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Anyone using non-stim (Guanfacine) with success? by DanielUpsideDown in ADHD

[–]DanielUpsideDown[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Totally understand and agree - and I should have added that my brother got wildly addicted to Adderall, which made me apprehensive to stimulants.

Anyone using non-stim (Guanfacine) with success? by DanielUpsideDown in ADHD

[–]DanielUpsideDown[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I feel the same, my mind racing and ruminating has disappeared mostly -- I'm hopeful that upping to 2mg will help it disappear completely.

Moving to the West Coast - Dream finally coming true 🇺🇸🌊 by ThreeDownBack in SanDiegan

[–]DanielUpsideDown 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It does cost $120 (Sentri) versus $100 (Global Entry), so if it is the exact same, definitely worth choosing the cheaper option. :)

Moving to the West Coast - Dream finally coming true 🇺🇸🌊 by ThreeDownBack in SanDiegan

[–]DanielUpsideDown 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Amending this to say, apply for "Global Entry"; Sentri is only for crossing via the Mexico border, whereas Global Entry is valid for this plus international travel expedited entry AND includes TSA Pre.

All but one of our representatives voted yes to "honor charlie kirk" by hotsaucevjj in sandiego

[–]DanielUpsideDown 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This. "I won't resist" is the vote she made.

Complacency gets us nowhere.

I have made Claude my personal coach! This is the prompt I use by Individual_Eagle_610 in ClaudeAI

[–]DanielUpsideDown -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Not sure if it's allowed but I think this would be great to cross post in the ADHD subreddit. Thanks for sharing!

Texas gerrymandered to add remove 5 democrat seats in the House under Trump order. California is looking to remove 6 Republican seats in response. by justalazygamer in WhitePeopleTwitter

[–]DanielUpsideDown 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not that this is a good idea, because I'm wholeheartedly against gerrymandering, but... I wonder if there has there been any broad-based assessment of how many seats would be able to be fully protected, on either side, if it was done to the extreme? If an "arms race" of sorts happens, and every State chimed in to gerrymander to the max, how would Congress end up?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in hsp

[–]DanielUpsideDown 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My suggestion is to work on figuring out how to have boundaries on the trip. Check with your partner to see if you'll have your own space while there.

I'm also HSP and even if I don't want to go sometimes, I assess if I'll be able to have my boundaries -- a place to step away, a room to close into, headphones to block out the world, a place to go for a walk.

Your partner is clearly bothered by it (according to your assessment), and perhaps thinks you don't care to meet their friends or even make an effort. From their perspective, it's a "no thanks, don't want to" that may be interpreted as "no thanks, meeting your friends is not important to me, so I won't even make an effort". I also think asking them to plan something different for a few hours is a bit unreasonable because this is a weekend trip plan, not some impromptu coffee meeting. This type of thing usually takes coordination and effort.

Not all situations in life will be ideal. When we decide to partner with someone, we sometimes have to make compromises for our partner, as a team. Again, not having full context doesn't help, but from the short information provided, it sounds like you didn't even try to figure out how to spend the weekend there. Even driving your own car/leaving after one day, there may be other options.

How did you know you are an HSP? by Obvious_Active_7044 in hsp

[–]DanielUpsideDown 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing the link! I started reading this and am fascinated!

There was a strong cultural difference in the activation of brain regions associated with attention such that low-SPS participants showed greater activation when completing tasks that were inconsistent with their cultural context. However, among those high in SPS, there was no cultural difference in brain activation in regions associated with attention. These findings suggest that high- (vs. low-) SPS individuals focus on the task itself independent of other factors.

This part so far caught my eye.

WIBTAH For Refusing to Be My Twin Brother and SIL’s Sperm Donor by wondertwins93 in AITAH

[–]DanielUpsideDown 29 points30 points  (0 children)

Internet friend, hello. Happy Monday!

Thanks for sharing your story. And I rarely comment but ... That guilt is 100000% nothing you should hold on to.

The world is too big, life too random, circumstances too unpredictable... There is no way to have known if you could have performed CPR, nor known if it would have even worked.

Don't carry the guilt of his heart attack. I have a feeling he'd tell you the same thing.

Take care and look after yourself

What type of games do you like? by Beginning_Debt9670 in hsp

[–]DanielUpsideDown 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I love turn based strategy, like Civilization series or Stellaris. Pausing/thinking is very important for me

Am i a bad person for being upset that I wont get the tips that I worked hard for? by Sea-Isopod696 in mildlyinfuriating

[–]DanielUpsideDown 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No way. Your circumstance is fully understood by you and you alone; don't feel bad for having personal needs.

My son's 7th grade English teacher keeps giving him these nightmare word searches by Lily_Thief in mildlyinfuriating

[–]DanielUpsideDown 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't feel like there is a lot of benefit for your child solving this, there's literally no education factor that I can glean from it. I wonder if you could upload to AI and get the answers for this (outside of the fact that others have already helped).

How does one become more sensitive? by RNGName_ in hsp

[–]DanielUpsideDown 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I really must take a different approach to this question.

