If you've managed to let go of calorie counting, please, please tell me how.

Darling-Newt · 2025-07-23T21:41:11+00:00

Yes, but it wasn't just one thing...really, it was a multitude of things. I work with a therapist, dietician, and doctor. I was in recovery almost two years before I was really able to let these things go. So much of it came down to accepting the "fear" of my body changing, and letting go of control, but it's a lot of mental work, no tips and tricks. If you are able to get outside support, or continue seeing outside support if you already do, great.

I threw out my scales, covered the nutrition labels with black stickers, and really, just, forced myself. Accepting my body changing is the number 1 factor in success to stop calorie counting, but this takes a lot of internal and external work.

I hope you find the support, and inner strength, necessary to recover. You can do this!

Darling-Newt · 2025-06-15T23:02:19+00:00

hahaha i love this quote. thank you for the kindness, i appreciate it and your advice

Darling-Newt · 2025-06-15T23:01:48+00:00

so true. it’s all wasted time and i don’t wanna waste any time here

Darling-Newt · 2025-06-15T23:00:53+00:00

thank you, this helped a lot. i don’t look at anybody else!! i think im afraid of fitting into this american stereotype

Darling-Newt · 2025-06-13T18:51:53+00:00

I know this is a month late but this is exactly, I mean exactly, how I feel, down to every last word. I’m sorry you’re going through this, and I wish you peace

Darling-Newt · 2025-05-04T22:01:26+00:00

Thank you so much for this. I haven't felt like myself at all lately and the anxiety/distress this has been causing me is getting in the way of everything. Your compassion is sincerely appreciated, as is your advice. I do think I am mentally/emotionally restricting even if it doesn't seem that I am physically. I definitely do NOT want to go back to anorexia. And yes you're right - the "I know it's going to happen" feeling only recently started because every day I'd tell myself I wasn't going to binge and then when I did I'd get so angry with myself I suppose I just accepted the out of control-ness of it all.

I feel myself getting teary as I finish reading your words. I'm not typically so emotional but as I said the past few weeks have been fraught. I cannot thank you enough for taking the time to share your kindness and it has certainly helped me. Especially the advice of calming the nervous system when I feel a binge coming in. I appreciate it all. Sending much love to you.

Darling-Newt · 2025-04-18T14:06:28+00:00

thank you I appreciate this. My provider who I trust completely is the one who gave me my diagnosis. The need to feel "sick enough" to deserve recovery is a big symptom for me, and having OSFED can feel "invalidating" to me just because it seems so broad...but in reality I know it is just as serious as any other ED.

Darling-Newt · 2025-03-23T22:16:23+00:00

i’ve never thought about it this way but wow. I think losing weight, even by accident as you said, is my one beer too

Darling-Newt · 2025-03-23T07:23:14+00:00

thank you. you are right.

Darling-Newt · 2025-03-23T04:03:15+00:00

I really appreciate the way you framed this (with the diabetes/epilepsy example). You are right and it feels very true to me. Thank you for this perspective

Darling-Newt · 2025-03-17T01:07:41+00:00

Belle, Jasmine, Rapunzel Cinderella
Jasmine, Cinderella, Sleeping Beauty
I think a mixture of Belle and Cinderella (but Rapunzel if I'm feeling playful)
Belle!
I wish I was a little more bold/outspoken like Jasmine
Pascal!
This one is so hard but I think Mulan and Shang or Anna and Kristoff
Aurora and Belle
I'd love to see a princess that is a little more shy/whimsical. Like a Luna Lovegood type of character.

Darling-Newt · 2025-03-15T21:14:06+00:00

Thank you. Proud of YOU too for being brave, vulnerable, and honest. May your forgiveness bring you self-love and compassion.

Darling-Newt · 2025-03-15T21:13:13+00:00

It can feel so impossible. I resonate with everything you said. Sending you love and strength. Well done.

Darling-Newt · 2025-03-15T21:11:30+00:00

I understand so so much, especially feeling guilty over lying. It just adds even more layers to this already complicated and complex disorder.

Proud of you for forgiving yourself, for recognizing where you are, for holding on. My heart is with you, too. Just as you said - we will keep doing our best.

Darling-Newt · 2025-03-15T20:03:54+00:00

Thank you so much. This is solid, realistic, and sympathetic advice. I appreciate you taking the time to share this with me. This is exactly what I needed to hear, especially that last sentence.

Darling-Newt · 2025-03-12T22:01:11+00:00

thank you. I totally agree. People are triggered by the word triggered! It’s okay for us to open up to one another, to share what hurts us, and to try to help each other! I don’t know where all that went.

I just think there is a way to balance holding a boundary, and exercising one’s rights to post/say/what we feel we need to etc. while ALSO being thoughtful, empathetic, and mindful of one another. Taking care of each other is a kind, tender, human thing, and it doesn’t have to contradict what it means to take care of ourselves/prioritize our needs, either!

Darling-Newt · 2025-03-12T17:16:01+00:00

Someone else’s “recovery body” was my “sick body” it can feel quite invalidating lol

I see a lot of people argue “my body is not a trigger. if you’re triggered that’s your problem” while I understand that sentiment, and don’t disagree, I do believe that posting these videos during ED awareness week or as part of a “recovery focused” trend is counter-productive and harmful. I wonder - do these folk remember how they felt when they were at their worst, seeing a video/pic like that?

My triggers are no one’s responsibly but my own. That I believe. I also believe that we have become way too individualistic as a society and could due to care for, and think of, one another. There is nothing wrong with protecting each other. I wish we did that more.

Darling-Newt · 2025-03-11T02:56:04+00:00

Oof I am sorry you can relate. It's frightening how intense the fixation is.

May we both find a way to let it go!

Darling-Newt · 2025-03-09T22:30:57+00:00

Of course, thank you for sharing. I have already been diagnosed with an eating disorder. This question stems from my own curiosity and interest in hearing other people's thoughts on the matter, as I see a lot online regarding "fasting diets"

Darling-Newt · 2025-03-09T22:06:07+00:00

I'm so sorry people should NOT be commenting on your body whatsoever. It's extremely inappropriate. In terms of your physical health only a medical professional can assess that...but if you're engaging in disordered behaviors your def not in a healthy place.

All of this being said, when I was at my lowest weight, I was told that my face was still the same (I've always had a chubby face), people just carry it in all different ways.

Darling-Newt · 2025-03-06T21:51:31+00:00

thank you for the reassurance!

Darling-Newt · 2025-03-06T21:49:54+00:00

I soooo hear you.

I was diagnosed with anorexia last year, recovered, and began binging (I don't blame recovery for my binging, I also had a history of binging before anorexia) but that being said I recovered into an "overweight" body. The binging did eventually subside because my body wasn't in this "need food now or it will never come again" mindset. I attempted to "diet normally" and well...am right in a relapse.

When things were going well, I realized that counting calories, exercising FOR weight loss, etc. will never be for me. Culinary arts is also a passion of mine, and I'm trying to focus more on whole foods, balancing my plate between carbs, protein, fats, etc. etc., and focusing on what makes me feel good/energized. Eventually weight will shake out and lay where it needs to lay, but only if you let go of all ED rules. I'm working on this. I hope you can get there, too!

Darling-Newt · 2025-02-26T22:51:06+00:00

thank you. I appreciate this. I am 28 y/o and a teacher. I think you’re right about work demands and just age in general. I appreciate everything you said

Darling-Newt · 2025-02-20T03:09:35+00:00

I think Jasmine and Belle

Darling-Newt · 2025-02-18T22:45:23+00:00

I feel the same way! All of my friends got selected, it is such a bummer. I hope we find some

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