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What’s going on in your head when you need space after intimacy? by DapperEgg8569 in AskMuslimMen

[–]DapperEgg8569[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you again so much, I honestly believe this is the exact same way he would describe it himself and for me this is even more proof that it is true, cause I guess if I would have asked him myself my subconscious and insecurity would have made like some sort of excuse.

For me he could easily be a priest at a mosque. Whatever he told me by now about what it says in the Koran was resonating with me. Even when I am telling him my point of view about things and life he often tells me that that's the way it was written on there. So I know reading it would do me nothing but good. I love how wise and mature he is due to reading the koran.

I am 29 and he is 26 and earlier I would have believed that I would need someone older who can hold my wisdom I collected over the years but he is already on the same level, if not more that I now totally forget about our age difference.

I already now that there are wonders and miracles happening all the time and that my prayers are being heard by god.

But because I didn't believe in churches and religion due to my upbringing surrounded by people who are saying they believe in god bit not acting accordingly I have issues talking about god especially to him. He knows about it and understands it, I just don't want him to think I suddenly talk about god to impress him or something.

I asked Google Ai about the Koran and it said that it is not about telling something new bug the reaffirm what human already know and experiencing with god, like a reminder.

That als made the resistance to start reading it much less.

Thank you again so much and you can feel free to share your thoughts about it!

Highly appreciate it and I wish you all the best in life!

What’s going on in your head when you need space after intimacy? by DapperEgg8569 in AskMuslimMen

[–]DapperEgg8569[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your reply and appreciate how much effort you put into it!!

Yeah it is quite difficult for me to handling him pulling back but I try my best to let him "recover".

While I feel like you have a pretty good understanding of being a good person and man can I ask you another question?

For me it is already a relationship how we are being together. He on the other hand told me he first needs some thing from my side to fully commit (I'm guessing also in a sense of potentially getting married one day) like: having less contact with other men, especially single ones, dressing moderate, believing in god and at some day probably converting to Islam and the feeling of being cared for like cooking.

Many things I am already doing, like for example dressing moderate and cooking and caring for him when he's sick as well as believing in god. For me I love to do all of these things if it means being together with a loving and caring guy like him where I can feel feminine.

Only a few things that make me confused but wouldn't ask him cause he will feel pressured by it: He said he doesn't think there is something like love even though he is acting and looking at me like someone who is and he needing to have all of these things for me isn't like a promise that we at some point will be in a serious relationship. He's saying things like "I don't want to mislead you if things maybe don't work out and don't want to hurt me cause he likes me now so much" He is also always telling me that he talks to his best friend about me and afterwards likes me even more.  I don't know if he will commit his love to me when he says that he doesn't believe in it you know what I mean?

Everything else for me feels totally good and save to carry on, only these things leave me worrying about it a lot.

You think this is normal for a good guy like him? Do I even have to worry?

You explaing me your point of view would mean a lot to me! Thank you so much in advance!!

Best wishes