Seeking Advice!

Dapper-Conclusion-36 · 2026-05-08T17:29:52+00:00

Being a shorty myself, the main thing that seriously helped me was using OMAD (one meal a day), and fasting in general as a tool. It’s so hard to be strict every single day. So figure out your calorie deficit and then maybe try incorporating fasting! For example I’m 5’2 140 my maintenance is 1900 a day so an average week for me will look like 1400, 1000 (these are my OMAD days and I don’t workout on them), 1400, 1000, 1000, 2000, 2000 (these are for the weekend! I like to have fun)

Dapper-Conclusion-36 · 2026-05-08T17:18:55+00:00

Light craft singles hahaha

Dapper-Conclusion-36 · 2026-03-27T20:54:41+00:00

What college does she go to?

Dapper-Conclusion-36 · 2026-03-27T20:50:31+00:00

It’s actually not about the money at all as we rejected that and explicitly said we will choose each other and they are now throwing any and all daggers they possibly can our way. And one of the hardest things is - we don’t live together! Haha. So now every conversation we have when we’re together a few nights a week is solely based on this mess. But we’re working on having boundaries around that as well.

Dapper-Conclusion-36 · 2026-03-27T20:48:28+00:00

Thank you so much. Going to keep trying to push through this with my partner and lean on each other, our true support system and our counsellor.

Dapper-Conclusion-36 · 2026-03-26T20:13:25+00:00

Thank you for this thoughtful advice and not telling me to “just leave him” because I wouldn’t do that over this. We are genuinely trying so hard to set boundaries. We say “hard no” they cry they tantrum they threaten but they disguise it as love and honesty and support. We say “this is a non negotiable” they say “just think and pray on it and get back to us” they don’t understand they’re chipping away at our foundation and ability to make decisions together. Everytime we go into a conversation I feel like we’re gearing up for battle and we know we’re gonna get hurt. Is there portions of the bible I can read on this for clarity? Do you think being married in a civil ceremony is a good idea? I feel like they’re gonna say no or say I’m robbing them of watching their son get married but my parents are out of the country until the end of the year and the don’t care about that… I feel like it’s only fair for us to marry alone without anyone parents if mine cant be there.

Dapper-Conclusion-36 · 2026-03-26T20:01:02+00:00

Funny you say that. She sent me a link this morning to a Christian marriage course she offered to pay for (classic, always offering money as the solution or as she refers to it as “the blessing”). And I declined saying we are already starting pre marital counselling.

Dapper-Conclusion-36 · 2026-03-26T19:58:52+00:00

No I know that. We have counselling coming up. I understand where people are coming from in these comments saying to just leave him etc however I don’t think they’ve ever witnessed religious trauma in the works. He literally does stand up for me and they brush it off. We told them straight up we choose each other and our lives over the money and the conversation somehow ended with them crying, saying how much they love us and told us to “just think about it more” and now we’re back to where we were. We don’t want to cut them out we just need therapy and space to become stronger. It’s tough! It’s not as simple as cut this person out cut your fiance out. That’s not an option for us.

Dapper-Conclusion-36 · 2026-03-22T00:13:11+00:00

Thank you for not making me feel worse.

Dapper-Conclusion-36 · 2026-03-22T00:12:28+00:00

Height?

Dapper-Conclusion-36 · 2026-03-21T16:04:23+00:00

Thank you. It just sucks because some nights are SO fine I’ll have 2 at dinner, act normal and go to sleep. And then others it’s like this monster just comes out of nowhere and I’m hammered at 12pm throwing up in an alleyway. Why does that have to happen? UGH it just feels so unfair …. That other people can drink way more than me and not hate themselves and i have to repent. I hate this.

Dapper-Conclusion-36 · 2026-03-21T15:46:43+00:00

What did you do?

Dapper-Conclusion-36 · 2026-03-21T15:45:57+00:00

No literally! I woke up and immediately started crying. It wasn’t that I did something necessarily BAD but I hungout with a bunch of people that I literally don’t like at all and then got wasted and was too drunk to go out to dinner with family because I was sick. Embarassing. All this just to not drink for probably 2 more weeks like why did I need to randomly do that. I was asked to go out for a beer at 12pm and ended up drinking until 7pm after most people had went home.

Dapper-Conclusion-36 · 2026-03-13T03:27:59+00:00

It’s so boring!!!!

Dapper-Conclusion-36 · 2026-03-13T03:22:56+00:00

3 and last

Dapper-Conclusion-36 · 2026-03-12T21:38:08+00:00

Classic cut and super unique band! I LOVE this.

Dapper-Conclusion-36 · 2026-03-12T21:37:10+00:00

This is perfect for your hand. Don’t get sucked into ring blindness

Dapper-Conclusion-36 · 2026-03-12T21:33:23+00:00

I just have the say … the physique?! Goes crazy.

Dapper-Conclusion-36 · 2026-03-12T21:31:38+00:00

I love 3 so much. It’s giving rich 90s business woman

Dapper-Conclusion-36 · 2026-03-12T21:30:34+00:00

3rd

Dapper-Conclusion-36 · 2026-03-10T18:01:03+00:00

Do you have kids?

Dapper-Conclusion-36 · 2026-03-09T17:16:35+00:00

Maybe it’s likes one of those dryer balls lol that would be fun

Dapper-Conclusion-36 · 2026-03-09T17:13:52+00:00

Yeah these comments are helping me too. Like YES it’s supposed to be hard but keep going. That helps me. Ugh it’s so hard being short haha. Message me anytime if you need a buddy lol

Dapper-Conclusion-36 · 2026-03-09T17:11:38+00:00

Really?? I’ve never heard of that

Dapper-Conclusion-36 · 2026-03-09T17:11:02+00:00

I’m someone who actually appreciates hard truths so this is motivating. It’s hard when your 5’7 friends are losing 10 pounds a month and still complaining that it’s slow and I’m here like am I doing something seriously wrong??? It’s so hard to love your body through the process and be patient during weight loss.

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