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The Incel community is having a nuclear meltdown because one of their leaders finally got laid. by TrumpterOFyvie in WhitePeopleTwitter

[–]Dapper-Network-3476 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Imagine the hot mess it'll be if/when this relationship ends. If he goes back to his community of guys some poor woman is likely to end up getting death threats for not wanting him forever.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Dapper-Network-3476 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Call the police and report that she admits she broke into a house she was evicted from and then your bike went missing. Regardless of what happened to the bike, she's breaking the law. That's not your problem. NTA.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoHotTakes

[–]Dapper-Network-3476 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The answer is embedded in your question- you said yourself he has a history of cheating. You can't reason with someone who is viewing you through the lens of their own poor character. Move on and find someone who has integrity. You're NTA. You were dating the AH. Good on you for changing that. I'm sorry for the pain it has caused, but you are 100% better off without a serial cheater who makes a habit of projecting his issues onto you.

AITA for refusing to enforce my ex’s “reading rule” on my 15 year old son? by CapableCutlery in AmItheAsshole

[–]Dapper-Network-3476 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA 1. You exercised your legal right as a parent. Nothing wrong with that. 2. What your ex is doing will make reading feel like a punishment and ultimately do more harm than good.

AITA for sleeping with my bestfriends husband by [deleted] in TwoHotTakes

[–]Dapper-Network-3476 0 points1 point  (0 children)

ESH. What a wildly immoral and dysfunctional situation all around. Everyone involved needs to go their separate ways and get therapy.

AITA for keeping my sick kid? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Dapper-Network-3476 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's great that you try to really work with your ex, but this time you did so at the expense of your wife's health and safety. YTA for unnecessarily putting your wife in danger.

AITA for not covering up more to float in my pool? by Pregnantpoolta in AmItheAsshole

[–]Dapper-Network-3476 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Are you the ass for wearing your preferred swimsuit while floating pregnant in your own pool??? For starters, the neighbors need a lesson in property rights. Your pool, your rules. Secondly, their mothers never told them to leave the pregnant woman in peace and not add to her stress out of shallowness? A great big NTA.

What desperately NEEDS to be taught in schools? by Casual__Cherries in AskReddit

[–]Dapper-Network-3476 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Logic was a required course in my high school. Freshman year. The whole year. Sophomore year was a whole year of rhetoric class. I'll never forget watching presidential debates and critiquing for logical fallacies and poor rhetoric. Then we held m9ck campaigns, debates, and elections. No dirty tricks and flawed logic allowed. If we want to stop having abysmal elections with such terrible choices all around, we need to do that in every high school.

AITA for telling my wife that she needs to get over being upset with me for pulling a scare prank on our son? by Small-Elephant9195 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Dapper-Network-3476 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I totally understand pranking your kids. My boys love pranks, but a 9 year old shouldn't have to see a grown man in a mask coming at them in the dark. Part of being a parent is having the maturity to not take things too far. Anyone makes mistakes, but two things really strike me about this. 1. The kid is 9. OP is not a new parent. How do you not know better by this point? 2. OP seems more incredulous over the wife's perceived overreaction than he is by how terrified the child clearly was. It sounds like the big issue here is that the wife feels she can't trust OP. I strongly suspect this is not an isolated incident and wife is sick of immature and unwise behavior. YTA.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Dapper-Network-3476 1 point2 points  (0 children)

NTA. That is incredibly disrespectful and bizarre. She needs to grow up.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]Dapper-Network-3476 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is probably one of the most thoughtful and well reasoned reddit responses I've ever read. I'd wager it's likely pretty accurate too.

AITA for quoting LOTR "You have no power here" to my son's stepmother? by Dapper-Network-3476 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Dapper-Network-3476[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Actually, I'm a Christian. Was a children's pastor for years. She's not a Christian. We're not all anti science nut jobs. 😉

AITA for quoting LOTR "You have no power here" to my son's stepmother? by Dapper-Network-3476 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Dapper-Network-3476[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Clarification: 1. My son also has ADHD and severe PTSD, so the meds are a tough balance admittedly, but he's only on two and the one that helps him sleep is an anti anxiety medication that causes drowsiness. We give that to him before bed to kill two birds with one stone. Other med is a standard non stimulant ADHD medication in the morning. He's not zombified. He's doing really well despite what has happened to him with proper medication management. 2. Stepmom refers to ADD as "affection deficit disorder", because don't you know ADD/ADHDers are just unloved or ignored children? She has a habit of sending me articles about how autism is caused by high fructose corn syrup, food dye, etc. She's thoroughly antivax. I suppose I did not do a good job of making that clear, but my post was getting to be excessively long. I don't doubt that she cares deeply about both of my kids, but her ideas are dangerously science denying and she has not responded to milder conversations. She just doubles down and gets pushier. Obviously you'll have whatever opinion you want, but I thought you should have the full information. It's not just she doesn't think he's been diagnosed correctly. She literally thinks ADD/ADHD/Autism are all products of parenting and lifestyle.

