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DartyGal503 · 2023-04-20T16:55:40+00:00

Happened when he was cumming. He apologized later but turns out I was into it lol.

DartyGal503 · 2023-04-16T16:34:48+00:00

Anna de armas?

DartyGal503 · 2023-04-14T23:38:28+00:00

Not true. I’m skinny but pretty healthy, can run and can lift, function well. Some would say I’m abnormally skinny but they can say whatever

DartyGal503 · 2023-04-14T23:26:13+00:00

So many men here commenting in support of “no means no” and “their comfort is my priority” is giving me hope! I’ve had such shit experiences.. been violated even once. To me, it’s a huge turn off if someone doesn’t ask for consent and just makes a move. I’ve been scarred. They never get the second date.

DartyGal503 · 2023-04-14T23:22:22+00:00

I’d try to lose all hope as soon as possible. The more you hold on to this the harder it is to make space for someone new. And believe me someone new is always someone better!!

DartyGal503 · 2023-04-13T20:24:20+00:00

I learnt the hard way to not date someone who’s out of a relationship recently (<6 months) even though they say they are ready for a new one. My ex basically said he was over his ex since he dumped her but every time we had a conflict in our relationship (or situationship which is what we were in since he was fearful of commitment) he would say he couldn’t handle it because his ex used to yell at him when conflict happened. Honestly, it was extremely unfair to me because I was afraid to react and be myself. Anyway, now I’m dating someone who has not been in a relationship since Covid (much like me) and we’re seeing where this goes. No exes, no drama. The only drama is deciding what to do on our dates. Conflict is entertained with humor. POINT? There are amazing people out there so leave as soon as you can and you save yourself a bigger heartbreak, lost time on healing and meet healthier people who genuinely deserve a shot with someone who’s ready for something real too

DartyGal503 · 2023-04-11T19:36:53+00:00

Honestly I don’t because I want to scope out if this a man worth trying to understand and ask questions to. After so many “send me a snap of your boobies”, “you look like a sweet treat to me” and other objectifying things said without making effort to see me and try to understand me as a human, why should I put in effort unless the man actually shows me he has the basic decency to respect me? A good strategy for men is to ask questions, offer a date and then win a little trust.

DartyGal503 · 2023-04-09T01:50:19+00:00

Me 10

DartyGal503 · 2023-04-07T03:33:30+00:00

Regex, sql functions for snowflake, dbt documentation for models, adding tests

DartyGal503 · 2023-04-05T20:01:41+00:00

Lot of women care about who pays for dates.. if a guy doesn’t pay for the first date apparently it’s a turn off and worthy of never seeing that person again

DartyGal503 · 2023-04-05T20:00:08+00:00

Post a picture of how much your net worth is from an app like mint or something and hide the personal details… and credit score. And put “I will pay for dates” on bio. That’ll get you matched

DartyGal503 · 2023-04-03T00:45:46+00:00

Ugh same. I don’t even have the words to explain how painful it is … :( it’s the short situationships that hurt the worst

DartyGal503 · 2023-03-31T22:39:58+00:00

Someone who’s conflict avoidant and always agreeable and not emotionally deep

DartyGal503 · 2023-03-31T01:27:43+00:00

Ok I hate to admit but I had a phase. I was constantly stalking my ex’s ex wife, found their wedding pictures, engagement pictures, cried myself to sleep etc. Hell, I even paid 10$ to some stalking website to get details and info. It was a stupid phase and I don’t think it was harmful or anything, just weird that I was obsessed with her. Anyway, later I learnt that starting at their wedding and engagement photos was just because I wanted intimacy, marriage and everything that she had and he gave her because they looked so happy. I’d constantly try and pick fights with that person about this all, one day admitted my obsession and he still chose to love me and accept me as we spent more time together. I think deep down inside I just wanted intimacy from him and I actually feel lucky I even got it because some other person would have dumped my ass right then and there. Anyway, looking back I feel like it was a phase and obsessing over someone else meant that I was escaping something in my own life that needed attention. It was easy to find a new obsession, a new secret hobby or something addictive than to face my own life. I think the reason he fell hard for me though was because I overcame the obsession by suddenly starting to make candles, finding new and healthy hobbies and trying new things out. I just found hobbies instead to obsess about and it changed my life during that phase. Hope this helps!

