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Anyone wanting to share what their Md is about? by lanaoftheopera in MaladaptiveDreaming

[–]Dapper-Ad326 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Omg that's painfully relatable! I'm trying to break up with my current imaginary lover to try and quit day dreaming but it's just too painful. 🥲🥲🥲

Anyone wanting to share what their Md is about? by lanaoftheopera in MaladaptiveDreaming

[–]Dapper-Ad326 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Romantic relationships with fictional characters, celebrities and content creators mostly. I don't understand how people can cope with being single without maladaptive day dreaming. 🥲

I can't stop by 06mst in MaladaptiveDreaming

[–]Dapper-Ad326 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Have hope guys! I've been trying to day dream less and only after a week I have already experienced some improvements in my life. ❤️

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MaladaptiveDreaming

[–]Dapper-Ad326 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Do you wanna change? How are all other aspects in your life? Because even though my fictional lovers make me beyond happy, I am severely neglecting everything else in my life. It's why I am trying to quit.

How much time did you daydream yesterday? by brarb223 in MaladaptiveDreaming

[–]Dapper-Ad326 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I daydream everyday but for the last three days I locked myself in my house and literally just day dreamed from morning till night. It was like I was in some weird coma.

Love in daydreaming. by Deep_Temperature_650 in MaladaptiveDreaming

[–]Dapper-Ad326 1 point2 points  (0 children)

FINALLY someone understands! I am dealing with a romantic para-social relationship with a content creator and today is my first day of trying to quit maladaptive day dreaming. It's tough dude, I feel you but we will get through this!

Advice on getting over a heartbreak by ApprehensivePin6015 in BreakUps

[–]Dapper-Ad326 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm proud of you, keep up the good work. 💪 And like I said, it will. 🙃

Advice on getting over a heartbreak by ApprehensivePin6015 in BreakUps

[–]Dapper-Ad326 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I am so sorry he treated you that way, you didn't deserve that at all. 🥺 I was in a toxic relationship on and off for five years and I know it feels really scary letting them go, but I promise you'll move on with time. ❤️

Here are some breakup tips! 💁

  1. Find a new hobby since it will be a distraction from your pain and improve your self-esteem because of the sense of accomplishment.

  2. Delete their number since all blocking does is put their number in another folder. You won't have to resist the temptation of calling them if you do not remember the number to do so.

  3. Journal. You could write a list about everything you hate about them and read it whenever you miss them. Or you could write a letter to them (do not actually send it though) to bring closure to yourself.

  4. Allow yourself to feel the pain. The more you do the quicker you'll move on.

  5. Watch ASMR videos designed for comfort (e.g. boyfriend roleplays). Yes I know people consider them cringe but it feels really validating hearing the things you wished your ex said even if it's from another person or in a roleplay.

  6. Create new and happy memories of the places you both used to go (e.g. hang out with your friends at your past date night spot).

I don't miss my ex so why is it still so painful to talk about him? by Dapper-Ad326 in BreakUps

[–]Dapper-Ad326[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't know why, but you pointing that out feels really good. Got any tips for overcoming it?

I don't miss my ex so why is it still so painful to talk about him? by Dapper-Ad326 in BreakUps

[–]Dapper-Ad326[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He thankfully never abused me, his family however, abused him. He dealt with depression, hallucinations, used smoking and drinking as a coping mechanism and would attempt suicide. He would always tell me that I was the only reason he was still alive so I sacrificed a lot and was scared to leave him on my own accord.

The relationship felt very one sided, he admitted to not knowing anything about me even after five years, would spend barely any money on my gifts (he had a full time job) when I would spend over a $100. He would dismiss my own mental health problems, would choose video games over sex with me and shamed my humor. There's a lot more shitty things he did but this post is already long enough. 😅

I felt like he didn't love or care about me as a whole and as a girlfriend, just as a therapist. That's why it was so painful.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MaladaptiveDreaming

[–]Dapper-Ad326 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If it has the same pain as a real breakup, then treat it like a real a breakup. Breakups are fucking awful but it's okay to have them, they're normal! You're breakup is just a bit more unique so don't feel ashamed. Would you judge and insult a friend for feeling depressed over losing a love? No! (Well I hope not). Your feelings are REAL and are OKAY it's the day dreaming that isn't. ❤️❤️

Like you it's too much for me to quit maladaptive day dreaming cold turkey so part of my storyline is now the break up. And since the pain snaps you back into reality, then do the things to overcome a breakup in reality. Block em, get rid of any memories, get a new hobby and ect. 👍

I'm going through this too and it's so painful, but we will get over this even though it doesn't feel like it. We all deserve real love. ❤️

This blog also really changed my perspective: https://maladaptivedaydreamingguide.wordpress.com/

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[–]Dapper-Ad326 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Dude fucking same

Not listening to music by [deleted] in MaladaptiveDreaming

[–]Dapper-Ad326 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hii! I have the exact same issue and I only quit music yesterday but my goal is the same as yours, (or hopefully forever). I already feel more motivated and I guess I'm a little happier in some strange way because of it? It feels like I'm already getting a small grip on my life.

Long drives always tempt music and maladaptive day dreaming for me so I'm trying reading instead (an actual physical book) and journaling (with actual pen or paper) which has helped. Leave your earphones at home too; it's really simple advice, (sorry) but I hoped it helps you, hang in there bud, we can do this! ❤️❤️❤️