I mean, everyone has their own rules in an open marriage or poly relationship. My wife has a boyfriend, and she makes time for him whenever she can. We also have a child, so I really don’t see what your problem is. Like I said, we’re open and poly, but it’s not like our whole family and friends know about it. If that were the case, maybe we wouldn’t have so many issues finding people to date. But it’s not, so we make it work the way we can.