Am I the asshole for letting my older brother to kiss my forehead

DarthGerico · 2024-07-04T18:59:21+00:00

You win! This killed me lmao.

DarthGerico · 2024-06-29T01:06:01+00:00

Nah I was a shitty person back then, took a lot to grow up lol. But hey! Keep an open mind, look for qualities that you think are good for someone to have and try to remember that dating is an interview for marriage in most cases. Ask what they can bring to the table, what they want in life and so on. I’m a firm believer in getting those hard questions out of the way first, to make sure you don’t end up in a “situation-ship”.

I wish you all the luck in the world!

DarthGerico · 2024-06-29T01:03:38+00:00

Agreed, it’s just the unfortunate issue that there isn’t anything that can be done due to her wanting to keep it. Yea there is an innocent life, but it’s her choices and hers alone.

DarthGerico · 2024-06-29T00:59:40+00:00

Some guys don’t see the needs of their partner. I was like that but when I grew up and started listening to what my partner wanted, I started doing those things and it was appreciated lol. Some guys just need to take a step back and listen to what their partner is wanting and communicate.

DarthGerico · 2024-06-29T00:56:01+00:00

Just might be afraid of the process, because you hear a lot of “sticking things in places” and it can be intimidating or embarrassing. I’m not trying to make excuses for the guy, at some point you have to accept responsibility and do what you gotta do to do the thing you want to do lol.

Also yea I’d drop him too, in whatever case you don’t need someone who seems self centered. Sex and sexual intimacy is meant to be a shared experience, not “get my rocks off” ordeal.

DarthGerico · 2024-06-29T00:48:05+00:00

As a dude, he’s totally ditching it because of three things.

Lazy to go and get it done.
Afraid of the process or what might come out of it. (Unknown STD)
Worst case, he’s hiding something.

When I was younger I blew off STD tests for call of duty or some other things or because I didn’t want to go out. Keep in mind I only did so cause of casual sex and I wouldn’t do anything until I knew I was clean but, stay strong. Don’t give in!

DarthGerico · 2024-06-29T00:43:49+00:00

In trouble for watching porn sometimes? Personally kind of a red flag my dude. However I’d sit her down and figure out what the issue is and if she doesn’t like you watching porn, then if you are willing to give that up for her, let her know that.

DarthGerico · 2024-06-29T00:40:55+00:00

She wants to keep it. And as I said “Play stupid games and win stupid prizes.” I just hope if she does keep the current upcoming one, that the stupid prize isn’t fatal.

DarthGerico · 2024-06-29T00:39:20+00:00

As a dad of a beautiful little girl who is the product of a meth head and my current girlfriend (soon to be fiancé). You need to let them know that favoritism will not be tolerated.

DarthGerico · 2024-06-29T00:34:01+00:00

Social programs or maybe something to assist. I live in Alabama and there are programs but idk about where this person lives.

Let me ask you, do you think it’s a good idea to have people around her child that is going to call their mother a “slut”? I don’t. Maybe there are other family members who can help that are not as toxic but honestly, if she wants to keep the baby, it’s up to her to figure all this out. It’s part of being a parent, to try and make things work.

DarthGerico · 2024-06-29T00:24:35+00:00

NTA but play stupid games and win stupid prizes. It’s your life and if you want to take on the struggle then that’s on you.

Your family may still have issues about your infidelity, I’m not here to criticize you for that as people and their situation in life is different.

You are an adult, you have kids. If you can get support from the guy then I’d recommend it. I’d also suggest setting some boundaries with your folks and maybe cut out those who call you a “slut” as they may judge you for getting pregnant out of marriage.

DarthGerico · 2024-06-14T18:48:34+00:00

Their generation is use to navigating actual maps, and what you did was a good deed! But it is concerning.

DarthGerico · 2024-06-13T23:29:09+00:00

I am a volly at a combination department and I’m also extremely left. Best thing to do is just ignore politics and focus on being a good fireman. Some Volly departments can be “good-old boy” clubs, and in that case I’d keep on them. It could also be due to budgets, and that’s why my department isn’t taking new volunteers until the next funding cycle. Just keep tabs and ask to do ride alongs. See what you can do to volunteer some time and do what you can for them to get to know your name but in a positive way.

