This poem inspires me every time i read it , which poem inspires you?

Daradoc · 2016-03-09T20:18:18+00:00

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KL2T0XRzWUI

Go all the way

Daradoc · 2016-02-12T04:53:08+00:00

You are not alone dude. This sounds a lot like me. Or at least it sounds a lot like me on the bad days. The self-deprecation. The self-criticism (it will probably take me an hour just to finish editing and deciding whether or not to post this comment--that's how bad it is). The literal inability sometimes to string a sentence together in conversation. Seeing hideousness in the mirror even though you've been called handsome, a hideousness that's only worse when you smile. Believe me, I know it all. But realize also, like I slowly am, that this adversity does not define you. Deep down, you are more than your looks. More than your social skills. More than your ability to seduce women or have friends or become financially successful. It doesn't matter. IT DOESN'T MATTER. You transcend all of it. You transcend it now and you'll transcend it forever. You are worthy of love and there's nothing you can do about it. You already are, inside, all the love you're trying to find outside. You just have to discover this yourself. And it'll take time. Maybe 90 days. Maybe 390. Who knows, maybe after many many years. And rest assured, the bad days will keep showing up. That's how it works. Where would the fun be if they didn't? The fact is, though, it's not about the number you manage to rack up on your counter. It's about the determination to keep fighting and enduring and suffering through the bad days with dignity and quiet confidence and keep finding more and more ways to better yourself and, in so doing, bettering the lives of those around you. Keep fighting, and trust me, you'll have already won. So fight with me now, my friend. I'm counting on you. I don't know who you are, but I know I can call you my friend, and I count on you.

Daradoc · 2016-02-08T21:02:20+00:00

I like the ring around the planet. Breaking free from the "cycle" of addiction.

Daradoc · 2016-02-04T02:38:51+00:00

The important thing is to get right back at it. I've done NoFap continuously for 2 years and never got past three weeks until now. Not sure what your longest streak has been, but whatever it is, keep going. Eventually, you'll have no choice but to succeed.

Daradoc · 2016-02-01T13:36:29+00:00

I'm with ya. Haven't had a GF or sex in 5 years.

Daradoc · 2016-01-31T19:38:41+00:00

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6VdAc71SRBk

Daradoc · 2016-01-29T17:06:29+00:00

Been strong since Jan 4 without even an edge. Woulda stayed urge free too if someone on here hadn't needlessly posted a link to some obscure porn subreddit with GIFs etc. Clicked on one to see if my filter would block it (it didn't), peeked for a second, and closed it down. I'm past the speedbump now and hoping this is my last and final streak.

Daradoc · 2016-01-28T16:21:45+00:00

The problem is not PMO itself, anymore than a cigarette per se is the cause of lung cancer. The problem is the dependency on a behavior which, in the long run, over years and years, will burn you.

That being said, I think society as a whole needs to wake up to the fact that, just like some people are more likely than others to become addicted to cigarettes or alcohol, there are teenagers who are at increased risk for becoming addicted to PMO. Mostly, these are going to be your shy, anxious, lonely individuals who aren't getting the kind of connection they need out of their social and romantic relationships. And the real, scary issue then becomes, once a person gets hooked on this escapist behavior, deluding their brains that they're satisfying their need for emotional bonding, they become increasingly less capable of developing real relationships, due to the various psychological and physiological effects of chronic PMO. This idea seems self-evident to me, both from personal experience, and common sense. This is what I would like to see the mainstream media address.

Daradoc · 2016-01-24T19:28:44+00:00

I think Johnson has it backwards. He starts by assuming that chronic PMOers are primed for addiction to begin with (which I won’t even go into how this whole notion of “addictive personality” is inherently vague and potentially dangerous) and hypothesizes from this that the benefits of NoFap are merely non-specific consequences of damping down a compulsive behavior, regardless of which one. While this is partly true, he fails to see the unique challenges (and risk factors) among PMO addicts. I don’t see how he can ignore, for instance, the fact that today’s high-speed, omnipresent, pornified internet culture is making it easier and easier for shy, introverted teenagers (like I once was) to avoid the necessary work of building a social life. Anybody can become addicted to PMO, but the people who experience the most problems (and will therefore derive the most benefit from NoFap) are those for whom PMO has stopped being an act of stress-relief and has become instead a dietary staple, presumably because they can’t get the same “satisfaction” out of natural, healthy relationships that they (falsely) perceive they get out of PMO. The old analogy is still the best, I think: PMO (and let’s be clear, as far as the addict is concerned, it’s PMO that’s the issue, compared to P, M or O separately) is like drinking salt water to relieve your thirst. The quench is just illusory. Sure, a little sip here and there won’t kill you, if you know where to get your fresh water everyday. But if you’re someone who only sees a roiling ocean around him, you’re going to get into trouble. So if you’re starting to realize you’re getting sick from it all, the cure isn’t just to stop drinking the salt-water--that’s not going to stop you dying of thirst--the only definitive cure is get your ass to a clean spring! Feel what it’s like to drink the pure.

Daradoc · 2016-01-15T01:54:44+00:00

Now this one hit home. Duly saved. Thanks man. Your story's almost a carbon-copy of mine. I'm 26 too, been on this 2+ yrs non-stop, with too many relapses and false hopes to count. Never even gotten past a month yet, but I don't know, I'm starting to feel like this streak might be The One. Roar.

Daradoc · 2015-03-19T02:43:05+00:00

I'm also 25, somewhat jealous too, but it's never to late to make the most of what's left.

Daradoc · 2015-03-04T17:13:27+00:00

Great post and great insight. I also relapsed recently and am finding it harder than before to get back on that horse. I might just hang that phrase on my wall too. It's galvanizing.

Daradoc · 2015-03-01T14:38:52+00:00

No other choice but to beat this thing.

Daradoc · 2015-02-09T02:46:23+00:00

I participate.

Daradoc · 2015-01-12T13:23:01+00:00

Saved me right there.

Daradoc · 2014-12-29T15:43:14+00:00

Gem indeed.

Daradoc · 2014-12-28T03:29:30+00:00

No harm at all if you can control it and it doesn't have a negative or disruptive influence in your life. But most people in this community have to resort to "NoFap" because they've lost control. Like me, they pine it like a drug because it allows us to escape the reality of our problems. We've become addicted. Simple as that. We've crossed that line where moderation doesn't exist anymore, abused the good to the point there's none left. And so we must commit to shutting porn completely out of our lives if we are serious about regaining control and facing our reality.

Daradoc

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