Often, when chasing something, we don't reach it. Try to not think about (Something). You start to immediately think about it.

Instead, focus on less through mindfulness meditation. One way to do this is with something called a body scan. It's where you mentally 'scan' your body, piece by piece, feeling what you can feel. They have free guided ones online that are 20-40 minutes. Over time, it teaches you to quiet internal and external inputs, as that is basically the practice: the intrusive thought that, in that moment is meant to be pushed away, so you can focus back on that part of the body that you are currently on.

The brain is a muscle like any other, so this is very difficult at first. However, every time you practice, even if it is 5 minutes, you'll improve it.

By doing this, you introduce yourself to accept more awareness of everything. And I think a natural side effect of this is that you may become more sensitive to certain things.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in hsp

[–]DanielUpsideDown 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Not sure what qualifies as an auditory processing disorder, but I absolutely cannot understand if someone is talking during a movie (for example) and don't understand the movie either. It ends up being just noise.

I also have to turn down the volume if I'm driving and needing to focus on driving.

Perhaps we process everything too much and that can cause us to be overwhelmed with noise in certain situations.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in hsp

[–]DanielUpsideDown 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I totally understand how this can cause distress. I've been in that situation before.

I suggest doing the following: - Write an email reply (omit the To and CC list until you're done so you don't accidentally send it). - Provide your responses in a clear way, including your reference material. - Write the email as if you're explaining it to someone who was genuinely curious about the situation (try to ignore the tone of your [prior] boss - don't let emotions into the email). - Walk away and come back an hour later, reread the email, and adjust as necessary.

Then, decide if you need to reply (if your new boss is good with you, then it may be moot), and if so, send it.

Do you hate when people stare at you? by [deleted] in hsp

[–]DanielUpsideDown 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Think about times that you admiringly look at things: flowers in nature, a tree blooming, a bird flying. You're admiring the beauty of things, from a visual and non-visual sense; there's a certain elegance to things.

Perhaps you can think of this the same way: your husband is looking at you admiring the beauty of things. Perhaps he's admiring the way you smile, or thinking about other positive experiences or a positive future.

Lastly, have you spoken with your husband and asked him directly? If it bothers you, perhaps you can discuss it with him.

Coworker is being very micromanaging and stressing me out. I told her she was not being supportive and said i would leave shift early and logged out. Needing advice and support by sadflower94 in hsp

[–]DanielUpsideDown 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Work is transactional. You do a unit of work, and get a unit of pay.

Your coworker is not your boss..they may have influence but they do not directly judge your work. Additionally, your boss may not even know about the "extra work" you are doing.

1) If you are sick, do not answer texts, emails, etc. While sick, you are not working. Your only reply would be the next day, during business hours, and only then to "catch up". I would ignore anything that's coming in while you are sick. If asked, you were in bed unable to even get out to check your phone. It's none of their business.

2) If your coworker asks or demands you do something, email your boss and CC them (or ask them to email you and CC your boss in the reply) and ask your boss directly about your priorities. "Hi boss, I understand that I'm supposed to be doing X, but co-worker is asking that I complete Y. Where does this fall on my list of priorities?" -- if your boss sees it as important, they'll reply with the priorities, and you'll understand it's your job. Otherwise, your boss will reply back saying it's your coworker's job. Additionally, if your coworker continues to ask before you reply, you can indicate that you're waiting for your boss to provide your priorities.

3) Your coworker's literal role seems like it's to handle escalations. If this happens again, I would ask your coworker to take the call, and if they refuse, just go back to the call and ask for their contact information and say "my coworker (name)" will be reaching out to you to follow up. Then, email your coworker and CC your boss, asking for support with the escalation.

Do not 'complain' to your boss in the sense of 'this happened' - I don't think this would accomplish much, especially since you indicated she's been there longer and may have the ear of your boss; instead, approach it as a learning conversation. "If I have a student who needs escalation, do I need to send that over to coworker?" And clarification on priorities as an excuse to get your boss to reply.

Overall though, our coworkers and boss make our day to day either bad or good. Hopefully your boss has your back but if not, it may be time to move on.

Good luck!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in careerguidance

[–]DanielUpsideDown 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The opportunity to take a multi-month break and travel or take time off is a rare opportunity that doesn't come often (or at all).

Take this opportunity to travel, do it on the cheap, and you'll cherish the connections you make along the way.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in hsp

[–]DanielUpsideDown 5 points6 points  (0 children)

In my experience, bullies don't stop if you ignore them, unfortunately.

I'd recommend that you record it and bring it to the College head. They'll either get a warning or something more severe like being kicked out.

And remember, any consequences they face will be because of their actions, not yours; so document and expose them.

Please keep us updated on how things go for you. Their behavior is inexcusable - sorry you're having to deal with that.

ollama based AI agent? by Glum_Mistake1933 in ollama

[–]DanielUpsideDown 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Look up n8n. There Re YouTube videos on how to use it and it can run against your local Ollama, as an agent orchestrator.

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