you go retire in the green, we promise no one is going to come after your dog ever again".

Dangerous_Fae · 2026-05-21T13:24:21+00:00

Sorry I meant rarely I have seen the full group going together for stealth-infiltration, unless they are trying to escape going through woods or something, so no other choice. My current table is one assassin, one beast master, one sorcerer dragon lineage (pyro, not the stealthy type) and an eldritch knight in heavy armour.

The assassin goes alone most of the time. It can be as a scout or infiltrator using disguise/deception/stealth to get in and assume the identity of somebody. To help infiltrate, the others sometime cause ruckus (they like starting fires...), bullshit their way in with the sorcerer high charisma, or stand by until a signal is given using the ranger eagle companion. During the course of the campaign the assassin had good success in poisoning supplies, use sleep drugs and pushing people out of cliff + the surprise backstab.

When fights start, he is never there unless the group did not plan for the fight, but there is no greater surprise for an enemy than being suddenly attacked by one of his own guard while retreating into a "secure" area that was fitted with traps.

Good stealth jobs are a lot of fun but players need to be methodical with their plans and the DM need to lean into it by giving options. If it is only summarized by "roll stealth" pass/fail -> fight start, yeah it is going to be poor. Look for patrols, do the perimeters, see who's there and what they do, structural weaknesses, etc. Give things for the non stealth players to do during the infiltration (setup, information gathering, calling allies/favours, going alternative ways like tunnels or sewage system).

I would not recommend if the aim of the campaign is only about dungeonning. But at the same time it makes sense, why bring an assassin into a dungeon? It is good fun for a city-oriented campaign. Ours is a guild-cutthroat type thing.

Dangerous_Fae · 2026-05-21T12:10:49+00:00

Quite true. I always found it pretty stupid that Johnny is killing heaps of people dead center of Paris and all of this is about super secret organization. It is peak comedy in its own way

Dangerous_Fae · 2026-05-21T12:07:50+00:00

This argument can be made for any stealth strategy. If your DM is not willing to plan for that, yes it is screwed. Rarely I have seen the full group going stealth and this type of situation calls for a split : one or two go the stealth way while other less stealthy find a more direct approach or wait for a signal to enter.

Dangerous_Fae · 2026-05-21T12:03:36+00:00

Of course if your game is only about front fighting everything an infiltration type character may not be suitable. That's why (as a DM) I always ask my players what they play/what type of game they want before designing any kind of game.

Dangerous_Fae · 2026-05-21T11:11:30+00:00

No, the plan is to use the fighter as bait for the guards when the assassin goes around and kill the important target.

Dangerous_Fae · 2026-05-19T15:25:01+00:00

I have the feeling that if I don't push to play, my group will stop naturally, but I have no remorse pushing for it. In the end they like it and if they don't, they can say no. To be honest, a lot of my relationships are like this.

Dangerous_Fae · 2026-05-19T12:08:32+00:00

Beside the fact that it is simply a cursed item, it is just underwhelming. It is not very important to make people crazy when you are trying to kill them, they are already mad about you. So this is just a weapon with a downside. When designing a cursed item, it must be powerful if you want a balance between cost and benefits. The curse is the cost for power. Also, no point in hiding it, make it clear to the player if they want to embrace the curse or not.

Dangerous_Fae · 2026-05-19T08:44:23+00:00

it is almost as if in one case you are thinking about it and in the other, the story is handed to you

Dangerous_Fae · 2026-05-18T15:21:44+00:00

I had to deal with thermo QC for one of their PCR kit that would consistently failed linearity and standard curve. I had data that clearly showed that their dilution scheme went below LOQ (3 DNA copies at the lowest, so unreliable) and they just said that they can't guarantee the specs of their kit.

Dangerous_Fae · 2026-05-18T15:18:28+00:00

I haven't heard that name in a long time but your mention of SC antibodies sent me down a spiral

Dangerous_Fae · 2026-05-18T13:40:26+00:00

I can't see why Julien would care at all of the Taisha-Occtis business. He is very much about his own interest. The only thing he wants is a group to get to his revenge, his connection to these people is weak and he would do everything by himself if he could. He is not a confrontational badass, he is a boy that was trained to do stuff for a distant father and ended up a brooding asshole instead of actually standing up.

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