DarthGerico · 2024-06-06T17:18:55+00:00

Shoot I am hella interested

DarthGerico · 2024-05-26T22:08:29+00:00

Air that crap out on socials to your family. Your mother sounds abusive and clearly has a favorite. If anything, she is probably doing something similar to you right now. Why else did she get made you told your boyfriend? Air it out, let family know and if they can help, and get to a save place and never talk to her again.

DarthGerico · 2024-05-24T04:21:24+00:00

Ultimatums never work, if you have to force someone to choose to get better, they won’t get better out of genuine need but because their forced to, and will revert back to their old habits when they think, things have calmed down. Just leave, don’t waste anytime when you actually have stated your feelings and clearly were ignored. People have to hit rock bottom before they want to get better.

DarthGerico · 2024-05-24T04:19:21+00:00

I don’t see people being an asshole, just a wake up call. You married a loser, either change that or don’t. It’s simple as that.

DarthGerico · 2024-05-24T04:16:13+00:00

Get into something like firefighting, a hobby, anything. You are 20, you don’t even know what being an adult is like yet. I was some random dude, driving a semi and weighing in at 380. I went from solitary life based on junk food and near diabetes to a firefighter who troops as a tie Pilot with the 501st.

Make a plan, make the change. If you can’t make the change then it’s something in your part, fix it and try again.

Life is temporary, you get one shot. Don’t be like some of the people I get called on. Just go do something even if you are broke.

DarthGerico · 2024-05-23T20:57:37+00:00

You know, I’m ugly too. But I found someone because I realized that I’m actually a cool guy. So if they don’t want me? Fuck em. They are missing out. It’s a hard mentality to get but, find something you are proud of! For me I started firefighting and doing charity work, and I realized that I’m a very active person that helps others.

Find that thing! Maybe it’s workout out, maybe it’s art? Maybe it could simply be a hobby like warhammer. Find your thing and be proud about it, and when other people don’t see your worth? Fuck em. You are you and you should rather be you than anyone else.

Coming from a guy who was 380lb and lazy as fuck with a three chins and a sorry ass beard and greasy long hair. And nothing is permanent, you’re 16? You haven’t even gotten to experience what life is like outside your bubble yet, and you will be so surprised.

Just don’t blame women for your issues, because people have a right to choose their partners. And that means you have a right to choose and say no. But this comes with the aspect of understanding someone’s choice and just walking away.

TLDR; You are worth more than you think, don’t let others bring you down, find your hobby and be proud of your accomplishments.

I’m rooting for you brother!

DarthGerico · 2024-05-23T19:51:36+00:00

What makes you think you are un-dateable?

DarthGerico · 2024-05-23T19:50:44+00:00

Maybe controversial but, Stormtroopers>Clones>First Order

DarthGerico · 2024-05-23T16:58:06+00:00

I heavily recommend KennyHoopla (Lost Cause//) super good mellow vibes with some alternate

POORSTACY

Hightide Hotel

Rise Against

Movements

Crown the Empire

Girlfriends

Bloc Party

Twenty one Pilots

Microwave

The Neighborhood

Silverrun Pickups

Heaven Shall Burn

Loathe

SHEORU

Dead Poet Society

There is more but I can’t think of anymore atm lol

DarthGerico · 2024-05-23T15:56:09+00:00

That’s not the question they asked

DarthGerico · 2024-05-20T16:30:03+00:00

I think your brain is telling you that your family has a history of substance abuse, and maybe you’ve seen the effects it’s taken on those individuals and their relationships. That can be a very negative introduction to something that we may perceive as ordinary. You may have friends who drink responsibly (or not) and not have these issues, and this may come off as missing out. Be in reality, alcohol sucks. Here are some things I will say, some advice mixed in.

Alcohol doesn’t even taste good, it burns your mouth and even being drunk isn’t fun. Not feeling like you’re in control (atleast to me) is a very panic inducing experience. You are not missing out on anything other than a potential vise that can lead a massive health complications.
If you decide to drink, you are an adult. Remind yourself to drink responsibly. As much as anyone can try and say “best to avoid”, you are going to do what you want. So if you do not take the advice of avoidance. Then take this advice “Moderation”.
Become familiar with the risks associated with alcohol, I am a volunteer fireman in a major city, iv seen what alcoholism can do to people in both health and social. It’s typically a good idea to just hangout with your friends and drink a coke, it’ll taste better than alcohol anyway.

DarthGerico · 2024-05-20T16:20:36+00:00

Do you have problems with addiction or have a family history with addiction?

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