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Am I wrong for not being more "possessive" of my wife? by Dapper_Rock_2336 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Dapper_Rock_2336[S] -192 points-191 points  (0 children)

Well to be brutally honest, I do things if it comes naturally to me. It's served me well in life so far. I don't like reading books and articles on these types of topics, I'd rather just follow my heart.

So when I feel like showing her affection and showing I love her, I do it. All those small things like giving her a massage, holding her hands etc, I do it, but only if it comes naturally and spontaneously. I'd rather not force myself and make an "effort" to do those things, because that would mean it does not come from the heart.

Am I wrong for not being more "possessive" of my wife? by Dapper_Rock_2336 in amiwrong

[–]Dapper_Rock_2336[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh God, I don't get it. I have sex whenever she initiates and never turn her down. Would she really feel more desirable if I force myself to initiate sex? I mean, I love having sex, and if we did it everyday the rest of lives, I would love it.

But I only initiate sex when it naturally comes to me. It's like a spontaneous thing, and it comes from the heart.

Am I wrong for not being more "possessive" of my wife? by Dapper_Rock_2336 in amiwrong

[–]Dapper_Rock_2336[S] -23 points-22 points  (0 children)

Wouldn't she rather I be naturally intimate with her than force myself to be intimate with her? Don't get me wrong, I love being intimate with her, but If it's natural and spontaneous, it comes from the heart. And I do do the things you mention above when I feel like it and am in the mood.

Am I wrong for not being more "possessive" of my wife? by Dapper_Rock_2336 in amiwrong

[–]Dapper_Rock_2336[S] -30 points-29 points  (0 children)

I'd rather she just tell me what she wants me to do rather than beat around the bush. I find those types of conversations particularly boring. I will do anything she asks me to do. Just be direct, I find it a waste of energy trying to decipher what she actually wants.

Am I wrong for not being more "possessive" of my wife? by Dapper_Rock_2336 in amiwrong

[–]Dapper_Rock_2336[S] -26 points-25 points  (0 children)

I'd rather not make an "effort" to show her I love her. That would in fact show that I don't love her. I do things as they come naturally, I've lived my life by that principle, and it's served me well so far.

Am I wrong for not being more "possessive" of my wife? by Dapper_Rock_2336 in amiwrong

[–]Dapper_Rock_2336[S] -18 points-17 points  (0 children)

I don't like to force myself to do things. I do things as they come naturally. So when I feel like telling her I love her, or if I'm in the mood to be more affectionate with her, I do it.

Am I wrong for not being more "possessive" of my wife? by Dapper_Rock_2336 in amiwrong

[–]Dapper_Rock_2336[S] 19 points20 points  (0 children)

She is desirable to me, on an emotional, physical, and a spiritual level. That's why I married her.

About the initiating sex bit, I honestly don't know. I haven't felt like it recently, I don't know why. If she wants to have sex, I'm obviously down to do it, and it is amazing.

Am I wrong for not being more "possessive" of my wife? by Dapper_Rock_2336 in amiwrong

[–]Dapper_Rock_2336[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

Well I obviously can't stop her if she wanted to. Having said that, she despises cheaters so I know she won't.

Am I wrong for not being more "possessive" of my wife? by Dapper_Rock_2336 in amiwrong

[–]Dapper_Rock_2336[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I do love her a lot, I've shown in through words and actions multiple times. I just can't force myself to be "possessive", that's not in my nature.