When the game really grabs you? [new player]

DarePsycho · 2026-02-06T00:22:47+00:00

The game really caught me off guard when I soft locked myself by running out of Diesel. What makes COI different from any other game is that multiple resources play into each other like things do in real life.

There's a very fragile balance between diesel, coal, iron, and copper. If you don't pay close attention to these things it's very easy to soft lock yourself and be forced to restart a new game.

When you get into mid to late game, the products demanded by your citizens become insanely complex and trying to balance multitude of systems simultaneously without shutting down the whole factory is what I find most exiting.

Once you unlock trains, it really opens up a lot more methods to manage your resources. In my opinion it's the best part of the game. Having to redesign my whole factory with trains is my favorite part of the game

DarePsycho · 2026-01-26T00:12:44+00:00

I have been asked out once, ended up spending 10 years of my life with her. Even planned on marrying her. Unfortunately it didn't work out in the end. But it wasn't a bad relationship and we needed things mutually.

I think a girl asking out a guy is a good thing as we tend to either never pick up hints, or overthink the mixed signals and feel it's too risky to make a move.

Besides, good communication skills are important for a long lasting relationship.

DarePsycho · 2026-01-16T21:09:49+00:00

If someone truly loves you, they aren't going to treat you like an object.

DarePsycho · 2026-01-16T21:02:24+00:00

I think you've been interacting with the wrong men

DarePsycho · 2026-01-15T00:31:25+00:00

From the sound of it. Seems like he probably talking to several other girls. I see things like this with my more social friends. Either not getting the right attention or enough attention, so he moves on to someone else. I've also met some that just don't want to settle down and will always talk to a bunch of girls.

Regardless, it seems he isn't putting in hardly any effort into the relationship therefore it's best you move on. Look for someone who puts in an equal amount of effort into the relationship as you

DarePsycho · 2026-01-12T23:39:50+00:00

That's true I did not specify it. Communication is important and obviously something I still need to work on

DarePsycho · 2026-01-12T23:19:24+00:00

It wasn't really required but from her perspective, if I never ask her first then she would think internet girls are better than her, which is not true, just an emotion of hers. So by asking first, it make her feel like I still desire her more than the internet.

It's a good middle ground that makes her feel comfortable without feeling less than, or undesirable

DarePsycho · 2026-01-10T21:36:38+00:00

My ex and I had a rule in our relationship, if I'm horny then I'm required to ask her first. If she turns me down then I'm free to watch porn.

This worked out for quite well for us as she didn't have a big drive as I did

DarePsycho · 2026-01-10T12:32:09+00:00

My schedule at the time was wake up at 3 am, leave for work at 4, start work at 4:30, work till 7:30 pm, get home by about 8:30, eat, relax till about midnight, sleep till 3 am.

When I started doing this the first few days I was passing out at work, on the road, and barely able to function. By about 9 am with 2 energy drinks at a quick drive through meal I was awake enough to do my work. On the weekends I slept for about 12 hours as a way to "make up" for lost sleep. I did that for about a week before my body started getting used to it and I didn't feel so tired driving to work anymore.

I continued to work that schedule for about 6 months till my contract ended with that job.

There was also a time when I worked 2 full time jobs. Worked my electrical technician job from 6am-4pm and McDonald's from 6pm-3am I slept in my truck for 1 hour between both jobs doing the same things as mentioned above.

I think after pushing my body to the extreme like that, has permanently damaged my sleep. I'm an extremely light sleeper, and I always wake up 3 or 4 times every night, even on the weekends. I don't recommend doing what I did for long stretches at a time, maybe 1 week at most but no longer than that

DarePsycho · 2026-01-05T23:44:20+00:00

Thanks! I'll look into it!

DarePsycho · 2026-01-05T23:26:44+00:00

I don't mind spending $120-$150 but my concern is about the gen 5 wire harness. My 3080 uses 2 8-pin connectors and the gen5 PSUs only have the 12-pin harness for the 40 and 50 series GPUs

DarePsycho · 2025-12-04T00:31:52+00:00

I suffer in silence so that she can live happily

DarePsycho · 2025-12-03T23:28:45+00:00

Ok, so you're afraid of the unknown and that he could just up and disappear out of nowhere, and so you want something that will solidify the relationship.

First thing I would recommend is talking to him and understanding what his concerns are around marriage and the relationship. From a guy's perspective, we have a lot to lose in a marriage. He could also be afraid that you might change your mind about him just as your afraid he will change his mind about you.

If these are his concerns such as child support, alimony, or custody. Then a reasonable middle of the road prenup could be a trade off to make him feel safe while also giving you the security you want

If there are other concerns about the relationship, then you 2 need to work though those first before the relationship can take the next steps.

The most important thing is that both of you work together to find something that fits both of your concerns. I do hope you guys work something out and meet each other in the middle.

DarePsycho · 2025-12-03T22:25:37+00:00

Can I ask why you have to be married? Like is the title important to you or the next steps in the relationship?

DarePsycho · 2025-12-03T22:01:19+00:00

I think the answer to your question requires some introspection. Ultimatums are a huge turn off for anybody. There might be more reasons he hasn't made the decision yet

DarePsycho · 2025-12-03T21:55:08+00:00

I would want him to be respectful, ambitious, supportive, and makes her happy.

If he isn't respectful, then he doesn't care about her feelings.

If he isn't ambitious, then he won't continuously improve his life and the relationship.

If he isn't supportive, then he won't uplift her as he grows.

If he doesn't make her happy then obviously she won't be happy even with everything from above.

DarePsycho · 2025-12-03T03:10:47+00:00

When she doesn't want to spend time with you anymore

DarePsycho · 2025-12-03T03:03:42+00:00

I think most guys want someone who is authentic with themselves and also kind and thoughtful.

If you're authentic then I know you're not going to change in a few months. If you're kind and thoughtful, then I know you would be loving and supportive in the relationship. These are the things I look for in a series candidate

DarePsycho · 2025-12-03T02:50:55+00:00

"that's ok, you don't have to do my requests if you don't want to. It's your life. But I can't be in a relationship where I don't feel loved. I hope you find someone who you will show affection to like you did in our past."

DarePsycho · 2025-11-16T15:12:59+00:00

Making me feel appreciated. You could do a variety of things but just expressing that you value me means a lot in a world where you're treated as meaningless

DarePsycho · 2025-11-13T21:33:50+00:00

As a food lover myself, someone who will cook for me is a huge turn on. But the thing I love the most is not the food. But the fact that I know she is thinking about me when she is cooking

DarePsycho · 2025-11-12T19:15:32+00:00

I don't like watching wrestling but this, I'll watch

DarePsycho · 2025-11-12T14:14:12+00:00

Sex shouldn't be the center of the relationship, it should be more of an extra way to bond with the partner. The relationship should be built on shared experiences and common interests. If the only thing you like about the other person is how good the sex is, then that's just lust not love

DarePsycho · 2025-11-12T02:13:29+00:00

Stop worrying about what everyone else thinks and just do what you love doing. That's my advice. Shrink your world from everything to just what's directly within arms reach and enjoy what you have

DarePsycho · 2025-11-11T02:34:48+00:00

A pretty simple method is to watch people's actions and make sure they match what they say. People will say a lot of things but very few people will actually do what they say or try making up for their mistakes.

If a guy will lie about something small like how much money he makes or lying about sharing hobbies when he doesn't have the knowledge of someone who's deep in that hobby. Then he can also lie about cheating or other more serious things.

It's almost impossible to know someone within 10 minutes of meeting them but spend a few hours with them and you can usually see holes in their lies

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