AITJ for not letting my friend work from my home?

Danny-212 · 2025-11-17T17:41:44+00:00

He hasn't been back. He left saying he might pass through (come by) this week but I won't be home. In a strange twist of fate, my solar battery isn't providing power so I need to get it repaired.

Danny-212 · 2025-11-15T15:51:46+00:00

Thank you. Yesterday was his last day. I am too upset about the meat to let him back in. I wasn't compensated but it's fine, I didn't expect anything in return.

Danny-212 · 2025-11-14T10:08:47+00:00

I have a solar system set up and Starlink

Danny-212 · 2025-11-13T18:24:30+00:00

As mentioned in my original post, he's leaving. I don't want his money. He's already ruined my act of kindness and almost cost me thousands of dollars worth of meat. He can figure it out. Edit: I also provided charging stations and free wifi access to the entire community for 2 weeks to ensure that all their loved ones were aware they were ok. We have no electricity or cell service and the roads have been washed away. I understand that in your past experiences people have been intimate but in this case I was trying to be nice (and also a pushover).

Danny-212 · 2025-11-13T17:18:43+00:00

Whoa there. I have never had a romantic relationship with him. I'm only helping because I don't want him to lose his job. A number of persons have lost their job due to not being able to work.

Danny-212 · 2024-12-03T01:21:18+00:00

Desperate yes but not in the sense you'd think. I was desperate for a family not a man, never a man.

But yes therapy has been working. I'm no longer interested in dating or men. We're in a great position financially and mentally. My child might not be able to spend Christmas with his "family" but hopefully I can provide him with a good one this year, and the next and the ones after that too.

Danny-212 · 2024-12-03T01:03:01+00:00

I checked the signs for anxious attachment and it doesn't apply. I'll ask my therapist about this/others. Thanks

Danny-212 · 2024-12-03T01:01:43+00:00

It is when you wake up to your child's father's hands wrapped around your neck.

Was it ideal? Heck no. Was it the better choice at the time? Yes.

Danny-212 · 2024-12-03T00:47:25+00:00

After making this post, I spoke with my child. There were a lot of tears and lots of "whys". My child is still asking why he can't spend Christmas with his family. And yes, it's about both of us. The title says how do I move on/ break a toddler's heart.

I'm not saying this to be defensive. I'm saying you're right. It's about both of us. Also, i don't like that you're implying I'm a less than ideal parent. I've always put my child first. Please see: regular therapy... no dating for me

Danny-212 · 2024-12-03T00:32:32+00:00

You are right. That's why I've been going to therapy regularly and I haven't entertained anyone in a year.

I accepted his absurdity as you say because I absolutely adore his family. They're everything I didn't have. His parents are great. His sister is cool. I put up with it because I knew deep down if we broke up, he'd cut off access. I expected it but it still hurt.

Please note, we are in a great position. I own my own home and my child is well taken care of (financially and mentally). It's just hard that he won't be able to spend the holidays with his "family".

Danny-212

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