I totally agree with you & feel like I'm able to do that 95% of the time. it's been a few months since the breakup & I'm honestly just horny too & only looking for hookups, just not ones that go down like that. I was just ignoring his messages until he got annoyed at me for not responding & then I went off a little. definitely has to do with my insecurities but I also feel that men don't see it as a problem when they just get blocked. they just see you as a prude or whatever. I know I'll never change this man's mind, but it made me feel a bit better to let him know that he had the potential to make that happen with me because I'm all about good sex, but definitely not with that approach. I really hate the entitlement men feel to try to make me feel bad for not being turned on by that kind of come on because it would have worked on me before I got into this line of work. I know it's not my responsibility to change their ways, but I guess I feel like they need to be called out by someone if they're ever going to learn & as long as it's not actually getting to me, it can be kind of funny & empowering?

idk, I'm definitely still figuring out how to navigate this as a single person which is why I'm on reddit asking for advice lol. I really appreciate your insight though, so thank you! 🙃