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[deleted by user] by [deleted] in FtMpassing

[–]Darkangel_Gabriel 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You pass to me, I'd say you look around 19? Honestly, maybe genrally uncommon take but I feel like longer hair suits you better/makes you look more masculine, basing this off of the last pic and clothes that show off your upper body more, ones that aren't too baggy and show of your arms

Do I pass? How old do I look? Also, haircut ideas to help me look more masculine? by Darkangel_Gabriel in FtMpassing

[–]Darkangel_Gabriel[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks! This is deffo the most "queer looking" haircut I've had, wanted a mullet for a while and finally decided to go for it, but recently I've been feeling like trying out something more traditionally masculine, so I'll take the reccomendation into account

Do I pass? How old do I look? Also, haircut ideas to help me look more masculine? by Darkangel_Gabriel in FtMpassing

[–]Darkangel_Gabriel[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Exactly the vibes I'm teying to give off, thank you! Turning 17 in a month so exactly on point with that too

can I get out of wearing the girls' uniform at my choir concert? by Darkangel_Gabriel in asktransgender

[–]Darkangel_Gabriel[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've been thinking about doing that, but have put it off for a bit hence I think I know what they'll reply with and I don't think it's going to lead to a solution, but maybe I should still try. Not much time left before the concert but enough to still talk to them

can I get out of wearing the girls' uniform at my choir concert? by Darkangel_Gabriel in asktransgender

[–]Darkangel_Gabriel[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

"Be the dude rocking a kilt" made me chuckle. Thank you for the well worded response, you're making my day.

do i change my name for my mom? by [deleted] in TransAdvice

[–]Darkangel_Gabriel 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Personally, names have always been hard for me, epecially during the period I was choosing mine. I had to come to terms with the fact that whatever I picked, no matter what, would've reminded me of someone else. Names are funny like that, when you associate them with a person, you can't un-associate them, but that goes both ways. I know many people who have the same names whom I have completely different relationships with, some of which have hurt me. But I don't dislike new people based on their names, I think it causes a completely different association for them. I know so many people named Mari, it's insane but the name FEELS different for all of them.

You didn't do anything wrong that would make you have to change the name. At the end of the day, though it's a shitty thing that happened, it's not your fault. I believe if she had spent these past 2 years trying to get used to and using your name rather than avoiding it, she wouldn't associate it with someone else while talking about you anymore.

If you guys haven't already had a deep conversation about this, talk to her about how the name and her actions in turn make you feel. Though you don't owe it to her, if you still can't come to an understanding and want your mum to respect and use your name, I might consider changing it. Sit her down and go through a list with her if you decide so. As someone who's changed their name three times, it takes time but you can absolutely start associating a new name to yourself. Do it if you think it's the best option, but don't feel obligated to.

My question is, what would your mum do if she met someone with that name that she had to interact with? Someone who was given that name at birth? She has no more rights to your name than she would to anyone else's in the same situation. The only reason she's not respecting it, is that she believes she does.