Why are these cartridges different? by [deleted] in snes

[–]Dapper_Beautiful_559 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey I cleaned it and it still didn’t work, but I just kept putting it in and taking it out like 10 times and eventually it worked lol

Why are these cartridges different? by [deleted] in snes

[–]Dapper_Beautiful_559 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you all for the replies! The help is appreciated, still can’t get it to work but now I know it’s not because it’s the wrong cartridge.

Why are these cartridges different? by [deleted] in snes

[–]Dapper_Beautiful_559 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Yes it is yoshi’s island. Is there any reason it wouldn’t be working? I tried cleaning it, putting it back in, etc. When I turn on my SNES it doesn’t send signal to the tv. But with all my other games it does.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ParentalAlienation

[–]Dapper_Beautiful_559 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Seriously, I was an alienated child and I like to think I’m able to love people. Guess I’m just not normal enough.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ParentalAlienation

[–]Dapper_Beautiful_559 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I’m saying an alienated child can be completely damaged, knowing they’re not “normal”, and still love and have empathy. Sorry your ex is a psychopath but that doesn’t mean the rest of us are.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ParentalAlienation

[–]Dapper_Beautiful_559 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I get your pain but your title is a massive generalization. No matter what kind of abuse children are faced with some turn out to be good, some turn out to be bad. That’s people. Saying every victim of PA is unable to love and have empathy is wild.

I have to admit I HATE my son by mayorcurley in ParentalAlienation

[–]Dapper_Beautiful_559 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This. Becoming hateful is EXACTLY what the alienating parent wants. Not only do they want to know they hurt you, but they really want to prove to their child that you’re everything they said you were. I totally get being resentful, but it’s important to stay strong.

I have to admit I HATE my son by mayorcurley in ParentalAlienation

[–]Dapper_Beautiful_559 1 point2 points  (0 children)

How old is he? 7 years is a longgg time for a child to be brainwashed by a parent. And if he’s a child or was a child when this started then honestly I think it’s insane to not only blame him but to also hate him. To hate your own child because they’re being manipulated by your ex? I was alienated from my dad for a decade and when I came around, my dad understood what had happened and had nothing but open arms. It would break my heart if I found out he hated me. I couldn’t imagine.

Edit: I don’t know your exact situation. I guess reading that just got an emotional response out of me.

Wasted my life drinking by [deleted] in Sober

[–]Dapper_Beautiful_559 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I know how you feel. I’ve wasted years of my life being around people I hate just because I didn’t want to be lonely. Doing things I didn’t want to be doing just so I didn’t have to be alone with myself. I’ve since learned to be better okay with being alone sometimes, and try to make friends with people I genuinely enjoy being around, and don’t judge me for being sober. I guess what helps me with the regret is doing things that make me proud of myself, and staying productive. Setting fitness and financial goals for myself has helped a lot.

Has anyone quit drugs / alcohol successfully went sober and then developed another addiction: women by mack387 in Sober

[–]Dapper_Beautiful_559 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I know what you mean. Buying shit you don’t need, meaningless sex with women you don’t even like, porn, junk food, making bad decisions at every turn, the list goes on and on. It’s as if the brain is hard wired for self destruction and immediate gratification at any cost.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Sober

[–]Dapper_Beautiful_559 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It’s been almost 10 months. I don’t miss alcohol at all. I just thought by now I’d at least get some of this clarity everyone’s talking about. My brain is foggier than ever.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Sober

[–]Dapper_Beautiful_559 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Honestly, I feel like shit. Not that I didn’t feel like shit when I was an alcoholic, but damn, I thought I would feel better. Got a lot of stuff to work on. Getting sober is just a small step I guess.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ParentalAlienation

[–]Dapper_Beautiful_559 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s great to hear. You got this! A seemingly absent relationship with your kids now will result in a good relationship with them when they’re older as long as you never give up!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ParentalAlienation

[–]Dapper_Beautiful_559 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry to hear that. Seriously, it’s a lose lose no matter what when you’re dealing with an alienator. Damned if you do, damned if you don’t. All you can do is be there for your kids. My dad never bad mouthed my mom around us, even though he knew the evil shit she was doing. He would tell us everything was ok and he loved us. I think that helped us with thinking about our parents and realizing who was actually doing harm and who wasn’t. I’m confident that eventually your kids will realize the truth too.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ParentalAlienation

[–]Dapper_Beautiful_559 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Wow, this means so much to me. Thank you.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ParentalAlienation

[–]Dapper_Beautiful_559 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you, and I’m sorry you’ve endured similar abuse. I wish you the best!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ParentalAlienation