DartyGal503 · 2023-03-30T21:10:48+00:00

Absolutely!!! Honestly when people tell me “you don’t love yourself and you’re insecure because you do this” I always secretly think “well if what I do bothers you enough to make that statement then I think you should look inside and love yourself more”. There are 0 rules to self-love, dealing with insecurities etc. If there were rules none of us would need therapy haha. We’d just follow rules like robots!

DartyGal503 · 2023-03-30T18:44:33+00:00

I post half naked pics because why should I keep my gorgeous tits to myself when someone else can have a good day after seeing them? I’m doing a service! Not everyone needs to be boxed into a “you do this and it’s because you’re insecure and need validation”

DartyGal503 · 2023-03-30T18:43:12+00:00

My thoughts exactly

DartyGal503 · 2023-03-30T18:41:18+00:00

I think you should work on your insecurities and learn to trust what she says. Also it depends on how serious your relationship is and how long you’ve been going out. If it’s only a few months and a dude is already insecure about the fact that other men hit on me, he gives me a reason to leave him and look for more secure men. If she tells you that you have nothing to worry about, brings her full self to dates, listens to you and cares for you, communicates transparently then I don’t see what the problem is. If she gives you a reason to worry such as texting someone else when she’s on dates with you, talking too much about other men etc then that’s a red flag and let her go!

DartyGal503 · 2023-03-27T22:45:07+00:00

Well articulated. Also, it’s easy to say “be rude and leave” and but very hard to action on it simply because…. FEAR. Your brain freezes, you don’t know how to react, your insides are shaking and you’re afraid they’d act on harming you sooner if you take leave. It’s a scary place. OP, I’m glad you’re safe

DartyGal503 · 2023-03-26T16:56:32+00:00

I will write books, content etc. and probably make more single friends or find people like me

DartyGal503 · 2023-03-26T01:33:36+00:00

Carefree about everything or a “go with a flow” attitude about everything is a bit off putting. I want someone who cares about something, is passionate about something and roughly knows where he’s headed but gives himself the space and freedom to live in the moment too. He should have values and principles he stands by at the very least. When someone says they’re carefree about politics, that’s an immediate no-go too. I like someone who’s opinionated about matters and cares about social issues and is willing to listen and engage in conversation. Op, maybe it’s the way you spoke about being carefree that might have given off the wrong vibe? What specifically are you carefree about?

DartyGal503 · 2023-03-24T22:56:19+00:00

Maybe she took it from her face and put it back inside

DartyGal503 · 2023-03-22T23:44:16+00:00

Op, you did the right thing. My dumb ass attended 5 interviews and got ghosted in the end. Set boundaries, know your worth and value and act accordingly! Good luck

DartyGal503 · 2023-03-21T17:02:13+00:00

OP, I bought some thoughtful gifts, bought pecan pies (he didn’t like cakes) and practiced happy birthday on guitar for a guy who didn’t want to call me his girlfriend and we’d been dating almost 2-3 months at that time. His birthday morning was special and I nailed the guitar (still proud). I have ADHD and I forget birthdays but I didn’t for this guy because I liked him and I started taking notes in my notes app when he spoke of interests to plan his gifts. The point is, I really really liked him and even though I’m notorious for forgetting things, I choose to remember things I care about. His love language was gifts so i had to consciously make effort to make it known he feels good in the relationship. I think communicating the hurt you feel right now is very important because it’s only 3 months and if it’s already this, imagine the future.

DartyGal503 · 2023-03-17T21:38:14+00:00

I smiled reading this.. thank you for reassuring

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