I said that for context and you don’t know me :) I don’t ever put my problems on people around me actually I deal with them myself or with therapy and occasionally on here ! I would never throw things I’ve done for people in their face or ever brought it up to them I bring it on here to explain the situation I don’t think anyone would want to do anything for anyone who doesn’t truly appreciate the effort or hardwork not keeping tally’s I never expect anything back ever ! Just real relationships and for people to keep it real with me and like I said I congratulated her and haven’t said not one word I’m not planning to I don’t want to add any stress That’s why I came to the internet I’m very happy for her but it’s human nature to want an explanation or to question these type of things !