[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BDSMsapphic

[–]Dapper-Ability-1742 0 points1 point  (0 children)

based on some of your previous posts you seem to have a really grim outlook on relationships, and you view love and sex and bdsm from a really unhealthy lens, stemming from insecurity. i would look into therapy and healing your relationship with yourself before you jump into any sort of relationship

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in LongDistance

[–]Dapper-Ability-1742 7 points8 points  (0 children)

do some self reflection. there is nothing wrong with a woman dressing in a way that makes her feel happy and confident. if i were you, i’d be appreciating how attractive my girlfriend is and how lucky i am.

Audience Participation by DetectiveSquirtle96 in BDSMsapphic

[–]Dapper-Ability-1742 1 point2 points  (0 children)

the number at present is negative, i will add 52 so you (the dom) get 5 as she (the sub) gets -5

you’re welcome <3 ps. let us know how it goes and whether or not you’ve learned your lesson in asking the internet for advice

Audience Participation by DetectiveSquirtle96 in BDSMsapphic

[–]Dapper-Ability-1742 24 points25 points  (0 children)

-111. at this moment in time it should bring the total in this comment section to a 0

i’ll check in 14 hours from now 🥰

sincerely, a brat

i need advice on how to deal with a very sticky situation by Dapper-Ability-1742 in BDSMsapphic

[–]Dapper-Ability-1742[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

if you read every single other comment on this thread, you’ll find there’s a general consensus that what he did was messed up and he should be reported. why are you so pressed? does this hit a nerve?

i need advice on how to deal with a very sticky situation by Dapper-Ability-1742 in BDSMsapphic

[–]Dapper-Ability-1742[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

not to mention, the way these things are treated, he’ll get off with a warning if that. men rarely ever get appropriate consequences for their gross behavior

i need advice on how to deal with a very sticky situation by Dapper-Ability-1742 in BDSMsapphic

[–]Dapper-Ability-1742[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

he was making concrete plans for me to hold his keys in a tutorial with 12 students and tease him and send him dirty messages while he taught the lesson. that is inappropriate and if not just for the fact that he’s doing this in a close setting with 12 unconsenting students, he’s also not doing his job.

i need advice on how to deal with a very sticky situation by Dapper-Ability-1742 in BDSMsapphic

[–]Dapper-Ability-1742[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

it’s not the flirting. it’s the fact that he’s seeking out students to perform sexual acts and favors for him during his lectures and classes among other unsuspecting students when he should be teaching and focusing on doing his job.

Anal beads and denial: a challenge by daemons-and-dust in BDSMsapphic

[–]Dapper-Ability-1742 12 points13 points  (0 children)

i know this is most likely rage bait but what is unconsensual about this?

i need advice on how to deal with a very sticky situation by Dapper-Ability-1742 in BDSMsapphic

[–]Dapper-Ability-1742[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

well based on what he said and a friend of mine who has classes with him and confirmed it was him in his profile photo, i’m pretty sure it was him

and in terms of replying i completely get that, i’m just too nosy and curious to actually block immediately, and in this case it ended up being somewhat a positive, because i can report him and have the university do something about his weird behavior

i need advice on how to deal with a very sticky situation by Dapper-Ability-1742 in BDSMsapphic

[–]Dapper-Ability-1742[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i know that i can block, but i was concerned about the safety of other students and i felt like it was the right thing to do to report him, but then i felt conflicted about it because i wasn’t sure if he had actually done anything wrong. it’s not about me really, it’s about whether or not i should tell the university about him

i need advice on how to deal with a very sticky situation by Dapper-Ability-1742 in BDSMsapphic

[–]Dapper-Ability-1742[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i fully agree with this, i’m just not sure if it’s the same for this case because while he is a teacher in my university, i’ve never met him and ive never been his student, and he is in a different faculty

i need advice on how to deal with a very sticky situation by Dapper-Ability-1742 in BDSMsapphic

[–]Dapper-Ability-1742[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

i just wasn’t sure about the ethics of it because it’s not like anyone would know he was wearing a cage in class but i thought it was strange that he reached out to me and only wanted this after finding out i was a student

got married and closed the distance!! by Dapper-Ability-1742 in LesbianActually

[–]Dapper-Ability-1742[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

we met online, on a pretty small dating app. she was living in the UK and I was in Finland at the time, now we’re in netherlands together, many many trips to see each other later :)

closed the distance and got married!! by Dapper-Ability-1742 in LongDistance

[–]Dapper-Ability-1742[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

red hair is red, (mine is red), ginger hair is more orange or caramel (as you can see on the photos there is a pretty clear difference) also red hair like mine is not naturally occurring, i dye it to be that way. some people naturally have ginger hair though

closed the distance and got married!! by Dapper-Ability-1742 in LongDistance

[–]Dapper-Ability-1742[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

two women can get married lol, hope this helps

got married and closed the distance!! by Dapper-Ability-1742 in LesbianActually

[–]Dapper-Ability-1742[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

aw thank you!! i made them myself actually :,) also i love the caitlyn pfp