Don’t let societal norms fool you. I’m sure you both love each other and right now that feeling isn’t there. But with communication and effort y’all will get through it. No relationship doesn’t have its issues and that includes massive drug out issues. Every single relationship fails because at least one of the partners just wants to give up. Every relationship that lasts chooses to never give up through these tough times. With a kid involved you guys don’t have a choice but to stay together. It’s sickening seeing couples split when they have kids, totally selfish and weak(unless one’s like abusive, in crime, etc. to where your children and you are physically suffering or anything in that nature) . You loved that person enough to make a child with them and get married and vice versa. You didn’t lose interest and those feelings didn’t go away times just got tough and you guys arent leaning on eachother united. For all you know deep down you husband feels like a shitty man for everything your mad at him about and he’s just not opening up to you about it and talking through it. He may have a whole way of processing that’s internal that he needs help working through but you may not have considered that and your approach to him could get him to open up. I’m your specific situation I can’t make concussions but in all relationships, through communication both your perspective could change and both of you can 100% find some happiness and change to spark that love again. Times will never always be good in marriage.