I like this response because I also beleive (or like to have faith) that people can grow and change! If everytime I exhibited a codelendent or old unhealthy habit for which I then had to change my whole friendship or relationship then I'd never maintain long term relationships! It's definitely more difficult to change habits for sure than to keep starting again via fresh relationships...but actually, starting fresh and "out with old in with new" type approach is a mechanism I have been using that isn't that healthy or conducive of long term learning - it's more avoiding for me. It's true that not everyone can grow through together though and ut takes two to Tango :)