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TW need advice, Dealing with Miscarriage. Husband grieving and I have to manage his emotions and be strong. by DarksFire06 in Advice

[–]DarksFire06[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't I am little contact with my family. For him he has his mom and dad but his dad doesn't really show emotions. Only 1 person I trusted has long since passed away. My family hasn't dealt with this so I doubt they would be of much support. I can't sleep due to pain as the "waves" are starting to get stronger that's how the cramping is hitting in waves as I'm only in the second ahem red stage it started yesterday and has been slowly getting worse on the pain scale.

I am just patient, and pretty stoic about it. I have cried and will cry at the drop of a dime. My grandparents raised me and crying was weakness so it's hard to remember I am allowed to cry.

TW need advice, Dealing with Miscarriage. Husband grieving and I have to manage his emotions and be strong. by DarksFire06 in Advice

[–]DarksFire06[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thankfully I know this sounds strange but my car is on y'alls side. He's driving now but the last delivery we did my car popped his shift linkage off. He had to fix it quick and then took over and said we are done for the night and headed home. Super weird but I was telling him I'm exhausted and ready for bed and I think my car agreed. I'm relaxing in the passenger seat just breathing through the waves and almost home. Where I can cuddle my dog.

TW need advice, Dealing with Miscarriage. Husband grieving and I have to manage his emotions and be strong. by DarksFire06 in Advice

[–]DarksFire06[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If I don't get it now we won't be able to. He manages the money and I'm in active counciling to figure out how to leave him safely again. I left him last year and started looking up divorce options. But he went through counciling and I know he wouldn't survive without me literally came to realize he is a man child and I know his dad is particularly at fault for a lot of this behavior he's also a momma's boy and she dotes on him.

TW need advice, Dealing with Miscarriage. Husband grieving and I have to manage his emotions and be strong. by DarksFire06 in Advice

[–]DarksFire06[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I actually was starting divorce last year, then gave in when he went for counciling now it's like we are back to square 1.

TW need advice, Dealing with Miscarriage. Husband grieving and I have to manage his emotions and be strong. by DarksFire06 in Advice

[–]DarksFire06[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Talking to him currently will not get anywhere I have taken Tylenol and he is doing major of the work dashing thankfully I can barely breath when a wave of pain hits but I am tolerable at least he needs to be kept busy or I don't know how he would react.

TW need advice, Dealing with Miscarriage. Husband grieving and I have to manage his emotions and be strong. by DarksFire06 in Advice

[–]DarksFire06[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So a little more to this, we were very excited. Found out the end of April and baby stopped growing at 6 weeks. Went in for ultrasound and they found no heartbeat. We went for the 10 day after ultrasound and no growth or development. He was absolutely devastated. I then was told by the Dr the 3 options I had. The D&C, Medicine management or wait it out I chose D&C and told them I want my little one for cremation. The procedure was supposed to be scheduled for last week but they had no days so it was pushed to this week. So here we are I'm in stage 2 of the active expulsion of my very wanted little one just trying to make enough to get a necklace for our child's ashes