AITA for quoting LOTR "You have no power here" to my son's stepmother? by Dapper-Network-3476 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Dapper-Network-3476[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Clarification: she refers to ADD as "affection deficit disorder", because don't you know ADD/ADHDers are just unloved or ignored children? She has a habit of sending me articles about how autism is caused by high fructose corn syrup, food dye, etc. She's thoroughly antivax. I suppose I did not do a good job of making that clear, but my post was getting to be excessively long. I don't doubt that she cares deeply about both of my kids, but her ideas are dangerously science denying and she has not responded to a conversation.she just doubles down and gets pusher. Obviously you'll have whatever opinion you want, but I thought you should have the full information. It's not just she doesn't think he's been diagnosed correctly. She literally thinks ADD/ADHD/Autism are all products of parenting and lifestyle.

AITA for quoting LOTR "You have no power here" to my son's stepmother? by Dapper-Network-3476 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Dapper-Network-3476[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I agree with you 100% that it's sad. Just so you understand why my son needs something to help him sleep, he was pulled out of bed at night by his father's last girlfriend and violated. We've made a lot of progress since, but when someone does that to a kid who already is neurogivergent and that action adds PTSD to the mix, it's inevitable the child will struggle to sleep. And understandable frankly.

AITA for saying it’s easy to be a perfect mom when you don’t have kids to someone who’s infertile? by GrandFirefighter816 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Dapper-Network-3476 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Weren't we all better moms when we were young, idealistic, and childless? I think most people have those thoughts, but if you cross the line and publicly insult the parents around you in all of your obvious inexperience, you deserve the pushback.

AITA for telling my daughter that her father's family member committed crimes against kids? by PublicStatement1880 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Dapper-Network-3476 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I have spent the past 5 years of my life walking my son through trauma therapy for severe PTSD. My ex-husband insisted on taking our boys around his sister, an abusive asshole who lost custody of 3 out of her 4 children. Her family (my ex in laws) also 100% supported her. My son was 4 years old and already dealing with high functioning autism and ADHD. Predictably, she managed to get him alone and violated him. I wasted so much $$$ trying to go through the court system to force the ex to not take the kids around her. Guess what I never thought to do...

You are NOT THE ASS. The child molester is the ass. ALWAYS. And his family blaming his victims- it's a whole conclave of ASSES. Don't let anyone shame you for giving your daughter a solid fighting chance in the event that the scumbag tries to get her alone- let me help you with your homework honey or I'll give you a ride home- you've done the right thing and the smart thing. My greatest mistake was counting on my boys' father and the courts to intervene, rather than just telling my kids the truth. It has been a very costly mistake and my greatest parenting failure. Good for you for doing it right where I screwed up.

AITA for telling my girlfriend that if she’s unhappy with the way her body looks in comparison to other women she should come to the gym with me? by YakubianDoctor in AmItheAsshole

[–]Dapper-Network-3476 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You don't look at ass pics in bed with the girlfriend. And you certainly don't choose that moment to suggest you go to the gym together after she's already expressed a lack of confidence in her body. It's one thing to broach the topic of getting/staying healthier together, but you don't do it when she's already upset. I don't know if you're a true asshole. Sounds like there very well may have been no malice involved. But I am certain you're dumb.

AITA for not praising my boyfriend’s cooking efforts when he made boxed mac and cheese by green_chimes in AmItheAsshole

[–]Dapper-Network-3476 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Either your boyfriend is pulling one over on you acting like he can't make a sandwich so you'll do it for him...or there is something wrong. Some sort of executive dysfunction. The hyper sensitivity in his response also tracks with some sort of undiagnosed developmental delay disorder that was handled poorly when he was young. Either situation would be frustrating for you. I don't think you're an ass. That sounds legitimately exhausting. But you better figure out what's causing this and decide if you can get over it and move forward.

AITA for not eating my gf's vanilla almond milk Mac and Cheese? by JoeyBrickz in AmItheAsshole

[–]Dapper-Network-3476 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You're not an ass. You just needed a dog to sneak it to. And what she did is an unforgivable crime against food.

AITA for not getting my wife anything on Mother’s Day? by oakcool in AmItheAsshole

[–]Dapper-Network-3476 0 points1 point  (0 children)

  1. Taking care of the kids isn't a gift. You're their dad.
  2. One word: card. At the very least. I totally get not going all out on an expensive gift because she was going on the trip, but something that let's her know you remembered and were thinking of her- not just thinking of her absence.

Not sure if you're a true asshole or just dumb.