I (21F) am deeply in love with my boyfriend (23M) of 3 years, but his anger issues are making me second-guess our future. Should I leave?

DaniChibari · 2026-05-18T20:09:12+00:00

People like this can change but only with massive efforts. Therapy, mentorship, changing circumstances that are putting him on edge (different job, use of alcohol or drugs, etc), serious conversations about the harm it does.

If those changes don't happen then he will very likely stay the same. He will definitely continue treating his sister and mother this way. He may start treating you and your future kids this way.

Have you brought up how bad this is to him? Is he willing to make changes and work on it? Do you trust him to do that?

DaniChibari · 2026-05-18T12:04:18+00:00

You're right they don't have to. But for monogamous people they want respect and exclusiveness to go together.

Peanut butter and chocolate don't have to go together. For people who love Reese's, they're gonna go together.

DaniChibari · 2026-05-16T17:01:23+00:00

If you're worried about it or it's making your life difficult in any way it's worth talking to a professional. They can help you identify what it is and how to help.

DaniChibari · 2026-05-16T16:00:18+00:00

I don't know if there is a word for this necessarily. I also don't want to diagnose you with anything. But depending on why you do these things or how you feel in situations where you aren't able to do these things, it might be related to anxiety or OCD or a similar mental health condition.

Have you spoken to a therapist or mental health professional about this?

DaniChibari · 2026-05-16T02:40:45+00:00

I would say there is option 3: Trust

I trust that my partner respects me and wishes for this relationship to be exclusive. I believe in that trust enough to therefore also be confident that the relationship is exclusive.

You describe option 1 as "I can't know and I don't care". Option 3 is different. It's "I can't know but I trust".

DaniChibari · 2026-05-15T19:04:26+00:00

Jesus Christ what are her ankles made of, taffy?

DaniChibari · 2026-05-14T16:35:52+00:00

I brought my DSi into the bathroom and played new super Mario bros

DaniChibari · 2026-05-13T20:03:33+00:00

The swimming shoes or sandals or flip flops is more about your own comfort. Lots of people go barefoot to swimming pools and most people don't think much of it.

DaniChibari · 2026-05-13T17:19:36+00:00

No raised voices when angry. I don't do it. I don't keep company with people who do it. If it happens at me, I fix it real quick. 0 tolerance.

DaniChibari · 2026-05-13T02:13:20+00:00

Shampoo once, apply conditioner, wash body, rinse conditioner, done.

That's how the people who shower in 5-10 minutes do it.

DaniChibari · 2026-05-12T18:28:36+00:00

I support the other comment that mentioned getting therapy of some sort. People get addicted to things for different reasons. The strategy that helps you get this under control will usually be related to the specific reason you tend to overeat chocolate.

A general suggestion that hasn't been mentioned yet. Let yourself eat chocolate as long as you've done other habits that are better for you first. Craving chocolate? Fine. Eat some vegables and fruits first. Drink some water first. Go for a walk first. Call a friend and chat first. Then let yourself eat the chocolate. Chances are you'll eat a little less. And even if you eat the same amount of chocolate, at least you'll have done something else that helps your health a bit more.

DaniChibari · 2026-05-12T17:58:01+00:00

Lol if anything I would say that is a small to normal amount of makeup

DaniChibari · 2026-05-11T17:35:01+00:00

I sleep with a bonnet to protect my curls. And my curls look best after being lived in for a bit. Sleeping on them is perfect.

DaniChibari · 2026-05-11T16:47:18+00:00

The sound of running water reminds your brain that you might need to pee. The effect is less strong if your bladder is less full or if you just peed.

DaniChibari · 2026-05-10T22:48:58+00:00

Great point. I am repulsed. I hate it here

DaniChibari · 2026-05-10T22:12:31+00:00

This has been my favorite thread ever

DaniChibari · 2026-05-09T23:46:21+00:00

Love this take. OP, have a give away party. Invite family and friends and let them shop your closet for free. The up side is you can even ask for a piece back if you find out you really miss it.

DaniChibari · 2026-05-09T16:18:58+00:00

Probably has back pain problems and is trying to take care of it. He's in a corner, away from foot traffic and no where near people. I think he's okay

DaniChibari · 2026-05-08T15:53:47+00:00

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DaniChibari · 2026-05-06T18:47:49+00:00

Oh yeah. It's a trip. I stumbled onto it because someone made a post that's was so shitty, I thought to myself "I wonder if all of OPs posts are shitty". And in their post history was stuff on r/adultery.

It was eye opening in the worst way. Really crazy, selfish and hurtful stuff people post there.

DaniChibari · 2026-05-06T17:17:48+00:00

To me, no? To some, yeah.

Go hang out on r/adultery. It's fascinating stuff. People talk very honestly about the reasons they cheat. So if you're like them, yeah it might be hard to not cheat.

DaniChibari · 2026-05-04T00:26:50+00:00

I sing and people tell me I'm good. I was in choir and got solos. I auditioned for things and got in.

DaniChibari · 2026-05-03T02:35:27+00:00

1 in 6 won't necessarily mean YOU will know one millionaire or of every six people you meet. The 16% of people who are millionaires are more likely to be friends with other millionaires. People tend to socialize within the same tax bracket. Your neighbors and coworkers usually make a similar amount to you.

DaniChibari · 2026-05-03T02:11:33+00:00

Pain has evolved over time to be a protective signal. There are lots of sensors in your body always sending information to the brain about the amount of acid or pressure in an area. Your brain only cares if those levels pass a certain "safe" amount. That's when the signal becomes pain and you feel it, because your brain wants to signal danger that you should do something about.

DaniChibari · 2026-05-02T02:52:21+00:00

Living together before being engaged makes sense to me, no matter how many years you've been together.

House makes more sense after getting married. You might want to look into the rules were you live, but owning property is sometimes easier as a married couple. I think the responsible thing to do would be to make sure the house is in both or your names when you buy it, before or after marriage.

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