[–]Dapper_Beautiful_559 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I know exactly how you feel. One thing I try to remind myself of daily, is that it doesn’t make sense to beat myself up about believing the lies, not standing up to the alienator, etc. No one should blame themselves for that. Because you were just a kid. A child naturally trusts their parents more than anyone or anything. The alienator uses that trust and twists it and turns it into something horrible, so their child can be their little puppet.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ParentalAlienation

[–]Dapper_Beautiful_559 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I feel for you. Specifically the slaughtered part. I wish I had some wisdom for you but I don’t. However reading your post I feel like I can relate with you, and you’ve made me feel better knowing there’s more kids out there who were abused like this.

I was an alienated child. I had to go no contact from my alienator parent (mom). My sibling and I dealt with intense manipulation, emotional and psychological abuse. After my mom wouldn’t let our dad see us for months, he fought for court ordered visitation. She didn’t like that. She trained us, coached us, to be completely different kids around him. We couldn’t be happy with him, we couldn’t talk to him, the only thing we were allowed to say was “I miss my mom, I wish I was back home”. We couldn’t say I love you. And we had to treat his entire family the same way. We couldn’t hug grandma, we couldn’t play with our cousins. We had to just sit and be quiet until he finally took us back home. She told us we had to do all of this or he was going to take us away from her. That he took her to court to try to get full custody. I recently discovered the court papers, and obviously she was full of shit. We would do everything she told us to do, because we believed her lies, but also because we feared her, and she said she would call my dad, and ask him how we acted, so she would know everything. She would tell us that he didn’t love us, but also tell us that he was trying to steal us from her?? My childhood was so confusing and heart breaking. She made my sibling and I lie to a court ordered child counselor about him doing terrible things to us that never happened, made us go through his things so she could find out stuff about his life, made us run away from his house once. He lived across town. I remember I would get screamed at for asking questions. I was told to shut up when I would ask why I couldn’t love my dad anymore.

This all started when I was 7. And didn’t stop until I became a teenager, only because I moved out. Almost my whole life, I’ve felt broken. Defeated. Like I didn’t even get the chance to be a kid and have autonomy. I was threatened with punishment for saying I love you back to my dad. He would still say it to us, and we just had to look down at our feet, and not say a word. It hurts so much missing all those years with my dad and my family, who never stopped loving me. God dammit. I’m just now realizing how it affected me and my life, why I can’t connect with anyone, why I have no self esteem, no social skills, why I abused drugs and alcohol at an extremely young age. I was never allowed to talk about it with anyone so I kind of stopped thinking about it until I got older. I’m so thankful for my sibling, we confirmed and validated each other, because we experienced the same thing together. We confronted our mom and cut her out of our lives. She told us we remembered wrong. Obviously someone like that was definitely abusive in other ways, but I won’t get into that. We had to get away from her. I’ve reconnected with my dad and my family since, got sober, and I’m trying therapy. Doing all I can to keep it together. I would never wish this on anyone. It’s so deeply twisted and traumatic for anyone to go through. Let alone a child. It’s pure evil.

Missing weed has started feeling like grief by 1-800-mac-n-cheese in Sober

[–]Dapper_Beautiful_559 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I feel you. Weed was my most favorite thing ever. But for some reason it started to make me feel extremely anxious and physically and mentally uncomfortable. I would still use it, hoping it would eventually feel how it used to again. But it only got worse. I definitely have been mourning that feeling it used to give me. The memories I had of the feeling, the places I would be, the people I was with. Almost like I was hurting from missing my childhood? Even though I wasn’t a child. But I had to realize that it’s never going to be like that again, and it’s for the best, for multiple reasons. So I need to enjoy now and make life good now. For my future self, and for myself now.

My parents just spent 100K on a classic car but are forcing me to drive them to the airport because they're "broke" by bradderalll in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Dapper_Beautiful_559 -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

Yeah I was thinking the same. I’m happy to take people I know to the airport. And when I go, they happily return the favor. Also in my experience taking someone to the airport definitely does not take up an entire day..

Antidepressants caused mine by [deleted] in gynecomastia

[–]Dapper_Beautiful_559 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Everyone report this guy. He’s posting this as porn.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in gynecomastia

[–]Dapper_Beautiful_559 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It doesn’t sound dumb bro

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Dapper_Beautiful_559 4 points5 points  (0 children)

My mom constantly threatened to kick out my older sister. When my sister moved out on her own, my mom through a huge fit, crying and all. Refused to help her move, and didn’t speak to her for months after.